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August 2011 Moms
chillyupnorth
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Come in if your Mom/MIL is a maniac! :)
chillyupnorth
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Anyone have crazy Mom/MIL stories to share, to remind the rest of us that it could be worse??
Let me start by saying that I love my MIL to death, but she is definitely set in her ways, and Lord help her she is a whack-job sometimes. I told her that I plan on using cloth diapers, BFing/pumping as long as I can, and making my own baby food, because those are things that I feel strongly about and that our daycare provider is more than happy to work with (our daycare provider said she will provide homemade baby food - how awesome is that?!?!?). Her reaction was "WELL, when they're at my house they will wear disposables. And I'm already stocking up on formula and baby food coupons." I'm torn between taking things over to her house, and just being happy that she will keep them dry & fed!
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Re: Come in if your Mom/MIL is a maniac! :)
Pssh, you better tell her nu-uh!
My husband is 30 years old. My MIL wants to give us his crib, playpen and highchair. Does she want our child to die in those deathtraps?! Not to mention she is not a cleanly person so they have been sitting in a stuffy attic covered in crap (she's a hoarder) for almost 30 years!
I think you could compromise here. I see her point about wanting disposable diapers while your child is at her house. Perhaps you could cave on that issue and keep the baby in cloth diapers except at your MIL's.
However, I would not cave on the food issue. What your baby eats is your decision, and if you don't want to formula feed, perhaps you can just tell your MIL that you will provide food for your child when he/she is at her house. You can take bottled breast milk as well as your home made baby food over. That way all she has to do is prepare what you've already brought.
When I told my Mom I was pregnant her first question was "How is Zach (the dog) taking the news?" Really? That's what you say when you find out you are finally getting the first grandchild you have been hounding me and my sister for? And you know the dog can't speak english, right?!
When I had my m/c again her first question was "How is Zach handing the loss?" So I guess I shouldn't have been shocked this time around but still.... it upset me when she said that, big time. Not really the comforting words I was looking for from my mother.
MIL is just nuts... I could write a novel on the craziness she pulled for our wedding. I'm scared to see what a grandchild is going to bring out of her!! We just told her last night and I was tired to H lied that I was on the phone so I didn't have to talk to her. hehehe! I'm sure she will be calling me soon to tell me all the things I MUST do.
My MIL to be (Wedding on 2/18/11) is INSANE!!! This is her first grandchild, and she is (supposed) to be moving out of town.. she came & stayed here for a week.. worst week of my life, all she did was argue with us & cry.. and call her friends at 2 AM to complain about "how bad we were being to her".. she had my fiance help her pack everything she owned into storage a week before & I told her, we didn't have much to give her but we could offer her a place to stay & some gas $ to leave. She's still in town somewhere, thankfully not under our roof. I was DYING for her to leave.. she constantly gets herself into crazy messes with renting apartments & has to bail, plus she doesn't see any harm in the fact that she used to make nearly 10K a month (in 2010)& hasn't made a car payment in months.. and can't afford her own place to stay.. but sends her daughter (fiance's younger sis, my age) thousands of dollars a month, while needing to sleep on my couch..
Now she's forwarded her mail here.. without asking us..
Totally weird.
She brings really weird food over here that neither of us will eat that usually smells really strange.. pretty rude when I'm pregnant & everything is sensory assault to me.. but she won't let us turn stuff down, so we have to just dispose of it when she leaves. She kept shouting that she knew I was pregnant from our Christmas pictures (which were taken in early Nov, prior to conception) because I "looked pregnant in the face". I'm plus-sized. the pics were literally weeks before conception.. And then, she "dreamt it was twins" and swore that they'll find two soon on my ultrasounds (2 u/s later, only one bun has been seen, she still swears..) Also, she's mentally unstable & has a seizure disorder where she shouldn't be driving.. but she does, against medical advice (not to mention the law).
I pray she'll move. I can't let our baby be around her until she gets herself under control!!
This totally just reminded me of warning our wedding photographer via an email that MIL is controlling and maybe be ordering her around and if that happens let H know right away and we will take care of it and not to feel bad about bringing it up. Fast forward 3 months to the link for our photo's being sent back in that same email. H goes and forwards that email to his parents. Thankfully I noticed and we called them up and said that link was wrong and use the NEW link in the NEW email and to just delete the old email. Oops!
