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February 2011 Moms
SEX
OK I know sex is he single most efficient way to bring on labor naturally but my husband won't touch me!!! WTF??? I know I'm not exactly at my hottest right now but c'mon! I think he knows it may cause labor and is stalling becoming a parent as long as he can. Anyone else in the same boat? Should I drug him?
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Re: SEX
I was just telling my BFF a funny story about this.
When I was pregnant with DD I thought it was the orgasm that brought on labor...little did I know that it was something else that helped. Lets just say poor DH got the short end of the stick when it came to pregnancy sex.
Poor guy.
Maybe you should let him know that though it *can* bring on labor, it will only do so if your cervix is ready. If I had a kid everytime DH and I had sex since being full term I would be, well not drowning in babies, ok well, I would have three, three babies. BUT the point is I have 1 INSIDE baby. Remind him he gets a big fat nothing for the following six weeks! Its a pretty compelling argument. And hey, even if you don't get a baby out of the deal, you don't get sex either for those six weeks, and you DO get his prostaglandins to at least help your cervix ripen!
If that doesn't work, booze him up and show him your boobs, it always works for me. Not too much booze, mind.
Lolol. I had considered this before I talked DH into having sex with me
Wasn't necessary though. We just had sex for the first time in about 5 months!!!! He was soooo afraid the whole time that I couldn't get him to do it. For him though, I told him that it's OK for her to come out now...we WANT her to come out and that having sex could keep me from having an induction. He was a crazy nervous wreck beforehand, but then it actually went well. Honestly though, I was thinking about basically attacking him after he'd had a couple of beers with his friends 
My DH wont have sex with me either for 2 reasons, he is worried that it will bring on labor/could hurt the baby and when I was pregnant with DS he could feel him move while we were having sex which really freaked him out.
Since we want the baby to come out now and my body is ready but just seems to need a push, we tried last night. It was a huge fail. We could not find a position that worked. Me on top was the closest but then he could feel my belly on his which reminded him of issue #2 listed above.
So if your DH really doesnt want to, dont force him - it's not worth the disappointment for either of you. Do remind him that it will be quite some time before you have sex again though. It was not just the 6 weeks for me. I had a 3rd degree lasceration and didnt want anything down there for a long time plus I was BFing which kills your libido and completely dries you up.
This time at 6 weeks post partum I'm hoping to just be moving around enough/not too sore to help with the move to our new house.
-----Lisa-----
hmmm...i can't remember the last time we had sex...maybe 3 months ago? It definitely didn't help that the doctor said she could feel the baby's head when she checked my cervix. I had to show him a picture of what the inside of my body looks like because he's afraid of feeling the baby's head or hurting the baby. I guess I can understand that it's a little weird BUT just because I'm pregnant doesn't mean I don't want to have sex! geez! Anyway, I have yet to be successful in my attempt seduce him...must buy booze! LOL!