Oh the dreaded bow on little bald girls heads

KyleTrigger · February 2011

Okay please don't take offense at this because it is just how I feel. I hate, hate, hate bows stuck to bald little girl babies heads. It is an irrational hatred that just borders on insanity.

Everytime I see a kid with one on I feel sorry for her and wish I could go over and take it off.

When we found out we were having a girl I made it perfectly clear that no one was EVER to put one of those on my daughter. Ever ever ever. We even went as far as to say that if someone did it they wouldn't be watching DD ever again ( obviously joking)

Well today I open my door and what do I find? I whole bag full of bows and headbands from my MIL. Some of them were bigger than a freakin kids head!! And the worst part was she bought them from a really expensive store and was so excited, planning the photo shoot she wanted to do with her wearing the bows! HELP ME PLEASE.

DH says I have to just suck it up and let her wear them but damn, its my baby and I should get to dress her how I want. I look at the stupid things other people put on their babies and that is just whatever, it is your child but I shouldn't have to have my daughter wear one!!

Okay vent over

pallasjessica · February 2011

Normally I would completely agree. But then I found these and couldn't resist...

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hrking2011 · February 2011

Thats how I feel with the newborn hats and the HUGE flowers attached to them. My mom thinks they are soo adorable and I absolutely hate them! But if she wants to buy them and get pictures of LO in the god-awful thing then let her, no one said you had to put the pictures up in your home hah

kelslynie · February 2011

I think little flowers or bows are very cute on babies, but the ridiculously huge ones look so stupid:
Rhinestone Centerpiece headband on Etsy
Ick!

if the ones your MIL gave you look like that, then I wouldn't be able to stand it and I'd say no! but your situation is tricky. to me, it's rude that your mother in law didn't consider you'd want to pick what your own daughter wears in the photoshoot. that would probably tick me off. but since she's so excited about it & spent money on it, and if the bows aren't too horrible, then just go with it to avoid a fight with your husband and MIL. Just let MIL have this one. You could have your daughter wear whatever your MIL wants for half of the pictures, and the other half with whatever you want. i'm sorry that you got stuck in a situation like that.

citychicks · February 2011

I HATE THEM!!! And earings in babies... Indifferent

HolliEllison · February 2011

LOL

Feel free to send them my way, I adore headbands and bows. I get what you're saying about hating certain things, though. There are certain styles of clothing that I find to be absolutely disgusting and I would be mortified if someone purchased them for LO. Example: Pants with logos or wording on the butt should never, ever be worn in public yet my wonderful grandmother bought LO a pair of pink pants with a massive, gaudy grown right on the a$$. Lovely. I just *CAN'T WAIT until she's old enough to wear it (NOT).

JCragg · February 2011

I HATE these ones with the cheap dollarstore gerber and the ugly thick band

ttarnold23 · February 2011

citychicks:
I HATE THEM!!! And earings in babies...

YES, I was going to say the earring thing, I hate that too! I also hate when people pose their newborns with their dogs in pictures. I mean I have a dog and love her like family but still, that's a little unsanitary for a newborn. Not to say, you never know how the animal is going to react.. Sorry, it's just that I saw this today on an fb friend's profile...

meheron80 · February 2011

I like very small bows but I would be pissed if someone purchased items that I had asked them to not get because we prefered not to use them. Keep this in mind though... they say if you don't start a baby off with headbands/bows you will never get them to wear them because they don't like them if not worn all the time. So hopefully you can just use the excuse that she pulls them off and doesn't want to wear them!!!!!

iris427 · February 2011

I don't like all that crap either but you should probably let your MIL take a few pictures of her wearing them. It's not worth creating family drama over.

Once your daughter is old enough to grab stuff, you can tell MIL that she pulls everything out of her hair. Which she may do for real anyway.

