Not a job? Really?!

MaximusMomma · February 2011

Hey everyone I am a new mommy, since January 29th. I am a SAHM too! So anyways..

I'm really getting sick and tired of being told that being a SAHM is not a job!

I think that people think that all we do is sit at home and do nothing. But no, I clean the house do all our laundry and change nasty poopy diapers and feed DS all day. Along with waking up with him in the middle of the night.

To me it is a job. So what if we don't get paid?

Stacyc625 · February 2011

stuff like that doesn't bother me. I just smile and nod.

sassy_mommy · February 2011

Some people really just don't get it. I wonder if they think that being a nanny, daycare provider, accountant, (fill-in-the-blank for all that we do in a day) is a job. As a SAHM, you're doing all that and a thousand things more. Just because you don't get paid in dollars doesn't make it any less of a job or any less important.

JOEBunny · February 2011

SAH is not a job. Nope not at all, that is why people pay to hire nannies, housekeepers, yard people, and others to do work around the house. Nope not a job at all. Sure, try to get someone to watch your kids all day for free! Not to mention all the things I do for my children and for DH. It is the best job I have ever had. I had a career for 12 years. The people I worked with were rational, thought I was great and told me so, no one threw up on me, no one cried or yelled at me, heck, I was even treated with respect! Sure it could be frustrating, but the concept that SAH is not work is just not rational.

Just today, I was up at 5:45 with DS. Kept him quiet for an hour and 15 minutes until DH and DD get up. Took DD to school, took DS to the botanical gardens, picked up DD, 1.5 hours for nap and lunch, then took DS and DD to the science museum. DS fell into the bubble solution at the science museum. It is freezing out, so that was work, though funny work. I also went to the grocery store and made 5 different meals. I still have one more to make if DH ever gets home, but he is leaving almost as soon as he gets home to go play hockey. I also did 3 loads of laundry, dealt with DH's incorrect traffic ticket, put our rent checks in the bank, and got an estimate for some landscaping we are putting in, .

There are many worse jobs, like almost all of them, and you can say many things about being a SAHM, but "it is not work" is not one of them.

Enjoy!

MaximusMomma · February 2011

I think we should get more credit because we don't get paid! Seeing as how we do as much as someone who does, sometimes even more. I'm not complaining about not having an income of my own, because getting paid in love is even better to me Big Smile

EveryNameIWantIsTaken · February 2011

I'm still trying to figure out how you manage to cook, clean, find time to bump, and remain reasonably sane with a 5 day old! Kudos to me, I was nowhere near that together at 5 days!

EveryNameIWantIsTaken · February 2011

I meant kudos to you. See, I'm still not sane and mine will be 2 on the 20th!

ali-1411 · February 2011

Nah I can't call this a job. Most days, DH wakes me up as he's leaving for work. I send the first kid off on the school bus and then sit around with my coffee and the laptop until the second kid wakes up.

We eat breakfast, play, watch cartoons, exercise, have a playdate, basically do whatever I want all day long.

I can't call that work. But to each their own

mrsrobinsontobe · February 2011

MaximusMomma:
I think we should get more credit because we don't get paid! Seeing as how we do as much as someone who does, sometimes even more. I'm not complaining about not having an income of my own, because getting paid in love is even better to me

...because i work pt and don't have daycare, and have 4 months off a yr., this board is more "my life" than working moms. but i have to say...i just don't agree with this and a few other statements. sahms don't necessarily do more at home than moms who work, and they don't necessarily spend as much quality time with their children...and i like to think we all get paid in love.

having "done it all" ft, now pt, sahm for my son's first year, it's all a lot of work, and it all has its sacrifices and rewards! sorry i got all "mommy wars" on you, but that rubbed me the wrong way

MaximusMomma · February 2011

mrsrobinsontobe:
MaximusMomma:
I think we should get more credit because we don't get paid! Seeing as how we do as much as someone who does, sometimes even more. I'm not complaining about not having an income of my own, because getting paid in love is even better to me

...because i work pt and don't have daycare, and have 4 months off a yr., this board is more "my life" than working moms. but i have to say...i just don't agree with this and a few other statements. sahms don't necessarily do more at home than moms who work, and they don't necessarily spend as much quality time with their children...and i like to think we all get paid in love.
having "done it all" ft, now pt, sahm for my son's first year, it's all a lot of work, and it all has its sacrifices and rewards! sorry i got all "mommy wars" on you, but that rubbed me the wrong way

I'm not offended at all.

I'm just kinda peeved that people see it as us being "lazy" as I was called yesterday. Lazy? Ha.

mrsrobinsontobe · February 2011

ohmygoodness, you have a five day old! first congrats! and second, who calls a mom a 5 day old, (we're all at home then) lazy? between the hormones and the milk coming in, i would have burst into tears, or shot milk in their eye!

JOEBunny · February 2011

mrsrobinsontobe:
ohmygoodness, you have a five day old! first congrats! and second, who calls a mom a 5 day old, (we're all at home then) lazy? between the hormones and the milk coming in, i would have burst into tears, or shot milk in their eye!

This cracks me up! I didn't notice your little one is 5 days old, congrats! It is absolutely required one be as lazy as possible with a 5 day old. I couldn't stop staring at LO long enough to notice anyone else at that age.

susanmosley · February 2011

I am so confused by this post.

KarBear · February 2011

Me, too. Really, you couldn't even work if you wanted to at 5 days PP.

MaximusMomma · February 2011

KarBear:
Me, too. Really, you couldn't even work if you wanted to at 5 days PP.

Well obviously Stick out tongue

But I am not working even after I am able to, and I am be criticized by some people that I know for doing so. &&I couldn't hold my tongue and had to say something.

rachbenn2007 · February 2011

oh i hear ya sister! my DH's grandmother actually told me that i don't do anything but sit around the house while he's out risking his life every day! (My DH is Outside Powerline Lineman, he climbs 165ft metal towers everyday) i said well at least my "job" pays in hugs and kisses and thats the best "income". she didn't like that too much!!!

GingerSB · February 2011

it. is. not. a. job. You may want it to me, but it's not.

I don't work. I take care of my kids, but that's not work. It's parenting. Of cours eit's hard sometimes but so is life.

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GingerSB · February 2011

Congratulations on your new baby! Are you really cleaning the house and doing laundry at less than 5 days pp? Take a load off.

katiez411 · February 2011

Congrats on the new baby

I too have never really thought of this as my "job", just me parenting my kids and doing the same household work I did when I had a FT job. I just have more time to do it in now and get to spend more quality time with my family.

RaeAnt · February 2011

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https://articles.moneycentral.msn.com/CollegeAndFamily/RaiseKids/ThePriceOfAMom.aspx

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