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Advice needed (little TMI) - long

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I need to talk to my OB about something but it almost (to me anyhow) sounds like doctor bashing (of a different doctor in her building).

My problem - I have a vaginal cyst right near the opening of my vagina? it's been there for a couple of years and due to moving and then getting pregnant, I haven't had the surgery to remove it.

The complication - I found out I was pg when I went to pre-op to have the surgery. Then the gyno said to wait until after 23 weeks to do it? but he scheduled me at 12 weeks. So I cancelled it and now I'm holding off until after she's born. (Personal decision - he seems like he's trying to push me to get it - office is calling a lot).

But - I didn't like him from the start, I pushed it down though until he scheduled me earlier than we discussed. The first time I met him and he examined me I wasn't comfortable - you don't need to go inside to find the cyst and I told him that. It kind of hurt when he did (go in to examine).

Okay! So my ultimate dilemma - I think the cyst has grown with the increased blood flow (it even hurts to wipe after I pee).

I want to talk to my OB about switching gynos and if I should have the surgery before instead of after (I'm nervous that if it gets bigger it might burst during labour). How can I say all of this without 'bashing' her colleague? Sorry this is so long! I just felt had to explain it! - maybe I'm over analyzing it, but I don't know.

TIA! 

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Re: Advice needed (little TMI) - long

  • snoopy5512snoopy5512 member

    Is your OB not a GYN as well?  Dr's are there to make you comfortable.  And I think that you might be able to say that you are revisiting the idea of having the surgery before the baby comes and want their opinion, but that you are not fully comfortable with the previous doctor and would love a recommendation.

    I know first hand what it is like to have girly surgery with someone you are not comfortable with.  And usually, the other doctors have heard people feel this way before.  My current doc had heard about my previous one.

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  • kerrbear72kerrbear72 member

    I'd flat out just say you aren't comfortable. They don't need an explanation and its highly likely they've heard it before.



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  • tlxh7tlxh7 member
    I would just be honest with your doctor and say, "I know I said I wanted to wait with the surgery until after the baby is born, but I think I've changed my mind and would like to discuss my options at this point.  I wasn't completely comfortable with Dr. X, is there someone you would recommend me seeing?"  The doctor is there for you, providing a service - you deserve the best care!
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  • 3isenough3isenough

    Sounds to me like your Gyn was wanting to schedule you to have it removed not to pressure you, rather he knew that it would be an issue during labor. He also probably did an internal exam to gauge how large the cyst really was, and if it extended into the vaginal wall.

    By all means, if you aren't comfortable with your caregiver, then you should probably switch. It doesn't really seem as though he was negligent in any way from what you've described here. Sounds like he suggested something for a good reason, and you didn't take his advice.

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  • flutepharm87flutepharm87 member
    Every woman has the right to choose who she receives care from. And you should always feel comfortable with the person who's providing your care. No matter what the reason, you shouldn't feel bad about bringing up your concerns to your OB. If she asks you why you're not discussing this with the GYN in question, tell the truth in the most professional and respectful way you can. GL and I hope you can get this little problem taken care of soon!
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  • arom729arom729 member

    I agree with each of the PP (including a probable explanation for the internal exam, etc). 

    You aren't bashing a colleague when you have issues with a doctor.  My OB is my GYN, though, so that seems weird that your OB wouldn't be qualified to do the same.  Either way, just be respectful and ask for a referral. 

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