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SO MAD AT MOM AND SISTER...venting

BritClenBritClen member
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I don?t know if I am just being hormonal or if I have aright to be bothered.. but today I got a call from my sister, who just told everyoneshe is getting married September 4 in Vegas?we all knew this was coming?fine,and I was excited for her and was going to do everything in my power to makeit?but I get a call today from her telling me that Vegas is off and they areflying to Italy in May to get married.. Which so happens that my mom is goingto Italy in May for work?so?ya! I cant go..there is no way I can afford Italy!But than my sister goes..? are you going to have a baby?? I was like, ?why? Whosaid that to you?? I haven?t told anyone..than she goes well??your going tohave a baby this year right?? and I said, ?well maybe, who is telling you this??she would say..which points the finger at my mom?.she is so two faces and Iknow how things went?.my mom said she wish my sister wouldn?t get married inVegas bc it was trashy?OOKK?...so I know she called her and said ?well I?mgoing to Italy in May you guys could get married there, plus your sister toldme they are trying to have anther baby and she cant afford to go to Vegasanyways?

So here I am bumped out of my sisters wedding and get the..?yourpregnant in my face??I was going to tell my family next week that I was pregnantbut know I am so mad that  I don?t everwant to tell them.

And trust me I know my mom said this?I know her so well?andwhen I called her she said some crap like.. ?oh you know she changes her mindall the time?I doubt it sticks?? but the truth is my mom pushes us intoeverything than puts my sister and I against each other and lies about what shesays to the other?she has been doing it since I was a kid!!!! 

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  • NurseLaLaNurseLaLa member

    I'd take it as a blessing. Tell your sister you want lots of pictures and -- in your head -- thank her for saving you a few hundred or thousands of dollars! :P

     Ask her if you can throw her a bridal shower since you won't be able to make it to her wedding.  

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    I'd take it as a blessing. Tell your sister you want lots of pictures and -- in your head -- thank her for saving you a few hundred or thousands of dollars! :P

     Ask her if you can throw her a bridal shower since you won't be able to make it to her wedding.  

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     I agree. I have a ton experience with the whole Mother thing. Always take the higher road. Kill them with kindness :-) Even though you want to scream. Hang in there.

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  • MarxieVonTrappMarxieVonTrapp member

    Ugh, I am so sorry.  I have two sisters and my mom always used to push us against each other.  While I know that right now you're just upset about the Italy/pregnancy thing, for the future it might help to keep your mom out of the loop and talk to your sister rather than tell your mom anything.  It helps out so much.

     

     

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  • EllaAdamEllaAdam member
    I'm so sorry hun! I have a younger sister who is very much like yours and my mom used to pit us against eachother up until a big blowout last August where I just let into my mom and called her out on it in front of everyone. After a sit down with my mom and dad, they realized what crap was happening and how much my sister was doing behind their back and then turning it onto me and they were believing her....let's just say it was an "ah-hah!" moment! Haven't had any problems since. My sister and I have never been close and you can somewhat feel the divide now, but I think its more that she knows she can't get away with it anymore so she doesn't even try! Sometimes you just have to take the distance as a blessing and over time, people will start to notice you taking the high road and it will pay off in the end. You have EVERY right to feel upset about this, but the great thing is -- when this baby comes, YOU will be the mom and YOU will call the shots and if they can't play nice, they won't get access..right?! When you have something they want, they will learn to play nice.
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