MFI ladies, were u told this or along these lines (vent)...

vanessagorc · February 2011

When we first got our Dx, my RE (at the time) looked right at us and said...

"Oh MFI---IVF w ICSI, ull have twins and you will never be back here". I know he was sort of joking, but come on!?!?!?

After beta hell, a m/c, a d&c, and DH's situation getting worse....I really wish it wasn't downplayed to us.

I was soooo naive when we started this. I miss a bit of that "blissful ignorance". I have come to terms, that this is a different journey than I expected. But enough already!!!! When are any of us going to catch a break??

OK vent over, thanks for listening.

wewannababy · February 2011

HUGS! IF sucks! I agree --- we all need to catch a break!!!

NMscubagirl · February 2011

I will be hearing these words soon I am sure. <hugs>. Sorry, they should learn to be sensitive by now don't you think?!

dolphinsmakemesmile · February 2011

Vanessa, we don't have MFI, but yes, I know what ur saying. I have heard what you said for MFI. Even my RE said MFI patients have a great chance of having a a take home baby. They just need forced fertilization...so I completely get what ur saying. Sorry. I hate this f***in IF roller coaster. I agree...ENOUGH ALREADY!!! ((HUGS))

illinigal · February 2011

Huge hugs on your latest news. I hear you though.... IF and MFI is not fun.

NicoleeBonsai · February 2011

sorry sweetie. this sh!t is so unfair. really, really unfair.

i honestly do not understand how fertiles get KU so easily. we know too much, that blissful ignorance is gone

((HUGS))

theworms · February 2011

vanessagorc:

When we first got our Dx, my RE (at the time) looked right at us and said...

"Oh MFI---IVF w ICSI, ull have twins and you will never be back here". I know he was sort of joking, but come on!?!?!?

I think that some RE's downplay MFI b/c oh well you can ISCI, it is frustrating. I don't think they usually do any additional testing unless you have NOA. super frustrating

After beta hell, a m/c, a d&c, and DH's situation getting worse....I really wish it wasn't downplayed to us.

I was soooo naive when we started this. I miss a bit of that "blissful ignorance". I have come to terms, that this is a different journey than I expected. But enough already!!!! When are any of us going to catch a break??

OK vent over, thanks for listening.

we all need a break it fu*cken sucks

((((HUGS))))

gervaisj6 · February 2011

Oh yes, I miss it! I will never forget our first visit with RE... she said, "well, I can tell you that if I put all the couples that have been trying to conceive less than 5 years in one room, and couples ttc longer than five in the other, we have better success rated with the ttc less than five years couples..." Ugh.

lmc5004 · February 2011

I hope you dont mind me replying!

I felt this way with my first RE... he said "we will do IUIs with your clomid you have already been on and if we need to go to injectables we can, YOULL NEVER NEED IVF".

Thank god I changed Drs because 7IUIs later I was completely out of hope. I had a BFN on IVF w/ICSI #1 and I wanted to go back there and tell him what I thought of him and his false hope. Just keep trying and dont give up. IVF#2 (frozen cycle) did it for us and I am so glad that I kept pushing and didnt let anything stop me.

(((HUGS)))

SweetDahlia · February 2011

I'm sorry hon. I saw your posts. I hope there is some weird reason the tests were off. I hope they still have your DH's sample just in case.

It really sucks your RE downplayed it so much to you guys. IF really sucks.

babylove0511 · February 2011

((((((HUGS)))))) i sure wish we could all catch a break!!!!!

cbubbles2 · February 2011

(hugs)

Faith722 · February 2011

Yeah, we got a similar message -- all except the part about twins b/c they are all about the sET. Even though I knew nothing was guaranteed, I really couldn't believe that it wouldn't work. Seems stupid now. I am so sorry you're dealing with this. It's so unfair! Know that you're in our prayers. I hope you get some good news real soon. Big, big hugs!

HopingForMyFirstBaby · February 2011

I hear you, it's so unfair. I haven't been able to try IVF yet but I'm afraid of the same thing, MFI totally sucks

etoyama · February 2011

So fcuking unfair. I kind of want to punch your RE in the face for saying that. (((((((HUGS)))))))

vanessagorc · February 2011

etoyama:
So fcuking unfair. I kind of want to punch your RE in the face for saying that. (((((((HUGS)))))))

I guess my way of doing that, was leaving LOL.

Mrs.AmandaMqn · February 2011

Yeah, I definitely think these doctors say stupid shiit about conceiving with MFI. I can't help but wonder about the quality of sperm our uro is so eager to use for ICSI. I'm scared we're setting ourselves up for disappointment.

ugh, sorry, didn't mean to vent my own issues, just want you to know that I understand and I'm sorry.

sending you ::hugs:: and love

gidge · February 2011

Our RE never promised us a take home baby - he really tried to keep our expectations realistic for the chance of finding sperm in the mTESE. I did feel like we would eventually get one through IVF if we were able to find sperm!

I remember when he called with my fert report for our first IVF. He told me when to come in for the transfer and that we'd transfer 2 embryos....I def wasn't prepared for there not to be any when we got there!

Mandy_Lou83 · February 2011

I wasn't told this by my Dr. but I was naive enough to think this myself. Who would have thought I made crappy eggs?!? I haven't gotten results of IVF #1 but I'm not very hopeful w/ only putting one grade 2 back.

SLPMel · February 2011

We definitely got that from our first RE. He told us that "his tail was wagging" because of my age. When we got our S/A back, we were told, "no worries-IVF with ICSI will make it all better". When we got the call that we were going to need to do the TESE two days before ER we felt like we were completely in the dark. No one had EVER mentioned it. Surprisingly our original RE never said anything-it was the RE covering for him from another clinic that brought it up.

Our new RE has been very upfront of the success with using DH's sperm. It was extremely helpful with us being able to move on to DS. She does seem so hopeful with the DS IUI that it will work that it's hard to know what we should do if this one doesn't work.

We have a friend with MFI-and her first IVF and first FET failed, and the second IVF was a blighted ovum, so we knew that IVF with ICSI wasn't the answer-you are just so hopeful that you will be one of the lucky ones.

From being on this board now for the past 7/8 months I've come to see that beautiful embies wind up with BFN's or m/c's, while not so great embies make babies. There was one person that I thought for sure she would get a BFN because everything sounded behind, and she wound up with a BFP. So who knows? Sometimes the doctors don't really know-I sometimes think they give people higher rates of success.

CallMeAl · February 2011

Big hugs! Vent all you need to. The situation sucks, no doubt!

Ginger71 · February 2011

Oh V.....they don"t know what the hell they are talking about with MFI, IMO. I am convinced. We started IVF when I was 37 with known SEVERE MFI. I had decent eggs back then but everyone kept blaming my eggs. Cornell was the only place we went that investigated DH's issues and believed that was our problem. Now my eggs are worthless and we wasted 3 years. We could have been doing PGD with what we know or DS. Now it's too late and we have to try DE + DS. Fact is...ICSI just doesn't work for everyone. DH and I are examples of that.

What you are going through sucks and I am mad for you. We're here for you. (huge hugs)

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