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TTC After a Loss
KaitySueWho
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A whole mess of things (baby mentioned)
KaitySueWho
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Ladies I need your support.. I haven't been around much lately.. I am going through some marital problems.. I don't want to get into it but I just need your T & Ps that we work things out.
FH-IL was induced today, she hasn't had him yet but it's bound to happen soon.. and AF showed her ugly face today..
Right now I am sitting here.. tears running down my face in my husband's shirt that I put deoderant and his colonge cause it's the closest I can get to smelling him right now.. He left right after I got home to go hang out with his uncle so that we can have some time alone to think.. We are an indefinite TTC break but I hope you all will still let me post here from time to time.. Yall are as close to friends I have.. I found out today after some things went down this morning how few friends I really have.. as a matter of fact the only person who actually talked to me and helped calm me down was Julie (bananarama91).
I know this is long.. I'm sorry for the rant.. I just didn't know who else to turn to and given my background of depression and suicidal thoughts it's not a good thing for me to be alone by myself with thoughts like these..
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Re: A whole mess of things (baby mentioned)
((Lots and Lots of Hugs)) I'm so sorry you're going through so much. As many T&P's as you need that things work out in your favor.
i went through the same thing last week w/ my DH. you're both stressed out and emotional. as much as it hurts to be away from him, it might be good for you to have some time apart. even if its just a few hours.
i know it doesn't seem like a good idea now, but guys sometimes just need the time away.
i hope things get better and you work through this.
we are always here for you! ((hugs))
((Big hugs)) I know you don't want to disclose too much so I'll just tell you that I think TTC (especially after a loss) can really take a toll on a marriage. If you and your DH are trying to work things out, I hope you're both able to get to place of mutual support and understanding. I'm so sorry you have to deal with AF on top of your FH step-MIL being induced. ((extra hugs)) Don't forget we're here for you.
Dx with Antiphospholipid Antibody Syndrome (APS)
BFP #4 5/14/12
5/17/12...1st Betas- 176, P4 3.6
5/22/12...2nd Betas- 207, P4 6.1 (MC confirmed)
Oh Angeleyes, I am so sorry you are going through all of this. I will definitely have you in my t&p's that you and your DH can work through this. You are more than welcome to stay on here. You have been so supportive to us all and we would like to return the favor. Huge squishy hugs to you!!!!
DD#1 9-4-04 *** DD#2 10-15-07
BFP#3 10-25-10 *EDD 7/1/11 * missed m/c @ 13w3d
BFP#4 7-30-11 *EDD 4/8/12 ~ DD#3 born 4/4/12
PGAL/PAL welcome
BFP #2 9.12.12, EDD 5.24.13, Baby Boy Born 5.15.13!!
My Ovulation Chart
3 Clomid (100mg) cycles + TI + Trigger = BFN's, Femara + Trigger + IUI#1 = BFN
Femara + Trigger + IUI#2 = BFP!
"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indomitable will." ~Gandhi
Thanks ladies.. it means so much to me that you women are willing to support me through my tough times... without you ladies I don't know what or where I'd be right now.. I'm terrified.. scared.. and on the edge of being heartbroken.. and while I have felt this way about TTC the past 6 months this is so much different..
Edit: ha looking at my siggy I never realized how true the quote is in it..
So sorry to hear you're going through a rough patch. Sending you huge hugs and seriously if you ever need anyone to talk to you can PM me. I know I don't even know you but I can always offer up support.
Hope things start to look up soon.
2 Angel Babies
Balanced Translocation (7,9)
August 2010 - Met with RE. HSG - all clear. 2 weeks later - BFP #1
9.25.10 - Natural m/c at 6.5W
November 2010 - Clomid + IUI - BFP #2
12.17.10 - d&c at 8W
Feb 2011 - Clomid + IUI. 2.14.11- BFP #3! Hoping third times the charm!
::giving you a big ginormous, squishy hug::
I'm so sorry you are going through all of this. Sometimes it seems like the stupid universe hands everything to us all at once. And it's not fair. I have days where it feels I have absolutely not friends IRL who understand me and I can talk to. Always know you can come on here to find support.
I hope this hard time passes very quickly, you deserve good things from here on out.
BFP#1: 7/23/10, EDD 4/1/11, MC/DNC 9/29/10(14wks)
BFP#2: 1/12/11 CP (6 Weeks)
BFP#3: 6/26/11, EDD 3/4/12, Natural MC 8/5/11 (10wks)
You are not alone I know my Dh and I have argued more at times since the loss. I am so sorry you guys are having problems. Huge Hugs
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~Siggy Warning~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
The Daily Nugget
Cycle 12, IUI #1 - 33m post wash 10/15/10 = BFN
Cycle 13, IUI #2 - 15m post wash 11/16/10 = BFP, missed m/c, D&C 1/3/11
Cycle 15 - 18, IUI #3-6 = BFN
Cycle 20, IUI #7 = BFP!, missed m/c 9/14, D&C
DE-IVF Aug. 2012: ER 8/30 11R, 7M, 4F; ET 9/4 returned 2
Beta 9/18 #1-820, #2-1699, #3-7124
10/1 1st u/s measuring right on track, 125 bpm
Oh gosh, I am so sorry these things are going on. I hope things change soon and that you and your husband can talk more in the morning light.
(((hugs)))
BFP #1 6.17.10 - natural M/C 5w2d
BFP #2 8.4.10 - missed M/C, D&C 8w
BFP #3 1.18.11 - natural M/C 5w1d
BFP #4 5.6.11 - 13dpo: hcg 68, p 16.3; 16dpo: hcg 211,
p16.6; 18dpo: hcg 416, p 15.6; 25dpo: hcg 6,007
DS born 1/30/12
BFP #5 4.28.13 - LO due 1/4/14
"'My thoughts are nothing like your thoughts,' says the Lord. 'And my ways are far beyond anything you could imagine. For just as the heavens are higher than the earth, so my ways are higher than your ways and my thoughts higher than your thoughts.'" Isaiah 55:8-9
BFP #1 7/4/2010--Natural M/C 8/4/2010
BFP #2 4/25/2011 Please stick, baby!! EDD 1/1/2012
Forever Buddy to carrieandtim
Jenn
IVF#1 BFN IVF#2 BFP, loss at 19 weeks FET#1 BFN IVF#3 BFP, m/c FET#2 BFN
Missing our twins Zachary and Madison, lost at 19 weeks on 11/13/09, edd 4/9/10
BFP 7/17/10, m/c 7/25/10, edd 3/25/11
Ectopic, lost left tube 4/20/11, edd 12/6/11
my blog
Please know that you have a HUGE community here that is routing for you. Maybe a TTCAL break is just what you need. I'm sending tons of T&P that a little time is all you and your DH need to mend things. Was there a time before TTC when things were better? Can you both reflect on that time and the things that brought you together during it?
I'm so worried about you, so please keep us posted. Stay safe. (((((HUGS)))))))
BFP#2 3/16/11, beta 138; 4/12 Baby/HB DS born 9/10/11 at 29w4d due to partial abruption and PTL
BFP#3 8/19/13 Another boy! 17P, modified bedrest and Nifedipine helped us have a termie! DS2 born 4/19/14 at 38w5d.