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strategy change this cycle

As it's now CD1 (AGAIN), I'm changing my strategy. I enjoy obsessing over my own, and everybody elses' charts, BUT this obsession can't be good. I get satisfaction out of it, but it consumes so much of my time and energy.  I like that I feel in control while I do it, but get so frustrated when I don't get a BFP out of it. Now I don't want to just let go indefinitely. I need to know that I'll get that control back, and have my fix at some point.
 
This cycle I'm passing it all on to DH. If it fails I'm not going to pour over every thing I did or didn't do.  I'm not going to temp, or pee on a stick, or check CM. I'm going to try not. I'm taking a month off of all of that. And then pick it back up next cycle. I'll still be here of course. My chart will be sparse if it has anything at all.
 
That's my plan. I'm trying to keep my sanity.
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  • I support and respect your choice!! Get your EOD on!! We will be here for support and I hope it's just the change you need! My RE told me Friday to cut that temping crap out it means nothing! I laughed out loud at her, my DH was like she's not going to stop! Lol!
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  • I quit charting because it was driving me and my husband insane. 
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  • I toy with the same idea every month.  I think I may actually do it this month.  I will still temp, but nothing else.  I hope this break from charting is good for you and you get your BFP!
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  • Good luck to you! This is my first real cycle charting, and I can easily see it becoming an obsession. We'll be here!
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  • I completely understand!  This is my first cycle charting and I'm already obsessed.  I stare at the thing as though I can tell whether or not I'm pregnant, even before I O'd.  *blush*  However, the main reason I started is because I'm so irregular since the miscarriage and after being 4 days late last month and really starting to think I was pregnant, I'd rather use this till I get a new norm.  We'll see if it helps as I get closer to testing time.  Good luck on the sanity!
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  • You know, the genetics doctor told me to do the same thing. I'm only on cycle 3 of temping/charting, but I'm considering it. I don't know how to make myself stop. I hope this choice brings you less stress (which can only be beneficial).

    Sorry about CD1. I really hope this is your month.

     

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  • I realized that I need to stop obsessing too. Good luck and I hope the destressing will help you get your BFP soon!
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  • Sounds like a good decision. I have been thinking about charting once AF decides to show her face again, but I am worried about obsessing over it. I can see how easy it would be to get that way. GL to you! 
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