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WWYD: Shower Etiquette (odd situation)

BackthePackBackthePack
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One of my BFF's from college had her wedding planned for this coming June (I'm a BM). Well, I got a call today saying the wedding was moving up to April 2 because she is expecting (surprise!) in August. That only gives us 2 months until the wedding from tomorrow.

So I was talking to another BM tonight (another college BFF) and we weren't sure if we should throw her a wedding shower before the wedding or a baby shower after the wedding. We don't really want to do both (hosting showers can get expensive! Plus we have some form of a bachelorette party coming up.) We're definitely not doing a combined shower (that just seems tacky). Thoughts?

FWIW, We'll probably end up asking her what she prefers or needs more (she & her FI have been living together for over 3 years so I think they have quite a bit of house stuff but I know they have no baby stuff). Just wanted to check in & get some other opinions... 

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Re: WWYD: Shower Etiquette (odd situation)

  • sophabellesophabelle
    i'm not really sure... probably best to ask her, though if it were me, i'd much rather have a baby shower lol!
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  • PsychedRNPsychedRN

    Instead of a bridal shower, maybe a bridal brunch at a restaurant where each person pays for themselves. 

    Then have a traditional baby shower you and the other BM can host.

     

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  • erin_aaronsbabyerin_aaronsbaby member
    Do she and her FI live together right now? If so, they may not really need any housewares, etc...then you could just do a baby shower after the wedding. Otherwise, maybe they could register for what they need house-wise when they make a baby shower registry and just do a combo-shower?
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  • MelBee12MelBee12 member
    I would much rather have a baby shower...if I were here I wouldn't want a bach party but maybe like PP said a bridal luncheon.


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  • tracelinitracelini
    Ooh I had a bridal breakfast the day of the wedding and it was super nice. I like that idea from a PP to do a bridal brunch or something in celebration of the wedding and then maybe a baby shower at some point. (probably after the wedding) That's what I'd want if it were me. GL!
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  • aksprissakspriss member
    I'd def. choose the baby shower over the bridal shower esp. if they've lived together for a couple years. Not that there isn't probably stuff they'd love to get, but they prolly have the essentials for a home and would need the essentials and stuff for a baby!
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  • raceyraeraceyrae
    imagePsychedRN:

    Instead of a bridal shower, maybe a bridal brunch at a restaurant where each person pays for themselves. 

    Then have a traditional baby shower you and the other BM can host.


     

    I would do something like this.  I would feel bad not being able to give my friend both a bridal shower and baby shower given you probably would have planned to do them if timing hadn't turned out the way it did. 

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