Anyone secretly want twins?

JessandJeremy · February 2011

I do! I know there are more risks but I want at least 3 kids dammit!

Carrie25 · February 2011

I'll admit it...I do! I know I'm crazy for thinking it, but dang! I want two for the price of one!

Courted · February 2011

Yes..most of the time, then there are times when i would like just one more. But twins would be awesome for me....not DH!

sommerrayne · February 2011

I did the first time but not since. I really get the impact of taking care of one, dealing with toddlerhood, etc....

HUGE HUGE KUDOS to MOMs out there!

cjsbdl · February 2011

No way! One baby at a time is all I can handle.

njdcgirl · February 2011

I will admit that I did before I got pg. But now I think back as to what happened with Andrew's early delivery and I shudder to think what would have happened if I would have been pg with twins. I dialated at 23 weeks, and who knows if it would have happened earlier with twins, if I could have still gotten the cerclage to buy a few precious days, or how much they would have weighed when they were born. I'm so extremely lucky as it is, and I don't think I would have had the same outcome if there were two.

So...long way of saying, no...I don't want twins anymore.

jenber77 · February 2011

cjsbdl:
No way! One baby at a time is all I can handle.

This! Okay, maybe the first time around I thought twins wouldn't be so bad. I wouldn't say I wanted twins, but I was more open to the idea. Now that I'm TTC#2? No freaking way!!

itsmyangel · February 2011

yes and no...i really did this first time and now with him i keep thinking...what would i have done with 2 ? lol... i don't know how i would handle the needs of 2 babies...1 is hard enough! but at the same time i keep thinking...wow maybe next time we could get 2 that'd be aweome. we have 3 frozen embies and i don't think we'll ever have the money to do another fresh cycle....so i think i'd like 2 out of that frozen cycle so we end up with 3 ( of course I'll be happy if any make it through the freeze and stick)

kristinamh6 · February 2011

sommerrayne:
I did the first time but not since. I really get the impact of taking care of one, dealing with toddlerhood, etc....

HUGE HUGE KUDOS to MOMs out there!

This, except I only wanted twins before my BFP. Once I was pregnant I was very happy it was only one, and I haven't wanted twins since.

MayDayGirl · February 2011

not anymore!

dana316 · February 2011

I did before I had Caroline.

Now? No. I did not do well AT ALL with the sleep deprivation that came with one baby...I wouldn't survive two babies.

Smudges*Mom · February 2011

Before the BFP, heck yah! Once we learned that DH was going to deploy and miss half the pregnancy and much of the first year, my desire for twins decreased--but did not go away completely. After LO was born, my mom said that if we had had twins, she would have made my MIL move to Nashville to help! For our situation, deployment, pre-e/HELLP and PPD, I am thankful for the one I have.

My hat is off to MoMs, as well. My brother and SIL have b/g twins. I have seen the joy and the challenges. We would have made it work, as MoMs do!

Kahana · February 2011

I really wanted twins when I got pregnant with Andrew. I didn't think we would have the chance for a second pregnancy and I knew I wanted more than 1. This time I didn't necessarily wish for twins but was absolutely thrilled when we found out there are 2 in there! Now I waiver between excited and scared to death

Cassian · February 2011

I do, and still do to an extent. I have always had a secret love affair with the idea of twins, but now, thinking that if I had twins and how much time that would take away from Maya, I don't think I truly want them. A friend of mine is naturally pg with fraternal twins, and I am a little jealous.

epphd · February 2011

Not even a little. The mere prospect made me dry heave. I admire twin mamas but sorry - don't want to be one!!

skoorbnibor · February 2011

not so secretly. I always wanted 3 or 4 kids, and I likely only have this one shot to have more

amberleeb · February 2011

I used to until Audrina was born. It is a lot more work than I thought and I give all the twin Mom's huge props! I hope that my kids come one at a time but if I was blessed with twins I would be happy too.

