3 things your hate about your inlaws

Yules · February 2011

Since this is a daily topic on at least one thread a day - I figured we would all have something to b!tch about. I really don't hate mine, but here are the things I could live without:

1. You shouldn't be holding a 1 day old newborn while rummaging in your purse for your phone. I get the self-confidence, but no new Mom wants to see their brand new baby being clumsily held with one hand.

2. Dear MIL, please don't come food shopping with me. I don't like the Turkey Hill ice cream that's on sale and will continue to buy the expensive Haagen Dazs no matter how broke I get.

3. I'm grateful that you always pick up the tab when we eat out, but can we eat anything besides italian and continental american food?

beccs98 · February 2011

I, too, don't hate my inlaws... but hey, I could b!tch about anyone so here I go.

1) The smoking thing. MIL has really cut down and will forgo smoking in order to spend time with her grandson. FIL has only done this a handful of times, including holidays. And they live 15 min away. I think he's seen him about 6 or 7 times total.

2) It's "frustrated", not fustrated. THERE'S ANOTHER R IN THERE!

3) When I'm trying to get Charlie down for a nap and he's fighting it, don't say "Oh yeah, he's REALLY tried mom" every time. Just because he's not passing out right away does not mean he's not tired. He's a baby.

mrsabernathy56 · February 2011

I've provided things I sometimes REALLY want to say.

1. "No, FFIL my baby is not hungry. I just fed him. Just because he makes a sound or sucks on a paci does not mean he is hungry yet so get away with that bottle."

2. "Yes, FStepMIL I know, he is 'just so precious' (said in the highest/squeakiest voice possible), but can you try a new word to describe him. Precious is all I have heard from you for four months STRAIGHT!"

3." Stop looking at me and "awing" every time he cries. It's like you think I'm the reason he is crying.. Geez I'm only with him 24/7 I think I know what to do.."

FirstBabyMomma · February 2011

Don't hate my inlaws, but people in general drive me nuts, so here's my three:

1. No, I do not "have a tummy sleeper" on my hands and I will not "just try it to see how she does." She STTN on her back just fine; yes, she doesn't nap for long stretches during the day but I'm okay with that.

2. Stop repeating everything I say as a question. Example: MIL "How's the baby?" Me: Oh, she's fine but a little cranky right now. MIL: "Oh, she's cranky, is she?" Yup, that's what I just said.

3. I have been part of your family for ten years. I know where the fridge is. If I need a drink, I'll get a drink. Leave me alone! The constant hovering often makes me agree to a drink just to shut them up.

If those are the worst things I can say about my inlaws, I've got it pretty good!

J+MS · February 2011

I don't hate my in-laws at all.

and I would never post the little things that do bug because I'm scared shitless they will see this. I'm pretty sure my SIL knows I'm on TB.

mrsabernathy56 · February 2011

beccs98:
I, too, don't hate my inlaws... but hey, I could b!tch about anyone so here I go.
1) The smoking thing. MIL has really cut down and will forgo smoking in order to spend time with her grandson. FIL has only done this a handful of times, including holidays. And they live 15 min away. I think he's seen him about 6 or 7 times total.
2) It's "frustrated", not fustrated. THERE'S ANOTHER R IN THERE!
3) When I'm trying to get Charlie down for a nap and he's fighting it, don't say "Oh yeah, he's REALLY tried mom" every time. Just because he's not passing out right away does not mean he's not tired. He's a baby.

AMEN to number 3.

kcl22 · February 2011

1- She lives

2- She breathes

3- She exists

mamaregan · February 2011

I could go on all day about them, especially MIL:

1.) Even though you live on the opposite end of the country does not mean you don't have a grandchild. Most grandmothers want to know how their g;kids are and will call. I'm being serious this woman has not called once to see how DD is, she's 4.5 months!

2.) When you come meet DD for the first time at 3 weeks (when you know you won't be seeing her for a very long time) atleast pay her some attention! 15 minutes and then rushing off to drink with people you don't even know is not quality time.

3.) Do not ask 6 year old kids with snot running down their face whom I have never met if they want to hold MY child. It makes me look like an a*hole by saying "No, sorry no children can hold her."

