Pregnancy and other people

NJMom050911 · February 2011

Has anyone else noticed that people seem to be extra nice to you once they see your bump? I find this a little odd but I do like that people take the time to smile and say hello and all that good stuff. But what strikes me weird is that if I'm wearing my jacket and you can't see my bump people bump into me are grumpy etc and as soon as I open my jacket they start smiling and being polite.

I don't recall acting any different toward pregnant women (when I wasn't), I try to be polite most of the time. I don't think I said hello and smiled at pregnant strangers either...or maybe I just didn't notice.

Tinybride08 · February 2011

Yes people are nicer to me like smiling or letting me go ahead in the grocery line. I still get a crack out of watching everyone's eyes go to my stomach.

tokenhoser · February 2011

A guy in line behind me at a burger place gave he a huge grin and a "You are so lucky!" a couple days ago.

It was weird. Nice, but weird.

andigurl · February 2011

I have always noticed that people are nicer to pregnant woman. My friends that recently had babies have confirmed this too. I just told DF and my mom the other day that although it's nice not having a big belly yet giving me back aches everyday, I can't wait until I have an obvious bump so that strangers would start being nice to me around here! lol.

BeachGirll · February 2011

All I have to say is enjoy it! I found that people were so nice to me when I was pg with my daughter; opening doors, etc., but once I was actually lugging around a baby, that was over! And that was when when I could have used the kindness!!

NJMom050911 · February 2011

BeachGirll:
All I have to say is enjoy it! I found that people were so nice to me when I was pg with my daughter; opening doors, etc., but once I was actually lugging around a baby, that was over! And that was when when I could have used the kindness!!

That's odd you would think people would be nice when you have a new baby with you.

It just amazes me, in a good way, that even though women have been getting pregnant since the beginning of time people still find it fascinating and take the time to be extra nice.

kammmmay · February 2011

Seattle has some of the rudest, crankiest people, but I have always been polite to people on the street, holding doors and what not, even though most people will not do the same. But since ive been pregnant, men have become a lot more friendly and helpful. Most women still wont be very courteous, but men have been getting stuff for me on higher shelves at the grocery store or going out of their way to pick something up if i drop it. Its definitely been an interesting experience.

katieguth · February 2011

I tell you what. I am loving the special attention and back rubs from DH. I know the second LO arrives it's going to end. I'm taking full advantage of it now while I can! Hehe!

JasonKristen · February 2011

I have noticed people being more outgoing and nicer to me too! Especially at work, people are always holding doors or talking to me in the elevator. That is if they notice. Some people can tell, but my bump isn't big enough for people to definitely be able to figure out I am pregnant.

amandabrooke81 · February 2011

I've found people are more considerate in general now that I'm pregnant and also toting around a toddler...

Now when I just looked fat instead of pregnant, I know there were people trying to figure out if I was pregnant but didn't want to ask.

theaustins05 · February 2011

I was at the commissary and 1: there were two men about to get in line in front of me with carts overflowing (way more than I had) and they both stepped aside and let me go ahead of them. 2: the line was still long so instead of waiting for one of the lanes to open up I noticed the self checkout was open and started piling my things on to realize half way through it was a 30 items or less self check out (I had about 50ish I'd say), no one said anything and the self checkout helper lady even helped me bag my things...

Normally this would not happen.

everam01 · February 2011

Co-workers are extra smiley with me.

I work at a college, though, and the students seem scared of me! haha!

pinkpear · February 2011

I've noticed this too. We were at a basketball game and I ordered a bottle of water and a cup of ice. The woman started to say "Oh we don't give out cups of...::glances at the belly:: ...I'll be right back."

I've never been any nicer to pregnant women than I am to everyone else. I try to be polite to everyone. It's funny how people react.

MrsDL · February 2011

Yes - I think they are but I also find some people treat me like I'm "delicate" and can't do what I normally do which pisses me off. I was in a meeting yesturday with my boss, my client's attorney & compliance officer discussing a project. The meeting was supposed to be 2.5 hours - it went to 3.5. All three of them kept asking me if I was "OK" half way through, kept asking if I needed a break or something to drink. At one point my boss said "you can go now if you want" when we realized we'd be going over the time we scheduled.

It quite frankly embarassed me - I felt like they assumed I couldn't do my job or make through the meeting because I'm pregnant. I know they were being polite but it annoyed me - and confused me - I was sitting in a meeting not trying to install drywall for crying out loud.

MeredithElese · February 2011

It makes me laugh because people are always really impressed/complimentary when I ask to use the bathroom. I was at a community group last night and asked to use the restroom before we left and the whole group gushed about how long I'd made it without having to pee. lol I haven't lost ALL bladder control... yet...

NeverEnoughTime · February 2011

I barely have any belly, so people just kind of look at me funny still.

But on the other end of the scale.. there is this one man at work who knows because I have told him and now he is SOOO annoying. At first, he would bring me Reese Peanut Butter Cups once a week, which I thought was funny. But then he started asking me all the time "how are you" like in a super duper caring sort of way. Sometimes he asks me 5 or 6 times a day. And if I am grumpy (which he usually makes me by about halfway through the day) its worse.. "everything o.k.? you seem off... baby o.k.? need anything? I can go get some peanut butter cups. No really, I will, I dont mind. How about Tums, do you need some tums? Water?'. I just want to SCREAM by the time he is done his rant.

arom729 · February 2011

I am one of those people who were probably nicer/creepy to pregnant women (before I was). When it hit me almost 2 years ago that I couldn't wait to start a family--but needed to wait--I couldn't help but get all smiley and dopey around pregnant women. Or stare at families with little babies/toddlers.

I haven't really experienced the extra attention myself, yet, though. I was wedding dress shopping with my sister three weeks ago and not a single person in 4 bridal salons noted/commented. That surprised me a little. Women in bridal salons are usually chatty!

Aquabee21 · February 2011

I think it's interesting that suddenly you become a more approachable person when pregnant. There are a couple younger women at church with kids that have never talked to me before, they always stick to their own group. Suddenly in the last month, they've made a point to come talk to me, relate their pregnancy stories to me, and ask me how I'm doing.

kikibird · February 2011

Just today had a funny/cute moment with one of my co-workers. I work in a museum and crossed paths with one of the guards in the staff lounge. He asked me how I was doing, but then proceeded to warn me about wearing the right kind of shoes for the weather and to be extra careful about walking around in the ice and snow. A couple of other guards showed up and this one guard started telling them how important it was to watch out for me. I found it very endearing. They are all very sweet guys and they're not more nice to me now than usual, just all of a sudden I feel like my baby has been adopted by a bunch of caring uncles!

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