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My MIL's trip is stressing me out

My MIL is planning a visit for the middle of March. That's when we will be having Logan's bday party. She is flying up on a Thursday and leaving on Sunday. She was talking to DH last night and asked if she could sleep on our couch. Our house is small. She and my SIL stayed with us a few weeks after Logan was born, but that was when we had beds setup in the 2nd bedroom. Those have been taken down now and it's Logan's room which she was aware of.

DH said we could put her up in a hotel. We would have to foot the bill. It would probably we worth it for my sanity, but I hate to spend that money. Plus that means that everytime she wanted to come to the house DH would have to pick her up and take her back. He is already picking her up/taking her back to the airport which is an hour away. Ugh.

I used to love her and loved being around her. Things changed. A lot of it has to do with the fact that a few months ago she told DH that she was still mad about the fact the they didn't get to stay with us when they came up for our wedding, but that my dad and his wife did. I specifically told her they could stay, but that we couldn't also accomodate my SIL, BIL & his then gf. Apparently we were supposed to put up the whole family and leave my dad and his wife to get a hotel room. Ugh.

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  • oh i'd definitely get her a hotel room! she can't pay anything though- or rent a car or something??

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  • I'm don't think so...since she asked about the couch.
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  • Shannon, I can't believe you would even question this.  Having your crazy MIL stay at a hotel will be worth every single penny and then some.
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  • I vote to definitely spring for a hotel room. I get a long with my MIL but there are things about her that drive me batty. She stayed on our couch for 3 days and it was WAY more stress than it was worth. Seriously, having your MIL on your couch will take years off your life. Go for the hotel.
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    Shannon, I can't believe you would even question this.  Having your crazy MIL stay at a hotel will be worth every single penny and then some.
     

    Oh Shannon, I agree with Shelley!  At least you have that option and it's just your MIL coming.  My MIL, SIL, SIL's DD, and BIL will be here for Thomas' birthday.  And my DH wouldn't allow for them to stay in a hotel.  I dread their visit like a plague!!!!!  I used to be able to tolerate them before I had Thomas but now everything about them annoys me and I just don't know how I'm going to get through their visit.

    Good luck!

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  • I'd definitely spring for the hotel. It will save your sanity.  I'm sure if she stays on the couch there will be some hemming and hawing about it not being comfortable.

    Rachel will turn one in May and both of my parents will be coming out from the east coast. They are divorced but get along well enought. My mom will be staying with us and we will be asking my dad to stay at a hotel down the street.  We'll give him one of our cars so he can get back and forth.  I'm sure he won't be happy about it but really I don't know what else to do.

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  • ITA with getting MIL a hotel room. I think her not having a car might be a blessing in disguise. You will have some control of when she is at your house and you can probably do some strategic planning to arrange some time without her. If you find a hotel close to your house the trip to go and get her won't be so disruptive. If you just can't get past your DH having to cart her around, you could probably get her a rental car, assuming she drives.
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  • While I am sure for your sanity a hotel would be the better option.  We don't have any extra space either - so I would probably suck it up & try to put a pack n play in the older boys room or even in our room or we would just move to Keegan's room for a few days (he has a full size bed in it) & let the guest have our room. 

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  • Definitely get the hotel room! Check different websites for deals in your area; Expedia.com is a good one.

    My parents came from Nova Scotia when DD#2 was born in October and DH's father and wife came at the same time (they live 6 hours away). We only have one spare room and my parents were in it because they were staying for 18 days. DH's father & wife don't live in a house, they have a motorhome that they live in full time. They parked it in our yard and stayed in it all weekend. That was still a little too close for my comfort though. lol

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