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I could use some hugs. Long vent.

I had a fun weekend with my friend visiting from Cleveland but had some crappy things happen along the way.  DH lost his phone on the MARTA train in Atlanta and I'm doubtful that there are enough good people left in the world to return it or take it to lost and found.  And since we have to pay full retail price to replace it, it's going to cost $600 to buy a new one.  Yay.  I'm trying so hard not to be mad at DH since I know he's sick over it and beating himself up already, and it was just an accident but it sucks big-time.

Then I got a phone call from my uber-fertile SIL that she's pregnant again.  I kept it together on the phone, handed her off to DH, then went and sobbed in the bathroom.  Had to pull it together to try to enjoy the last night I had with my friend but that sucked.  This is her 6th pregnancy since we've been trying, 7th overall.  I have been lapped 6 times by one person?  Seriously, this is my life?  And of course her due date is a week after mine would have been had my first IUI worked.  :( 

Then to top it all off, she goes and sees my old RE b/c she remembered me saying that IFers tend to get early ultrasounds.  So she somehow talked her way into getting in to see him and he did an u/s at 6 weeks.  She then complained to me that she only saw the sac and didn't see a heartbeat.  Well, hello, you wanted the early u/s and got it... now you're going to complain that you didn't see a hb?!  So she gets another one in a week or two to check for a heartbeat.  How the hell did she manage this since she's about the farthest thing from an infertile... she's a super/uber/extra-fertile.  I feel like she's just using my old RE.

Then not even 30 minutes after telling us her news on the phone, she posts that she's expecting on FB!!!!!!!  She did this last time with only having a positive HPT not even an u/s, so I guess she's progressing but she hasn't even seen the HB!  Last time she lost the baby just days after posting her announcement on FB.  Think she'd learn to maybe wait just a little while to post??  Nope.  I think she just likes all the attention she gets from it.  I mean she has 25+ comments of congratulations, and she's "liked" each individual comment.  I mean, seriously.  FFS.  I need to request that bunker that someone was digging to just crawl in and hide for awhile.  Maybe 2012 will be better.

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Re: I could use some hugs. Long vent.

  • ((HUGS))
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    Worrying does not empty tomorrow of its troubles, It empties today of its strength. ~Corrie ten Boom
    Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the little voice at the end of the day that says I'll try again tomorrow. ~Mary Anne Radmacher (thank you beadinglady)

    It's been a long journey. TTC since 9/06. multiple IUI's and IVF's and 4 m/c's. IVF#3 = BFP, twins, induced at 34w6d due to baby b passing away (no explanation). Delivered on 35w1d, Baby A - baby girl, and Baby B - baby boy, our little angel.
    MTHFR A1298C & C677T, Immune Issues and Factor II
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  • so sorry sweetie :(

     

    it all just sucks so, so much!

     

    TTC #1 since June 2008 *SAIFW*

    TI, IUIs, IVF = c/ps and BFNs

  • I'm so sorry ((HUGS)). That's a lot to handle in just a few days. I would block her from FB if you can. Hang in there hon...

    Hopefully this will make you laugh but when I saw your penguin siggy, I imagined your SIL was the penguin getting slapped into the hole!

    TTC 12/2009
    Me: 32 - Stage II Endo / DH: 36 - Low count and morphology (1%)
    IUIs 1-3 BFN, lap Dec. 2010, IUIs 4-6 BFN
    IVF w/ICSI #1 - ER 2/8: 24R 19M 9F ET 2/13 2-5 day blasts (no frosties) = BFP - b/g twins!
    E & C Born 10/19/2012
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  • Sending huge hugs your way.
    After 3 years of infertility we were blessed with twin girls through private infant adoption.
    Forever our's October 17th 2012
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    Hopefully this will make you laugh but when I saw your penguin siggy, I imagined your SIL was the penguin getting slapped into the hole!

    hahahaha, thank you... that was the first thing to make me laugh all day.  :)

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  • Ugh, I'm so sorry.  Big, big hugs!
    IVF #3 = Feb 2012
    beta#1 3/21 (14dp3dt)=413, beta#2 3/23 (16dp3dt)=785, u/s 4/11
    EDD 11/25/12
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  • Wow.  That's just not fair.

