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erind0213
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Rude Boss.. Opinions needed..(vent..long)
erind0213
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Back story..
My former boss I loved. She retired and a new under-qualified person replaced her. I worked my butt off from August (when she started) till the day I went out on Maternity leave (I worked up till I was induced).
I agreed that while on leave I would check my email and respond to anything I could and forward onto her anything else. I also told her I'd do what I could to help with any of the major aspects of my that would be taking place on leave, but of course I would also document my time.
Here is the issue:
1. As of Monday she changed my email password, and I contacted the tech guy wondering why my account wasn't working to which he replied, that he thought I had forgotten my Password and my boss had it reset. Meanwhile she replied that she thought she could better respond to people and so in a quicker manner, which is BS since I check my email throughout the day, night and weekends.
2. The dioceses scheduled a conference in Avalon, hour and half away, for Feb. 24th ( I am still on leave). I informed the dioceses that I would not be attending back in September, and they were understanding. Since then my boss has done everything to try and get me to go. Wanted me to bring my mom to watch the baby, wanted me to make a day trip out of it etc. I contemplated going for the day, but the weather has been unpredictable and it is an hour and half away. My counterpart from another school who is also going just for the day, offered to drive if I wanted to go with him.
This would have been great but I would have to leave between 6:30am and 6:45am and the person who will be watching the baby doesn't start till 7:15 am. And DH leave for work at 6:00am.
I told her I am unable to go cause of childcare issues. Now she is questioning my ability once I return to work March 3rd, to be to work on time, which isn't an issue, and she is also questioning why I'd be driving down with someone had I decided to go. I think that is rude and non of her business.
3. She has tried to make me feel like the responsibilities of my job are overwhelming her, when really the issue is she micromanages and hasn't spread out any of my duties to people that are perfectly capable, and has fabricated to me all that she has been doing while I have been gone.
My brother told me that during leave I am very protected by the guideline of FMLA, and really nothing should be asked or required me work wise. I have contemplated making a formal complaint to the dioceses, meanwhile I am also looking for a new job!
Thanks for listening.. any input or feedback would be wonderful
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Re: Rude Boss.. Opinions needed..(vent..long)
Number one: Find a new job a.s.a.p.
Number two: Tell her "how it is"
***She seems to have no respect for you now... it's only going to get worse when you return to work***
Good luck with all that! In all seriousness, I hope it works out for you.
What a b!tch!
I think you're being more than reasonable even offering to do any work while on ML. I would either write a complaint or get a new job, but there's no way I'd keep dealing with someone like that.
GL!
You did more than required during ML, IMO and she is just capitalizing on that and making you feel guilty so you can do more.
Find a new job or go above her to figure out a solution.
I hate micro-managers.
Your brother is right...you are not expected to work and should NOT work while on leave. In fact, working could even affect your disability pay if I remember correctly. In addition, you are protected and she can get in a lot of trouble for even asking any of this of you. Lastly, she can not change your password and go into your account.
If you like your job, I would report her so you can keep it. I would not give them one minute of your time (are you even compensated??)You will never get this time back with LO so enjoy.
And FWIW, if she has micromanagement issues, that's not your problem, don't let her make you feel bad about it!
My first question is does she respond to emails on your account? Or does she forward them on to herself? I would have a big issue with that one.
I believe you need to either make the formal complaint or find another job. I would not be able to handle that. It's hard enough leaving your LO as it is, it's going to be worse to go to a job that you will not enjoy as much because of her!
Best of luck!
If you like your job, I wouldn't try to find a new one, you shouldn't have to, in my opinion. These issues are all HER issues, and don't seem to be fair or legal, but that is my honest opinion.You shouldn't have to do anything while on maternity leave, this is your time to bond with your new LO! Talk about adding stress to what can be a stressful time already. I am sorry you are going through this.
I would file a complaint asap.
hope this helps!