No bedtime routine whatsoever :(

Sweets2005 · February 2011

DD2 has absolutely NO bedtime routine- like none. And I hate it! I need to start one but I work 4p-7p so the evenings are really hectic just getting the twins to bed that I get lazy with DD2. We just change her and let her sleep in the swing in the living room until we go to bed. She doesn't go down very easily so that is why we just let her go in the swing because otherwise I would be upstairs for ages trying to get her down- and I still have to fit in my own shower and dinner in there, too. Oh and she sleeps in our room (in a co-sleeper for now) because the twins each have the other 2 bedrooms (they wake eachother if they are together) and there is no monitor in there since we already have 2 going in the house that sometimes interfere with eachother. Ugh, sorry this is more of a vent than a question but I just feel so guilty for not having a real routine for her when the twins had/have a great one. Sigh....

Shamlet123 · February 2011

Try not to beat yourself up, one is hard enough. And you have 3 under 2yrs! That's insanity. I'd just be proud of myself if they were all fed and clean!

Sweets2005 · February 2011

omg it is *such* insanity!

I do know that one day soon I will need to start giving her a real routine and putting her down in her own crib or she really won't sleep. I don't even know how I will go about doing that or where she will even sleep.

Sweets2005 · February 2011

That's true, Beanie. I just need to worry about now I guess.

JoannaJes · February 2011

Oh lord. I'm struggling getting a routine going for DD, and I only have two! I can't imagine three. I think you are doing the best you can, and shouldn't be so hard on yourself.

Shamlet123 · February 2011

Sweets2005:
omg it is *such* insanity!

I do know that one day soon I will need to start giving her a real routine and putting her down in her own crib or she really won't sleep. I don't even know how I will go about doing that or where she will even sleep.

Hmmm, yeah I've heard that a lot that people get stuck in bad habits and then have such a hard time breaking them. Maybe when you're ready I would start putting her in a bassinet or something that isn't moving in the LR with you and then gradually move it closer to her room.

I guess she fights sleep? That would be hard if you're running up and down the stairs all night. First thing I think is get her used to sleeping without swinging, JMO.

But only when you're ready, don't stress over it. Smile

Sweets2005 · February 2011

That's a great idea, her PNP is right next to the swing so we should try that.

Thank you for the encouraging words, everyone!!!

angelame1979 · February 2011

Beanie_mrt:
There's no rule that says her bedtime routine has to be a bath and a story and a snuggle, at 7 PM!
Why not spend a few minutes cuddling with her before you go to bed? Maybe sneak in a story or a special song?
Like the PP said, if she's fed and happy in her swing, let that be enough for now.

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You don't work until 4 so it's not like you have to be in bed by 10. I say you come home and play with her for an hour or so and maybe try to reach a plan that she be sleeping by 9 or so or whatever time you think you would like. Since you work later and are home later I don't see the problem with her having a later bedtime since she will get to sleep later....that way you can have some cuddle time with her. You will figure it out eventually. Just think of a goal and work towards it little by little.

Sweets2005 · February 2011

angelame1979:
Beanie_mrt:
There's no rule that says her bedtime routine has to be a bath and a story and a snuggle, at 7 PM!
Why not spend a few minutes cuddling with her before you go to bed? Maybe sneak in a story or a special song?
Like the PP said, if she's fed and happy in her swing, let that be enough for now.

This
You don't work until 4 so it's not like you have to be in bed by 10. I say you come home and play with her for an hour or so and maybe try to reach a plan that she be sleeping by 9 or so or whatever time you think you would like. Since you work later and are home later I don't see the problem with her having a later bedtime since she will get to sleep later....that way you can have some cuddle time with her. You will figure it out eventually. Just think of a goal and work towards it little by little.

Yea but the babies are all up by 7am, when the *real* work begins! My "job" out of the home is my ME time, LOL!

Dcubed · February 2011

I was just thinking the same thing about DD2. I get the other two showered and in bed and read to them but don't do anything special for DD2 bedtime. She falls asleep when she's ready to fall asleep rather than a specific time. But if she is awake I try to have her in the room with me when I am reading bedtime stories to the others so I guess she is getting reading time (unless daddy is spending daddy time with her). DD2 is also still in our room with us so I think that makes it more difficult for me to get into the routine. I think when she is sleeping better through the night I will move her to her room and get that 'routine' going.

Twins that are 1.5 and a baby means you are a brave woman and if they are all alive, fed, and in a bed (really any bed ) before 10 you are doing something right )

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