    I'm so sorry.  ((hugs))

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  • ::hugs::

    TTC #2 since June '08

    ~*DD 10.21.07*~

    dx unexplained

    IUI #1-4 BFN

    IVF#1 June 2011 BFN

    IVF#2 Dec 2011

    Beta#1 12/21 : 812 Beta#2 12/23 : 1634

    EDD 8/25

    *PAIFW/SAIFW*

  • ((huge hugs))  I'm so sorry you had to deal with all that this weekend.  I can't believe she actually got into your RE for an u/s.  Grr!
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  • YIKES!!! I would hide her on fb and ignore her phone calls.. let your hubby answer if you see her number.. It's his sis, let him deal with her.

    You need to concentrate on you and your feelings and take care of yourself...

    Big hugs,

    Renee*

    Renee- 37 DH - Chad - 39
    2/06 - surprise pregnancy - twins
    3/06 - m/c 1st baby at 6 weeks 
    5/06 -2nd baby had no heartbeat at 14 wks.
    D&E - Bled out. Blood transfusions. Week in ICU - Cheated Death!
    Diagnosis: Blood clotting and bleeding disorder, immune issues, & cervical stenosis
    5/10 - 1st IVF cycle - BFN
    FET - 10/12/10 - BFN
    1/11 - IVF with PGD - BFN
    IVF - May - BFN
    6/11 New RE - fingers crossed!
    9/11 - IVF - 4 transferred
    10/13 - BFP!!
    It's a boy! Clint Michael, Due in June!!!

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  • I'm sorry.  It all sucks.  (((HUGS)))

    SAIF and PAIF Always Welcome
    07/14/97 - Stillborn twins at 22 weeks
    12/20/99 - Miscarriage #1 - 11 wks 4 days laproscopic surgery due to rupture of tube
    07/01/01 - Divorced
    05/30/09 - Re-married to a wonderful man!
    11/11/09 - Miscarriage #2 - 10 wks 3 days, D&C
    Dx: Unexplained
    07/30/10 - 10/19/10 - IUI #1 - IUI #4 clomid cd2-6 + premarin cd7-13 + HCG Trigger=BFFN's
    11/10/10 - IVF #1 Start stims ER#1 11/22, ER #2 11/24, ET 11/29=BFFN
    03/14/11 - IVF #2 start stims, ER-03/26/11, ET-03/31/11, beta 04/08/11 = BFFN
    05/16/11 - Hail Mary Cycle - Inj+TI =BFP!! 06/08/11 Beta #1 71.8, 06/10/11 Beta #2 201, U/S 6/20-1 sac. U/S 6/28 sac and hb of 118!!
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  • BIG ((HUGS))
    *P/SAIFW* TTC since 1/08 Clomid, 2 IUIs, 4 IVFs, FET 7 losses Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
  • holy crap what an a$$!

    I would be so pissed.  I cannot believe she went to your RE... and I really cant believe you had to listen to her telling you!!!  What did you say??

    I have come to realize that you are all way nicer than me.

    TTC#2: septum removed, 2 losses, Stage 2 Endo, thin lining, slight MFI
    iui #5 2/7 + 2/8 = BFP!! 11 dpiui
    Beta #1 2/18 11dpiui= 46, Beta #2 13dpiui 150, Beta #3 16dpiui 584!!
    u/s revealed triplets! Baby B 3rd loss 8w2d. Twins! EDD 10/31/11 * c/s scheduled 10/12/11 My NEW BLOG Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
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  • O sorry sweetie...(((hugs)))

