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Found myself crying this morning.

J&MsMomJ&MsMom member
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I had two c-sections.  I wanted a VBAC with my last pregnancy but I had complications.  Anyway, my friend is in labor this morning and it hit me that I may never go through a non surgical delivery.  I know a big part of the crying is the hormones.  I also know it's crazy that I am 'missing' on a whole lot of pain but I feel like I missed a rite of passage a lot of women have gone through.  I know I am being emotional but I thought maybe you ladies would understand.  I am going to pull myself together.
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Re: Found myself crying this morning.

  • andre07andre07

    Its hard not to cry sometimes I think.  Even when I woke up in a good mood this morning...a thought just came into my head and my eyes glossed over.  I guess it is just something we go through, emotional/irrational, whatever it is.  Congratulations on bringing two babies into the world though.  

    Every once in a while I even think about the risks of a repeat cs and what if I die sort of thing, so just the fact that you are writing this, that you have your children and are healthy and able to raise them is a remarkable thing.  Hope you feel better soon, hugs**

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  • rachbenn2007rachbenn2007 member
    i completely understand how you feel!!!! and you're a fellow giants fan so we have a lot in common! im not even pregnant with #3 yet but i feel like if i don't have a  vaginal birth ill be missing something! hopefully we both get to at least get a TOL good luck to you! 
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  • papagenapapagena member
    I did the same when a good friend of mine had her baby.  I was so happy for her, but mourned my experience all over again.  Ironically, she didn't have the easiest recovery, and has probably thought me rather crazy for wanting a VBAC.  It was difficult, and I wasn't even dealing with pg hormones at the time.  (hugs)
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  • Brownie_222Brownie_222 member

    I think what you're describing is very understandable.  I definitely have felt that way!

    Do you have a VBAC supportive provider for this pregnancy?  I am hoping that you get the birth experience you want this time.  :)

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  • J&MsMomJ&MsMom member
    Somewhat.  One of the doctors in  my practice was going to let me try last time, but with conditions.  I don't know if he will do it again.  I am not sure about the others, though.  My husband is very against a VBA2C.  I tried to explain the facts but he is very worried.
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