QueenBee320 · February 2011

I can't even think of three and the one or two I did think of are stretching so I'm just going to be glad that I love my inlaws and hope it stays that way!

Yules · February 2011

beccs98:
I, too, don't hate my inlaws... but hey, I could b!tch about anyone so here I go.
1) The smoking thing. MIL has really cut down and will forgo smoking in order to spend time with her grandson. FIL has only done this a handful of times, including holidays. And they live 15 min away. I think he's seen him about 6 or 7 times total.
2) It's "frustrated", not fustrated. THERE'S ANOTHER R IN THERE!
3) When I'm trying to get Charlie down for a nap and he's fighting it, don't say "Oh yeah, he's REALLY tried mom" every time. Just because he's not passing out right away does not mean he's not tired. He's a baby.

Yes When we swaddled LO in muslin cloths...she referred to them as "Muslim".

wearenutts · February 2011

I also do not hate my in-laws but I do have some things I do not like about them.

1. They eat soooo unhealthy. Then they wonder why they never loose weight.

2. They are never on time anywhere. (Well maybe when they go to work) If we have a family function they are always late.

3. When they invite us out to eat they always expect us to pay for ourselves. Which is fine, but when we invite them out we always pay for them and they expect it.

sorry I have one more...

4. They are not very financially stable but they try to give us financial advise. They are in debt up to their eyeballs, have debt collectors calling 10+ times a day, and they have to barrow money from FIL parents to pay bills sometimes because FIL buys tons of crap all the time. MIL actually pulled all of her savings out so FIL could buy something at an auction in hopes that he could fix it up and sell it. Now they can't pay the phone bill this month. Sorry I guess this drives me the most crazy.

LoveyFNR · February 2011

1. My MIL has ZERO work ethic. If she gets a good job she intentionally does something to lose it. (e.g. Coming to work after drinking, a job where she drives little children around on a train.) Then she gets all mopey and depressed when people get sick of paying her bills and rent. Grandma is on month number 7 of paying all her bills. Lazy biitch, you've been unemployed by choice for well over a year, stop complaining. I hope she doesn't even come close to thinking about asking us for money, the hinting is bad enough.

2. Chain smoking around my son. Going into the next room and closing the door when you inhale several cigarettes is just as bad. You are giving my son second hand smoke. Can't you take that cancer stick out of your mouth for 3 hours to spend time with your grandson/great grandson!? If this doesn't stop I will no longer be coming over.

3. Stop whining that you NEVER see your grandson, it is your choice you never f-ing come over. We invite you practically every day and you always have a stupid excuse as to why you can't. Even when we offer to pay for the gas to drive over. You live 10 minutes away and have only seen him 3 times since he's been born. Either show up or shut your face about missing him so much. We don't go over to your place because it's filled with cigar smoke and disgusting.

4. (Because I just HAVE to add one more) STOP calling me D-I-L. My name is Nicole, you haven't called me by my first name in over a year. I'm on the edge of freaking out on you. I hate being called DIL. It's stupid and you sound like an idiot.

Ugh, I seriously can't stand my mother in law. She's been on my last nerve lately. Felt good to vent a bit.

Brian'sWifey · February 2011

kcl22:
1- She lives
2- She breathes
3- She exists

This!!

I also hate that she has my work email and phone number. She sends me an email almost daily. When I'm too busy or annoyed to write back she calls my office phone and leaves VM's. I also screen my calls at home and don't answer. She's constantly giving me a list of the photos she'd like of DD in certain poses (yawning, sleeping, sleeping with a certain blanket etc). We gave her a camera for Christmas so she can take the pictures herself.

I could go on and on ...

beccs98 · February 2011

wearenutts:
1. They eat soooo unhealthy. Then they wonder why they never loose weight.

Oh yes, this is mine too. Not to say I eat the healthiest, but I don't complain about my extra thickness.

trinakb · February 2011

I could go on and on but i'll limit it to things that bug me regarding DS

1. STOP asking him if he wants a cookie, ice cream, hamburger, ect. He is 5 months old and you have been asking him this since day 1. You know he can't eat that stuff, i have no idea why you ask. It's just weird to me.