    SAIF/PAIF Always Welcome!
    TTC #1 May 2008
    6 Rounds Clomid, 1 Round Femera-BFN
    4 IUIs (1 Clomid, 1 Femara, 2 injectables)-BFN
    February 2010-Laparoscopy
    4 months of Lupron
    August 2010-IUI #5-BFN
    October 2010-IUI #6-BFN
    IVF #1 November 2010-BFN
    IVF #2 March 2011-BFN
  • I'm sorry ((hugs))

    TTC in 2008. Stage II/III endo, Hashimotos hypothyroid, low morph (3%).
    2 cycles Clomid/Ovidrel/TI/Crinone=BFN.
    IUI #1 - 4 Follistim/Ovidrel/IUI/Crinone = BFN.
    IVF #1 - Antagonist w/ ICSI 4/10. 17 retrieved, 5DT of 2, BFN :(
    IVF #2 - Long Lupron w/ ICSI 6/10. 15 retrieved, 3DT of 2, BFFN!!
    Lap 7/21/10
    IVF #3 - Clomid/Antagonist w/ ICSI 10/10. 14 retreived, 3DT of 3, BFP 10/20 but m/c. No HB 11/15/10 - D&C 11/17/10.
    FET - 2 blasts, 1 survived the thaw. Transfer 2/19. Beta #1 3/1 375, Beta #2 3/3 885, Beta #3 3/8 4261, Beta #4 3/11 9005. U/S 3/8 1 sac 1 yolk, U/S 3/16 1 heartbeat 114bpm!

     

    James born Oct. 24th 2011 via c-section at 38 weeks!

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    Surprise BFP - Jack born April 28, 2013 via VBAC after PTL at 33 1/2 weeks!

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  • I'm so sorry you're having a crappy time.  I agree with hiding the SIL on Facebook.  ((HUGE HUGS))
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    Married 1/2/99.
    TTC since 4/09.
    Diagnosed PCOS. Diagnosed Hypothryoid 11/09.
    SHG & SA normal. PCOS Research study started 5/10.
    Clomid/Femara cycle #1 - 6/10 = BFN
    Clomid/Femara cycle #2 - 7/10 = BFP #1 - Missed miscarriage 9/2/10
    11/12 - BFP #2 - 11/22 - m/c
    5/1/11 - BFP #3 - Pre-eclampsia, IUGR & bed rest from 32w. DD born via induction 1/4/12.
  • Sending huge hugs!!! So sorry you're having to deal with so much right now! More hugs!
    Crohn's resulting in colectomy with J-Pouch surgery in 2000/2001.
    TTC since August 2008
    IVF#1: BFFN; IVF#2: BFN; FET with new RE: BFN
    IVF#3: ER 1/15; ET 1/20; Beta#1 1/29: 339!
    Twins girls born via c/s at 37w/3d!!
    "Let it go, this too shall pass."
  • I am sorry!  (((Hugs)))
    ::: Married June 2003:::
    TTC #1 since: Aug. 2008
    Me: 34, DOR, MTHFR-A1298C (heterozygous), decreased blood flow to uterus, Mild Endo
    DH: 38, Balanced translocation 5&10, unexplained MFI, normal SA and SCSA
    Tx History: IUI 1&2= BFN
    IVF# 1 W/ICSI= BFN
    IVF# 2: cancelled d/t no response
    IVF# 3= 1 egg retrieved=immature/not viable
    IVF# 4= c/p
    ***CCRM ODWU***
    Found DHs BT and Me-decreased blood flow to uterus
    Recommended DE IVF w/PGD, incorporate electro-acupuncture. Decided to cycle locally
    ***New RE***
    DE IVF# 1(cycle #6) w/pgd, (freeze all): 30R, 23M, 15F, slow/poor embryo development, 4 biopsied, 1 Normal "Norm"; DE IVF w/PGD, incorporate electro-acupuncture. 
    IVF# 6: (OE/DS) cancelled
    IVF# 7: (OE/DS) 1R, 1M, 1F, arrested day 5
    Plan-DE IVF# 2 (cycle #8): DE/DS in May 2015


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    Jenn

    image 3 IUI's all BFN

    IVF#1 BFN IVF#2 BFP, loss at 19 weeks FET#1 BFN IVF#3 BFP, m/c FET#2 BFN

    Missing our twins Zachary and Madison, lost at 19 weeks on 11/13/09, edd 4/9/10

    BFP 7/17/10, m/c 7/25/10, edd 3/25/11

    Ectopic, lost left tube 4/20/11, edd 12/6/11

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    Wow- I don't know how the heck she got in to see your RE for an U/S.  That's BS. So insurance covers that but doesn't cover half of the stuff for us infertiles.  

