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Talk to me about your custody/CS arrangement

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We're meeting with a mediator to outline what we want to do for custody. We're seeking joint custody, but here's the more "official" arrangement:

STBXH would take DD to school 3 days a week, I would take her 2 days a week. I would also pick her up from school, give her dinner, and get her to bed 6 nights a week. He would have her Saturday and Saturday night, I would have her Sunday and Sunday night. STBXH is moving 3 doors down from my house, so it'll make the arrangement a little easier.

So given these plans, should I be asking for child support? What is your arrangement? Are you happy with it? 

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Re: Talk to me about your custody/CS arrangement

  • ShanJosh777ShanJosh777 member

    I don't know if this varies by state, but from what I understand, CS looks at how many overnights each parent has. So what you are describing I don't think would be considered (by the court) as joint custody.

    I don't see why you wouldn't file for CS. Even if you don't need the money, you could always put it in a savings account for your LO. If you are trying to come up with an agreement, Google a CS calculator for your state and see what it comes up with and go from there.

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  • alibabbbsalibabbbs
    If she is spending 6 overnights per week with you, he wouldn't get any parenting time credits, and he would therefore have to pay the maximum amount of child support possible. It's all about overnights. Once the father reaches 25% of overnights per month, he starts getting parenting time credits, which result in a reduction in the child support amount.
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  • achase123achase123

    I can share my custody arrangement but it's probably not going to be helpful to you because it's very different.

    XH did have professionally supervised visits for one hr/week.  He is CO to pay $595/month in CS.  Since he hasn't seen DS since June of 2010 we asked that his visitation rights be removed and we were awarded this.  So now he has zero visitation and I have full physical and legal custody.  The CS is still CO at $595/month but he has only paid $600 since May 2010 and owes back support of over $10K.

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  • Raspberry807Raspberry807 member

    we weren't married so we do not have a CO. I filed for CS through the county, and they did not take any of his parenting time into consideration when deciding the CS amount. All they care about is that I'm the custodial parent by default b/c we weren't married, so I am the CS recipient of the full amount based on our incomes.

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  • tiffyvplusmetertiffyvplusmeter

    Generally when the parents are seeking joint custody then CS isnt needed because both parents have the child an even amount of time.

    Now if you guys decided that joint custody isnt the best opition for you, then you can make an every other weekend, and four hours threw out the week kind of deal, then in that care, yes CS is should be requested.

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  • julia0402julia0402

    I am sure this varies by state, but for us, he pays me CS based on his income because I am the custodial parent-- the exact amount of visitation doesn't matter.  At least that is our understanding and it's been our arrangement so far.  Our divorce will be finalized on the 22nd so maybe the judge will change that, but I doubt it.

    As far as visitation goes, he gets every other weekend and at least one weeknight per week, up to 5 nights per every 14.  And we alternate holidays.  (That's our official agreement, anyway-- I don't think he has ever once taken that many visits, but that's not what you asked... :)

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  • Cam1027Cam1027 member
    imagetiffyvplusmeter:

    Generally when the parents are seeking joint custody then CS isnt needed because both parents have the child an even amount of time.

    Now if you guys decided that joint custody isnt the best opition for you, then you can make an every other weekend, and four hours threw out the week kind of deal, then in that care, yes CS is should be requested.

    The way I was explained this... custody and placement are two different things. My ex and I have joint custody meaning we will make "big"  decisions together. However, I have primary placement. My ex gets K every other weekend, but hasn't actually taken him yet. Technically he should owe me a little over $600 a month but I opted for $500 and he is helping me with daycare on the side. (If i could go back I would have done this differently... but i will leave it be for now) My cs was based off his salary not on time spent. (but as pp said maybe thats because he isn't close to spending 25% of the month with him...)

    best of luck to you!!

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