CutieBean79 · February 2011

I think little bows are cute, but I understand not wanting your baby to be a bow model. However, it sounds like your MIL is just excited and doesn't seem like something getting upset over. You should start picking your battles.

ascar29 · February 2011

my niece doesnt have much hair and will throw a fit if she doesnt have a head band or a bow or a flower on her head... shes likes to look "pretty" lol and my other niece has a full head of hair (there both about 1.5yrold) and will through a fit if you come near her with such a thing. All kids are different, and you know whats funny. The niece that likes the bows - her mom is such a tom boy, i have never seen her in a dress or skirt or do her hair. The niece that hates the bows - her mom is a model and supper girl always dressed up etc.

JenWen3 · February 2011

I also hate bows and flowers and anything, giant or not, on a little girl's head. If the flower is bigger than the head, my hatred elevates to...I don't know, something beyond hatred.

If this baby is a girl, she simply won't wear them. I don't care if people buy them or not, but if I'm dressing her, they won't go on her head.

GreenBride624 · February 2011

Is she going to be there for the photoshoot? If so, put one or 2 on and don't print those shots. If she won't be there, don't use them... if she asks, tell her that they wouldn't stay on!

LynsiBHM · February 2011

I'm having a boy, so I don't have to worry about this, but I don't mind the bows and flowers for little girls. I think it's more like a photo shoot prop than an accessory though... I would never put my kid in that for any extended time.

That being said, it urks me to no end when other people try to plan anything for my baby! My MIL has also already talked about plans she has with the baby. I love that she's excited, but maybe ASK rather than tell me? I don't think people realize that babies aren't community property- it's up to mommy and daddy!

Ghostie · February 2011

Hopefully you won't have a bald (or very white blond hair that you can't see) baby girl that is called a boy 11 billion times. Then you might change your tune and see the merit of hair bows.

BeetleLinz1125 · February 2011

I feel your pain!!! I dreaded all of the gigantic bows and flowers that would come my way once we found out it was a girl! Maybe you could let your MIL pick ONE and she's the only one who gets that pose...and have her return the rest. That way she won't feel she bought everything for no reason, and you won't have to endure looking at pictures of your DD with hideous headbands on!

m0132 · February 2011

iris427:
I don't like all that crap either but you should probably let your MIL take a few pictures of her wearing them. It's not worth creating family drama over.
Once your daughter is old enough to grab stuff, you can tell MIL that she pulls everything out of her hair. Which she may do for real anyway.

I agree with this, except I do like all that crap lol (small bows anyway). I don't think its worth starting an issue over though, people pick clothes out for DD that I don't love all the time and I put her in them when I know we will see them so they still know I appreciate the gesture. Someone gave DD a headband with a flower bigger than her head on it and I would never put her in that in public but I did put it on her and send a picture to them, no harm done.

DD varies from day to day..she will either pull everything out of her hair (and you can always use that excuse later), or she will throw a fit and want her hair done and pretty shoes on even though we aren't leaving the house lol.

ETA: I got so sick of people asking me how old "he" was when DD was younger that I wouldn't leave the house without a little bow or headband in her hair, but she had a TON of it..I don't like bows on bald baby heads. You might change your mind if people start calling your baby a boy, haha.

Lucky_Dragonfly · February 2011

I bought some barretts and a couple of stretchy headbands, but I am not sure I will be using the headbands becasue I am nervous about it leaving a mark on her head. the barretts I will not be using until she has hair. I did get a cute knitted hat with a flower attachment on it. Its not huge but I think its really cute.

kacelle · February 2011

iris427:
I don't like all that crap either but you should probably let your MIL take a few pictures of her wearing them. It's not worth creating family drama over.

This!

mchupie · February 2011

pallasjessica:

Normally I would completely agree. But then I found these and couldn't resist...

https://www.etsy.com/transaction/43124357

OMG I would also normally agree but these are adorable. Buying them now...

jodyrm · February 2011

I have to disagree, because I HATE going up to a bald baby wearing neutral clothes with a name like 'Jordan' and having NO freaking clue if 'he' or 'she' is 'sooo cute'. If I have a bald baby, I'm not sure how I would handle anyone calling her a him because they aren't sure. (Maybe this won't be an issue, who knows)

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