    Why would your RE even agree to that?  

    I'm sorry hon.  I hope you enjoyed your visit with your friend- And 2011 just started- so this means it's only going to get better.  Hang in there.   

    More hugs 

    Surprise BFP after 5 yrs of TTC
  • (hugs) that is really rough. I'm sorry!
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  • Dislike! I'm sorry...(big hug)
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  • What a yucky thing for a SIL to do. (((hugs)))
    DX: Severe MFI 
    IVF # 1 ~ Antagonist ~ ER 1/27/11~ ET 1/30/11 ~ + HPT 7dp3dt 
    DD born med-free on 10/24/11 
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    IVF # 2 ~Antagonist ~ ER 6/5/13 ~ ET 6/10/13 ~ + HPT 4dp5dt 
    Lilypie - (OUlo)

  • for what it is worth and not that it is still an amazing savings.  But my DH had this happen with his iphone, so same thing.  instead of $200 it would have been 600, but if you open up a new line on a family plan for $10/month, I think it had to be for 24 month so it was 440 instead.  At least it was some savings.  hth. 
    TTC since 6/09 with PCOS No response to femara 4 cycles of injectibles+IUI=BFN IVF#1= started stims on 2/4 Likely ER on 2/16 and hopefully 5dt
  • Sending hugs sweetie
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  • ((((hugs))))  DH's whole family are super-fertiles and I know how much it really sucks... 
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    TTC since March 2009 // Me and DH - 28
    Testing Summer/Fall 2010 - Unexplained IF
    IUIs #1-4 ~ Clomid/Ovidrel/TI/IUI ~ all BFNs
    IUI #5 ~ Femara/Ovidrel/TI/IUI ~ BFN
    IUIs #6-9 ~ Research Study Meds/Pregnyl/TI/IUI ~ all BFNs
    IVF Consultation, More Testing
    Diagnostic Cycle ~ Mucinex/Progesterone/TI ~ BFN
    IVF #1 ~ Menopur/Bravelle/Ganirelix/Novarel/Progesterone/Lupron
    7R, 6F // 2 transferred // 3 frosties ~ BFN
    FET #1 ~ Estrace/PIO/Lupron
    3 thawed // 2 transferred // 1 lost // no more frosties ~ BFP!!
    Beta #1 - 456 // Beta #2 - 1176 // Beta #3 - 2933 // Beta #4 - 6753
    EDD: May 16, 2013
    Threatened MC at 6w2d
    Bedrest for SCH // 6w2d through 10w1d
    Elevated TSH and Lazy Thyroid DX @ 10w - Started Synthroid
    Finally released from RE at 13w
    Charles Everett ~ Born 5/20/2013

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  • Sending big fat hugs to you.  You are handling this much better than I would.  
    TTC Child #1 Sept '08, Dx: Unexplained, DOR 2 IUI's = BFN, m/c, IVF 1 = 0 embies to put back, IVF 2 = BFN, IVF 3 = cancelled, IVF 4 = BFP with 1 embie. Our son came into our life on 9/28/11. We are in love! Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
  • gigantic ::hugs:: and all my love
    TTC since April 2008

    Me: PCOS/Amenorrhea DH: Azoospermia due to Y Chromosome Micro Deletion IVF w/ ICSI on hold until further notice

    Hope

  • HUGS sweetie!  I'm so sorry!  IF just sucks and it sucks even more when we are surrounded by fertiles!!! 
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