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PCP/TTC/ATP Wednesday!
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QOTD: At what age do you plan to give your children chores? Will you give them an allowance for doing their chores?
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Re: PCP/TTC/ATP Wednesday!
QOTD: Only speaking for myself, I plan to give them chores as soon as they learn how to put their toys back in the bin...which we are working on now. That will be the first chore, picking up their toys.
Again, only speaking for myself...my thought is no allowance for chores, C and I don't get paid for washing their laundry (smile). Seriously, my hope is to hold off on money giving as long as possible. Call me an Ogress.
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Kiddos are growing like weeds and are learning so much. We are going to start trying to teach them some sign language for better communication. The "uh uh" needs to be replaced.
QOTD: I think chores are an important part of learning to contribute to the family. I agree that as our kids get older they will be expected to clean up their toys and then as appropriate help out around the house. I expect that we will also give the kids an allowance (again, when they are old enough) so that they learn about saving/money management/giving to charity/etc. but not one that is tied to chores--they are not expected to do chores for because they want to get paid, they are expected to do them because they are part of the family.
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Eli is continuing to grow so fast--he is starting to try to stand up without pulling up on things (so far unsuccessfully) and is fighting sleep because he wants to stay busy busy busy.
QOTD: A has been making her own bed since she was 4 or 5 and dusting since she was 3 (her favorite chore!). She just took on cleaning up the dog poo in the yard and I am giving her $1 for each day that she does it. I do not give her an allowance for chores but because she didn't ask for dogs (they are J's dogs and the one condition she had to bring them from her parents house was to clean up their poo) and she has to clean up after them I am giving her that money.
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This week has been great for A, she is mastering her math skills and her imagination is exploding. She is getting tall and growing out of all her shoes too.
I posted this in a new thread but... We are getting an adoptive placement! She is 6 years old with some issues that are being worked on and she has made a lot of progress since being placed in foster care. She should be moving in with us within a week and a half. I am waiting for our SW to get ahold of her CW to confirm everything.
Two Mommies Healing Hearts
QOTD - Like N2A, as soon as she can put away her toys that will be her responsibility. Growing up we didn't have formalized chores. My brother and I just knew what we were responsible for and we took care of it. We did not receive an allowance. I'd like to do the same with JB. For me it's about raising her to have her own sense of personal responsibilty for herself, her things, our house, her manners, etc. And I'm not convinced that one should be rewarded for doing what should be done. But as with all aspects of my parenting style I'm fully aware that I will need to adjust things to meet my child as a individual.
As of ATP - JB is doing great! I have no idea what her throwing up yesterday was about. She was perfectly fine all day in every other way. ::shrug:: She had her 9m appt on Monday. My little bugger is long, thin, with a gargantuan head - lol! Her newest thing is attempting to dance - so cute :-)
This exactly. You said it much better than I. :-)
The kids do things around the house now - they aren't official chores - but part of living in our house. They have to pick up all of their toys before moving onto something new, put their dirty clothes in the hamper in their room (and white socks in the 'whites' hamper in our bathroom), and take their plates from the table (when we eat in the dining room and not at the kitchen island) to the kitchen. Right now they don't get paid - and I don't forsee that changing in the future. Like S said, doing things around the house is being part of a family (they should be thankful that we have a house cleaning service and they aren't scrubbing toilets like I did as a kid.) Probably as they get older, they will be able to earn money for doing extra chores so they can learn to save/give/spend.
Thankfully everyone is back in school after being sick with the flu (or flu like symptoms.) I've half been expecting a call to come get them after dragging from their beds and stuffing them in clothes while they were crying, "BUT I'M SICK!!!!" I was pretty sure they would perk up when they got to school (they've been fever free for 24 hrs and were bouncing off the walls yesterday.) So far, so good.
This. Except there is no way I have the energy to seperate my whites and darks
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CT - Me either. L is in charge of the laundry.
Oh...and tomorrow is pajama/slipper day at the kids school. I really really really hope no one says anything to Carter about the pink slippers he picked out last weekend. He loves them and thinks they are so "beautiful." He'll look smashing in his rocket pjs and pink slippers!
QOTD: Ditto what pretty much everyone else said, lol. Cleaning up after himself and pitching in as appropriate will be expected. Allowance, maybe.
Henry continues to not sleep as well as he once did, though I am kind of getting used to it now. His first two teeth are slowly working their way through.
We are struggling a bit with food. I 100% believe he doesn't really need solids until he's a year, so we've been doing BLW. Well, we've been trying. It seemed like for a while there, he was into it. Enjoying playing with food, and sometimes eating a little or at least mouthing it. But then he started to get mad. He has no patience for sitting in the high chair with food while I eat (I say "I" and not "we" because with C working long hours lately, she is rarely home at meal times). So I decided to back off on giving him food. But then if I am eating something in front of him? He gets very mad. So I've tried sharing what I have with him, but he doesn't want to really share it - he wants to take it, maybe squeeze it once or twice, and then throw it on the ground! So I can't eat with him. And I can't eat in front of him. And as a nursing mom of a 20something pound baby, I. AM. HUNGRY. LOL It was getting to the point where I was avoiding giving him food, and avoiding eating in front of him, which is really not good.
So, I've decided to try a different approach. We are going picnic style. Tried it for the first time today. Each day for lunch, we'll sit on a sheet on the floor and Henry is free to dig in to what I'm eating, without being restrained in high chair. It actually went pretty well today. He didn't eat anything, just made a huge mess, lol. BUT he also didn't get mad. So I'm hoping that if I can just stick with this for a while, things will improve. If not, I guess I'll think about going to purees. I just really don't want to.
sahm ~ toddler breastfeeder ~ cloth diaperer ~ baby wearer
Funny you posted this, I was just thinking about this yesterday and trying to decide how I will handle this with DD. She already does some of the basics others have mentioned. I think it will be similar to others in that some chores are part of being in the family but maybe extra chores will lead to some extra spending money.
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DD's school does a "Countries of the World" performance every winter instead of a holiday-related event and the performance is this Friday night. Her class is doing South Africa. So they are making clothing (mud cloth) and other items from Africa, will do a song/dance from there, and are learning some words in the native language. She has been going around the house practicing a phrase which they will say to the parents at the end of their performance. The English translation is "thank you for giving me life." So precious, I can't wait to see it.