In case his parents saw lower down in the email and called H about it I told him to tell them we were TTGP right away as a distractio - luckily they never looked. LOL
LOL wow flash backs to September are totally happening for me right now!!
yes so i saw this subject and couldn't help but to click as fast as possible on this post! I love MIL drama! Well I don't love it because lord knows i have it, but I love hearing i'm not the only one.
I have a PASSIVE AGRESSIVE MIL - She made the wedding experience horrible for us. Literally made me cry on my wedding day and (up until this pregnancy I wasn't much of a cryer).
I know she loves her son and me (i think?) but she does weird $hit!
She told me the other day that she would be spanking my children when they are at her house if they get out of line, despite whatever my opinion is on discipline.
We do not have children so the idea of smacking anyone shouldn't even be a coversation to be had yet. It's not like she is going to smack an infant. (If she does then god help her) But really? Is that necessary at this stage in the game?
Hang in there - the saying you married him and not his mom is TRUE, SORTA. The fact it for the most part they are in your life forever. But your wishes should be honored, she had her children and obviously raised a good one. (Or we wouldn't have wound up with them) BUT its OUR time now to be mothers!!!!
GOOD LUCK!!!
Um, my MIL could care less about this baby. Has not once asked me how I'm feeling. After 8 weeks of constant vomiting, I'm finally able to eat again and had a bite of my husband's doughnut the other day - she walked in and says "doughnuts, huh? Might as well as you're going to get super fat anyways". I'm a size 6 by the way, at 5'8". She's about 65 lbs overweight.
Oh, and then she said when we visit after the baby's born, she'd be happy to babysit if we wanted to go out if we paid her by the hour. Really? To watch your GRANDCHILD? My mother is doing two days a week for free when I go back to work to save us money on daycare!
And did I mention that my MIL rents a house from us? Yes, that's right. She pays us a minimal rent to live in one of our investment properties. And she didn't bother to clear the snow from the decks or lay salt in the driveway (after our plow contractor plowed the whole thing out on our dime). So my husband and I spent our whole Sunday shoveling a large deck of 3 feet of snow, and chipping 3 inches of ice out of the driveway while she sat on her fat a$$ and watched tv inside. And did I mention that I'm 3 months pregnant and doing this?
Oh MIL's, how you got to love them.
When my SIL was in labor my MIL acctually pushed the Dr. out of the way so she could catch the baby ( she said she thought he was going to drop him, yes because after 20+ years of doing this, the Dr. is really going to drop the baby). Needless to say, she will not be joining me in the L&D room. Also whenever we go to her place she will ask me how I am about every 5 minutes. "Yes Laura, I am fine, you just asked me at the last commercial break, nothing has changed"
Good times.
Here's my favorite comment from my MIL:
*quick backstory* DS was born w/ a birth defect called an imperforated anus--basically, his rectum was WAY too small (his poop was the thickness of a spaghetti noodle) and so he had to have surgery at 4 months old to correct it. The GI specialist at the time said there was a "theory" that women who drink out of plastic water bottles while pregnant are what cause this defect. i drank several bottles of water a day while pregnant. SO--when I told MIL over our xmas visit that I was pg, she said "congrats" and then: "So are you going to not drink out of water bottles this time?" ::headdesk::
I really love my MIL and she is generally great, but this one is pretty funny:
Throughout the whole first tri, all I wanted was fresh fruit 24/7 - it was my biggest craving. I'm on the phone with my MIL, talking about my most recent doctor's appointment and how I've lost weight and the doctor is telling me to start trying to gain. So we get to chatting about other stuff, and I mention that cherries were on sale at our grocery store, and I've already eaten 2 pounds worth this week and will probably go back for a third. She then says, and I quote: "Careful! Fruit has a lot of calories, you can't just eat as much as you want. Of course, I never had this problem because when I was pregnant I craved lean protein and vegetables."
Right. Lean protein and vegetables was what helped her gain a "healthy" 70 lbs when she was pregnant with MH. It could not have been her well-documented pregnancy addiction to Kentucky Fried Chicken.
I think I'll eat all the fruit I want, thank you very much.
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DS1 born 08.02.11
DS2 born 12.05.13