2. You do NOT know my son as well as I do so please stop acting like you know everything about him. When I tell you something new you don't ever act excited you're just like "oh yea, i know." I tell you he rolled over and you are like "yea he's suppose to." umm... aren't normal grandmothers suppose to be like "thats great."??

3. Just because you are his grandmother does not mean you are entitled to see him every single holiday. We try our best but I have a family too who I would like to see on some holidays. It wasn't fair of you to say to me "it's not MY fault your parents are divorced. I don't think I should have to share holidays." well guess what lady, it's not my fault either and DH and I have been doing this for a good 8 years now just because we have a baby doesn't mean our holiday schedule will change. Try to respect it.

As you can tell I only have problems with MIL. FIL is great!

nadinethequeen01 · February 2011

I don't hate mine either but here is something I can def live with out ... to include my actual parents too..

1. MIL- if I see you stick you knuckle inside of my babys mouth one more time, I will chop it off. I don't care if you don't agree with a paci, DO NOT stick your dirty digits in my childs mouth!!

2. Mom- I am seriously contemplating on lying to you about everything if you don't stop making little comments about every thing I do with J. This is why I moved away. To get away from that crap!

That's it for now.

SnoopyLuv · February 2011

kcl22:

1- She lives

2- She breathes

3- She exists

Unfortunately, this.

MJHershey · February 2011

Honestly, I love my FIL, it's my MIL that drives me up the wall, so:

1. The opinions that are pushed on us repeatedly,apparently the more you say it the more likely the other person will suddenly agree or do what you suggest.

2. Inability to listen at times, or do anything other than selectively listen.

3. Telling the same stories over and over as if we never heard it before, most of the time just so one's own voice can be heard and God forbid there's silence.

renc9828 · February 2011

1 - Please don't tell my H to "make sure" I call you while he is gone especially when I am in earshot. I am a big girl, I make my own decisions, and my H doesn't not make sure I do things.

2 - If I ever wake up to you standing over the top of me again (she was trying to look at Max, but seriously so creepy). I.will.cut.you.

3 - If you eat off of my H's plate and rub on his arm or all around keep being obsessed with him, the cutting may be repeated.

Oh and I could go on.

jessakris · February 2011

There are oh so many, but here are my most recent...

1) No, we will not go to church with you. Ever. Stop asking every week.

2) There is no "r" in "wash".

3) Just because I texted you last week to let you know we weren't getting out in the ice storm because I knew you were worried about it, does not mean we have a new "Let's-text-each-other-where-we-are-every-few-minutes" policy.

HairStylinWifey · February 2011

Things have improved in our relationship and we do get along but the woman seriously drives me insane.

1) She gets an idea in her head an she wont drop it. Repeats ideas, stories, statements, over and over and over.

2) DH's name is Jim. She refers to him as "yimmer" WTF?

3) This is all she says when she is talking to Abigail "OH precious one, oh sweet thing, precious, precious, precious one" etc, etc.

4) She sings ALL THE TIME. In her not very good, soprano, loud voice.

5) She thinks I have an eating disorder because I don't like her food and because I don't snack all the time. (See #1) She asks me over and over if I need anything to eat, proceeds to list every item in the fridge and pantry trying to get me to eat something. Lady, I am an adult and can get my own food!!

I could go on...but I'll spare you any more.

wife1014 · February 2011

I do not like my MIL at all but there really aren't three things I can specifically point out. She is just not caring or loving. She never calls to check in and unless we ask her to babysit she wouldn't ever see the girls. She just doesn't show any interest. She was like this with DH as soon as she met her husband. Now him...the stepfather. He is a creepy weird guy. I will not allow him to ever be alone with my girls. Something scares me and I can't put my finger on it. Since having Abigail, I can't let her babysit if both girls are here. MIL would be putting baby to bed, while stepFIL would be alone with Olivia. NO WAY! She never babysits without him coming along...that's weird too.

FIL, I love more than anything. He is an amazing man. He adores the girls and will do anything for them. His wife is also great. She has her moments but is a good person once you really get to know her. I am very blessed they're my family now!

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