wanted a baby...got a job. (vent)

pfritsche · February 2011

I've never been much of a career gal, and I was totally content working in daycare for most of the last six years watching other people's babies while I waited for the day to have my own.

Well, I got the go-ahead to have my own baby last summer...and nada so far. Three cycles in seven months. What a bust.

Meanwhile, I work for an HOA management company, and I got offered an amazing job opportunity. It means a big fat raise, more benefits, a useful skill I can use to market myself later on in the job market, and high(er) status around the office.

I took it, because I would really be shooting myself in the foot not to, but I still can't help but feel like...

I don't want a job, I want a BABY! Crying

I know, I know, shut up and be grateful...but still.

I'm going to stick with it and give it my all, and when/if the matter of me getting pregnant comes up, I'll do whatever needs done then. I really can't live my life based on "what if?", right?

Thanks for letting me vent, Bumpettes. Advice and thoughts are more than welcome. Smile Any gals in my situation now or were in the past?

charlsie26 · February 2011

Congrats on the job. If you do get KU...well, you still have 9 months to totaly rock the new job!

charlsie26 · February 2011

Congrats on the job. If you do get KU...well, you still have 9 months to totally rock the new job!

Harmony37 · February 2011

Totally understand! I lost my job during the recession, shortly after DH and I got married. We both really wanted kids, and we were blessed that he had and still has a really good job that is very stable. We decided for me to not work for a while so that I could help get things settled with going through all of our stuff, getting organized, getting used to married life, etc. Some people thought we were crazy because I have a 4-yr degree that's pretty valuable, but, at that point, we also knew it would just be a lot of "no's," and moving wasn't an option because of DH's job.

When things started to pick back up, we were already TTC and decided that it wasn't worth it to us for me to get a job just to leave it 9 months later because we both agree that we want me to be, at least mostly, if not completely, a SAHM. Well, it's been a while (12 cycles and over a year), and no BFP, so with the prospect of the expenses of infertility or adoption, I'm supposed to be getting started with some part time work that uses my skill set, but it's so unappealing.

That said, I've just had to come to terms with where I am now, and that I don't get to decided all of this, so I need to move on with what works for now, and if that is changed by a BFP, great, but if not, I haven't wasted a whole bunch of time sitting around waiting. Hopefully it won't be much longer for you, but if it is, at least you've got something good going with your job, it seems.

precious12 · February 2011

Congratulations on the new job!!! Look at the bright side, maybe this new job will keep your mind busy and you won't be thinking so much about getting pregnant. And when you least expect it you will get your BFP

doozer1345 · February 2011

Who gave you the "go-ahead" to have a baby???

Mrs.Slick · February 2011

doozer1345:
Who gave you the "go-ahead" to have a baby???

Yo mama.

doozer1345 · February 2011

Mrs.Slick:

doozer1345:
Who gave you the "go-ahead" to have a baby???

Yo mama.

Yo greasy granny!!!

pfritsche · February 2011

that was one reason I debated taking the job or not...it would be sooo much easier for me to leave my current position (front desk) than the new one should I become KU. BUT, whatever happens, happens, and we'll make it work!

I would LOVE to be a SAHM and DH makes enough to cover all our bills, so I'm going to be saving like a mad woman with this big ol' raise I got until I get that BFP!!!!

Thanks to all of you for your encouragement, I don't know what I'd do without this board to talk to!

pfritsche · February 2011

My husband. I wouldn't try TTC without him on board, naturally.

Mrs.Slick · February 2011

doozer1345:
Mrs.Slick:

doozer1345:
Who gave you the "go-ahead" to have a baby???

Yo mama.

Yo greasy granny!!!

Yo greasy granny panties.

doozer1345 · February 2011

Mrs.Slick:
doozer1345:
Mrs.Slick:

doozer1345:
Who gave you the "go-ahead" to have a baby???

Yo mama.

Yo greasy granny!!!

Yo greasy granny panties.

Your greasy Nutella pants!

jchanth · February 2011

doozer1345:
Who gave you the "go-ahead" to have a baby???

I had to go to the senior bumpette for my go-ahead!

doozer1345 · February 2011

jchanth:

doozer1345:
Who gave you the "go-ahead" to have a baby???

I had to go to the senior bumpette for my go-ahead!

LMAO

Mrs.Slick · February 2011

doozer1345:
Mrs.Slick:
doozer1345:
Mrs.Slick:

doozer1345:
Who gave you the "go-ahead" to have a baby???

Yo mama.

Yo greasy granny!!!

Yo greasy granny panties.

Your greasy Nutella pants!

Don't be jealous Dooz. You know you want some nutella in yo granny panties.

carrie3303 · February 2011

Mrs.Slick:
doozer1345:
Mrs.Slick:
doozer1345:
Mrs.Slick:

doozer1345:
Who gave you the "go-ahead" to have a baby???

Yo mama.

Yo greasy granny!!!

Yo greasy granny panties.

Your greasy Nutella pants!

Don't be jealous Dooz. You know you want some nutella in yo granny panties.

NUTELLLAAAAA!!!!!

ChickenLittle2010 · February 2011

doozer1345:
Mrs.Slick:
doozer1345:
Mrs.Slick:

doozer1345:
Who gave you the "go-ahead" to have a baby???
Yo mama.
Yo greasy granny!!!
Yo greasy granny panties.
Your greasy Nutella pants!

DON'T YOU DARE RUIN NUTELLA FOR ME!!!!!1111!!!ELEVEN!

J/K you know I you

FroeschleN · February 2011

charlsie26:
Congrats on the job. If you do get KU...well, you still have 9 months to totaly rock the new job!

Exactly! Wishing you all the best! Hope everything works out for you!

Jing22 · February 2011

Congrats on the job... at least you'll have money to support potential baby!

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calhoun53009 · February 2011

I just turned down a job offer to teach preschool b/c we're TTC. I applied in August b/c we were in a totally different situation than we currently are. Now things are very secure and we just officially started TTC. Out of the blue, I got the call on Friday to interview and they offered me the job yesterday, about two hours after interviewing. I called this morning and turned it down b/c honestly it's only till June and then the teacher is coming back in the fall. So basically it would mean putting TTC on hold till September (b/c of some other issues that taking this job would bring up) and honestly we're not willing to do that. Talk to your DH and figure out what's best for you. I would have loved to teach preschool, but I want my own child more.

muppetwedding · February 2011

Congrats on a job! We were going to start TTC this month but I'm starting a new job tomorrow so we put it off for a few months so I can settle in etc. Even though this new job will enable us to get a house and will further my career I understand being really disappointed. GL with everything

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