LVBlvd · February 2011

I did the first time, then lost a twin at 10 weeks. Didn't want them (but was open to it) the second time, and got them. Go figure ; ). Now, I can't imagine my life without my precious twin boys and know I was made to have multiples.

browneyedgrl4282 · February 2011

When I started all IF treatment, I was ok with having twins because I figured if i had two than I might be done! After my last m/c (before the twins) I said to DH i better get two babies next cycle, I got what I wanted. I am glad I had twins, especially for my first delivery! When I cycled for Brady and I didn't really care it was twins again but i kinda knew it wasn't going to be.

In all honesty, having twins isn't that hard if you ask me. Yes it is twice the work but you know what you make do!

LisaandBryan · February 2011

I didn't want them because I was scared of having them early which I did. I love my boys but wish they weren't twins. I wish I oculd give them more one on one attention and I'll never know how "easy" one baby is.

tina623 · February 2011

We didn't want twins but we are glad we do. I don't know if it's harder but it is definately more work.

perry7285 · February 2011

i really wanted twins with my first pregnancy (and did get pregnant with twins, but lost one =( ). now i go back and forth. i love that with my baby i can really dote on him and focus on him in a way that i wouldn't be able to with multiples. on the other hand, same as you, i want three kids!

we'll see what happens.

jenn2929 · February 2011

I always thought it would be so cool to have been a twin, but since that didn't happen, I decided having twins would be great (and it is!). As an older first time mom it was so great to hear "look there are two sacs". I love having twins, but I do sometimes wish I could devote more time to them individually. But this is all we know and all they know. We don't know what it's like to have only one and they don't know what it's like to not share us.

bmf8140 · February 2011

I did the first time around....but not really this time around. We've always only wanted 1 or 2 kids, so 3 was a shocker!! But, of course, now that it's happening, we are excited (and scared to death).

wille2b · February 2011

YES! i am praying that this cycle gives us just that! dh is worried it would be to much! i say bring it on!

gramos1128 · February 2011

YES YES YES...I really wanted to have 3 kids and with 7 IVF cycles and only one precious DS to show for it I would love to have twins and be done with this forever.

GreenEyedGal · February 2011

The idea sounds fun but I'm not sure if I could handle it. I can barely handle my singleton!

yankee42 · February 2011

i loved the idea, and i still do

it was tough and the preemie aspect was the toughest, but i wouldn't trade what i have for anything

boshi799 · February 2011

I always used to lurk on TTTC and then I had trouble, then I was always lurking on multiples and then I had twins!!! There are some boards now I just avoid...!!!

Anyway, I always wanted twins, I just thought it was so neat to have. I have b/g twins and it is even more amazing then I ever thought. Seeing them interact and love eachother and have fun is awesome. I also think it is a very special family dynamic b/c with two the same age you really need both parents to do things like baths, feeding, etc., so the 4 of us spend an incredible amount if time as a group. I love it and feel so incredibly lucky.

somethingchangd · February 2011

I got pregnant on our 5th month of TTC with no assistance and was absolutely SHOCKED to find out I was carrying identical twins. During the u/s I was really upset - terrified about having 2. Over the next day or so I got used to the idea, and by a few days later I was thrilled to be an expecting MoM. After I lost them I became somewhat obsessed with having twins (again). I couldn't imagine that I'd had the opportunity to be a twin mom and had lost it. As time passed (I lost more pregnancies, we were diagnosed IF, had failed treatment cycles) my desire for twins lessened. By the time we got to the u/s when I learned DS was a singleton, only a moment of disappointment hit before being completely content with 1.

As for now, I can't say I want twins because I cannot imagine having 2 babies like Oliver was (colicky, didn't STTN until 20 months, etc). Plus I love the one on one time we share and I'm sure I'd miss that as a twin mom. But I know if we had twins we would make it work, and there is a small part of me that would appreciate a "buy one, get one". (We'll be lucky to afford 1 more IVF, but we've always wanted a large family.)

kellyloveszach · February 2011

The first time around I really did. I am a twin and always wanted twins. This time around we put back two embies and I was excited for twins for a minute and then started to freak out. The idea of a toddler and twins makes me very anxious. I am happy one embie stuck. I would have been happy either way, but you know what I mean. I am amazed at the moms who handle toddlers and then twins, they are so impressive.

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