Clicky Poll.....Falling in love with LO

mhardest · February 2011

When did you fall head over heels for your LO?[Poll]

~Flossie~ · February 2011

I'll be honest, it took me about a month before I even started to bond with LO. I didn't expect that. I'm now over the moon bonded with him but it wasn't always that way.

saraboston · February 2011

It's completely bizarre to me that the alien swimming around my belly is now my adorable little girl.

PunkyBooster · February 2011

I couldn't even believe he was mine when I first met him. It was all so surreal. I loved him, but I wasn't over the moon in love with him for a few weeks. Now I can't get enough of him, he's so beautiful to me and babies who don't look like him look funny to me Embarrassed

IncogNeato · February 2011

Great idea for a poll! I think true bonding takes a while for a lot of women but people feel like they're a bad mom if it doesn't happen right away. The day LO was born I kept thinking, "I thought I would KNOW you but you're just a tiny little stranger!" I worried about her from before birth but it seemed more like I worried out of feeling responsible more than just love. Over the first month it grew slowly and steadily. Now I feel like I KNOW this baby, that she's MY baby, and it's a different level of love and connection. Once she started looking at me and showing her personality instead of just sleeping all day, the bonding picked up speed. Don't get me wrong- I bawled when we had to leave LO in the NICU but it was more than I felt so guilty and sad about her being alone. Now I truly miss her when I'm away for a few hours.

imeltice · February 2011

I really felt like I knew DS the minute I got to hold him. However, I don't really know if that means I was head over heals in love. I think after a week or two I really fell in love. He's definitely my baby and I feel like we have a great connection. I think with his health issues, it has tought me to trust my insticts really early on, and it has made us really well connected.

xche · February 2011

I loved LO right from the start. I remember being terrified of having a MC because a few people close to me had some just before I got pregnant. I gave up my party-girl tendencies, got married, and ended up leaving the Army because I was pregnant, so my whole life changed. I felt like LO and I were starting over together. From the moment I found out I was pregnant, I would have done anything to give her a good life....

TBLilyRose · February 2011

It honestly probably took me the first month before I really felt in love with him. I think I was just too overwhelmed and sleep deprived because he was very cranky the first 4 weeks. But now I just love him to pieces (though I love him a lil more when he sleeps longer at night!).

kpavinich · February 2011

it took me over a week

unplanned c-section--baby taken immediately to NICU...didn't get to see her for 14 hours....didn't get to hold her for 26 hours...and didn't get to take her home for 16 days...when my hubby and i finally got to take her home from the NICU it felt more like i was adopting someone else's baby...but once she was home everything changed...she finally felt like she was mine

Molluskwrangler · February 2011

I don't know if I am there yet, I feel awful saying that too. I love her and all but it still feels odd that she's mine. I keep thinking "oh god, I'm a mom now."

Soap1 · February 2011

It took me at LEAST 6 weeks with DS1. He wouldn't nurse, wouldn't sleep, and I was so overwhelmed with him and with some PPD that I didn't even LIKE him very much at the beginning.

Now I can't imagine life without him and he means more to me than anything! Except maybe DS2! And with DS2, the bond happened the moment he was born!

mjlewis101 · February 2011

IncogNeato:
Great idea for a poll! I think true bonding takes a while for a lot of women but people feel like they're a bad mom if it doesn't happen right away. The day LO was born I kept thinking, "I thought I would KNOW you but you're just a tiny little stranger!" I worried about her from before birth but it seemed more like I worried out of feeling responsible more than just love. Over the first month it grew slowly and steadily. Now I feel like I KNOW this baby, that she's MY baby, and it's a different level of love and connection. Once she started looking at me and showing her personality instead of just sleeping all day, the bonding picked up speed. Don't get me wrong- I bawled when we had to leave LO in the NICU but it was more than I felt so guilty and sad about her being alone. Now I truly miss her when I'm away for a few hours.

Ditto to all of this!

I think her being in the NICU delayed a lot of things as well because she was just this super cute baby that I got to visit every day?! The connection that she was MY super cute baby wasn't there till she was home for a couple of weeks. This week has been a big change for me, I think. I miss her when I go out, when she cries I let down milk (never did before), and I know her cries.

tledwards200 · February 2011

IncogNeato:
I worried about her from before birth but it seemed more like I worried out of feeling responsible more than just love. Over the first month it grew slowly and steadily. Now I feel like I KNOW this baby, that she's MY baby, and it's a different level of love and connection. Once she started looking at me and showing her personality instead of just sleeping all day, the bonding picked up speed.

This.

allobosc · February 2011

I voted SS. DS2 feels so much different than how I did with DS1. I think it is a couple of things. 1) I was team green and EVERYONE swore up and down this was a girl. DH knew it was a boy (he saw the u/s). but he never let on and I was really shocked. I think I might have had my mind persuaded it was a girl a little too much. Also, I think as much as I loved being team green and the surprise, I didn't get to bond as much, like the 20 weeks I did knowing DS1 was a boy. 2) I had ppd with DS1, emotionally I was a hot mess. I am so glad I'm not there now, but I was much more attached and swooning with DS1 even though it was too much for me to handle. I prepared myself for that not to happen this time around I think. 3) DS2 is on a very strict 2-3 hr schedule and DS1 was STTN by this point. I just get myself back to sleep and it seems DS2 is up again. 4) I feel very torn sometimes trying to give DS1 and DS2 attention. I think I've teared up more at what DS1 has said to pull at my heartstrings more than DS2.

I feel like a bad mommy for comparing them so much and not being as emotional as I was with DS1.

chelsead83 · February 2011

Special snow Flake.....with DS it took me about a month to get a bond with him. I also had severe blood clots that altered my mood and my breathing and had to go the ER 2wks PP.

With DD I was in love with her but did not feel that head over the hills feeling as soon as she came out. It took about a day or two to get that connection.

I thought something was wrong with me with my son because I thought that was suppose to come natural to a mother. Little did I know.

Katsouza1 · February 2011

I *thought* I was in love with LO while she was still in my belly but once she was born I felt love more strongly than ever and we bonded instantly! Don't get me wrong things aren't always peachy and the first week home was very tough for me but that love was there instantly.

HockeyWife4Life · February 2011

I felt a bond a lot sooner with my second LO. With my DD it took a few weeks before I really felt a strong connection. I think with second babies you fall in love quicker because you know how strong your bond is with your first so it makes it easier to fall in love with the second because you have already experienced that kind of love. Not sure if that makes sense or not.

GenRN45 · February 2011

I loved her before she was born, but didn't realize how much until she almost died when she choked and stopped breathing at 10 days old.

jmayamama · February 2011

I voted SS--

I think after the stress of having a high-risk pg, having only 1 family member near (my FIL), feeling overwhelmed as a 1st time SAHM, and getting mastitis 3x...the bond really, really came for me after DS started BFing successfully. I think it was just such a relief that things were finally going right and I wasn't so worried about everything anymore.

missfire · February 2011

I was so afraid of losing them before they were born that I felt like i started bonding with them during the ultrasounds and NSTs.

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