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lmg423
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One Born Every Minute
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Did anyone see this show? Specifically the way the natural labor couple was treated? It really irked me. Any thoughts?
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Ya I got really annoyed with the nurse. She wanted her continuously monitored even though there was no indication the baby was in distress, and she kept wanting to check her cervix. Seriously when the woman tells you she needs to push then check it.
Also why is laboring longer then a certain amount of time a problem. She kept acting like her labor was "stalling" labor takes as long as it takes, there is no time limit unless your going on days or something! It was definitely med happy and making fun of the med free birth couple.
I didn't like the tone of the show as it related to the med free birth couple....with all the eye rolling and dramatics from the staff. The nurse said she had 2 natural childbirths of her own but seemed to check her brain at the door. I get that she had to do elements of her job but I don't understand how she could not empathize with the couple. Is it common for labor nurses to do cervix checks? At my hospital my midwife did all of them, nobody else asked or offered. I thank my lucky stars for my natural childbirth friendly hospital though.
I thought this hospital was actually somewhat more NCB friendly than others I've heard of...the couple in the end was allowed to labor as long as they wanted with very minimal intervention (in my opinion) and they pretty much got the birth they wanted. Yeah, they needed to do a little bit of pushback but I think her midwife was supportive and really that's all that matters.
I really hate the whole "i wouldn't get dental work without pain meds so why in the world would I do this without??" comments...could use less of those. Yeah go get loopy on your nubain lady...
It's funny to me that on my birth month board, the discussion is more that they can't believe they are putting their baby at risk by refusing monitoring and cervix checks.
I am avoiding the show because I don't need the negative vibes 2 months before my due date!
I can't watch those birth shows. I end up annoyed at how they are portraying the moms or by the type of care the moms are being given or by the way a normal childbirth is presented.
And after my daughter's birth, I just find it too distressing.
I've heard that there is a UK version of this show that you can watch. It's supposed to be much better and they show a lot of births with midwives, etc. It would be very interesting to watch that one and get an idea of how birth is handled/presented in another country.
This. All of the other boards seem to be talking about how annoying the "hippy couple" was....
I was wondering if anyone was going to mention it on this board and was looking forward to reading your opinions. I haven't seen it, but it was discussed on both the SAHM board and TTGP and pretty much everyone liked it and thought the *tone* of the show was really great. I wondered if it would be interpreted differently on here (especially when someone mentioned the nurses were talking about the patients at the counter- and it was "funny"), and I was right I guess.
Too bad. I am not going to bother DVRing it now. All it will do is piss me off.
I normally just lurk here, but THIS EXACTLY. I sometimes post on the 2nd tri board, and from their thread about this show this morning, it was an entirely different story.
I feel weird talking about planning an unmedicated birth, since this is my first pregnancy and I have no idea if I'll actually be able to make it without pain medication. So, I try to steer clear of conversations about this particular topic (IRL or on TB).
But, I have talked to my midwife about any unspoken "time limits" at the hospital where we will deliver. Her response was "There is no time limit as long as you're continuing to make progress." Right or wrong (and I'm allowing myself to stay flexible as much as possible), I interpret this to mean that I need to be checked as infrequently as possible so that there's no reason for them to tell me I'm not progressing. I am happy to allow them to monitor the baby's HR, etc, periodically.
Again, I feel very strangely discussing this topic since this is my first pregnancy and I obviously have no idea what to expect in the end.
Here's a short review of it on Jezebel.
https://jezebel.com/5749970/new-reality-series-mocks-natural-childbirth-methods
and another:
https://thefeministbreeder.com/lifetime-tv-shows-theres-one-unnecessary-intervention-born-every-minute/
I've seen the ads on TV and for some reason, the whole feel it gave off irked me. The show (from the ads) didn't appeal to me because it seemed to focus on the sniping between partners and drama rather than how beautiful birth can be. Well, that and the *way* the lady at the end of the ad says "Okay, now push!" My husband asked if I wanted to watch it, and I said no.
When it comes to birth shows, I've yet to find any I like, so I tend to start off skeptical.
The print ads put me off. They showed these women screaming like childbirth is this horrible thing. It looked like they were kind of mocking the women and their experience of giving birth. I think the title contributes to that feel too: "one born every minute" plays off the expression "there's a sucker born every minute."
ETA for some reason I can't get this to PIP so here's the link:
https://www.impawards.com/tv/posters/one_born_every_minute_ver5.jpg
Well after reading that, I'm glad I didn't watch it. Ugh.
I actually don't do novocaine...So I actually do get fillings done without pain meds.
There is a UK version. All deliveries in the UK are done via midwife unless there is a complication, but I can tell you that they were pushing drugs on me there as well, when I had my son. They had me try something called gas and air that made me vomit and they told me to fight through it when I told them I didn't want any more because it made me sick.
I don't know if it's still on the air, but the show "House of Babies" is wonderful. It follows natural births at the Miami Maternity Center. It made me want to move to Miami to have my baby there!!!!!
Where would I find those? We only have regular (antennae TV) but most of the time we are so busy we don't even watch things. Once or twice a month we'll catch up using Hulu on a show or two that we like. (I really like Blue Bloods because of Tom Selleck.) Does anyone know if this show (UK or USA version) is on there? I keep hearing about it on thebump but haven't heard any mention of in IRL.
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Same here. I guess it just goes to show that unfortunately, wanting a natural birth does not represent "the norm"... at least not here in the U.S.
I'm really looking forward to having a natural, intervention-free birth, but it's frustrating feeling like you're misunderstood by pretty much everybody.
so, i am a glutton for punishment and i watched the show. of course i am partial to the couple who chose to go it all natural and i kept wondering why they didn't do a home birth. they are the perfect candidates, unless she had some health risks that they didn't talk about on the show.
i absolutely hated the way they showed the staff rolling their eyes, laughing at her while she was moaning during contractions, and just the general tone of the older nurse that she had. the nurse at one point when she was getting off shift said that she was so happy to be done. i find that behavior to be very disrespectful. women should be allowed to have the birth experience that they want. i didn't see that reaction to the woman who got an epidural or the one who got a c/s.
oh and 24 hours for a first time mom...yep, sounds about right to me. i always tell my clients that it can take 24-30 to get a baby out. the hospital is not as used to that timeline as they need to get the moms in and out as quickly as possible to make room for the next one in labor. when you are at home there is no rush.
i rolled my eyes a lot and talked shiit to the show but i'll probably watch it again next week...maybe not?
The UK one can probably be found in segments on youtube, but you can't watch full episodes on their websites without a UK IP address. You may be able to watch the US version on Hulu or on the lifetime site.
Boo that's annoying. I think PattyPoundcake was saying her husband downloaded it from somewhere but I don't know anything about that.
Yep. Even wishing c-sections on them.
https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/48690576.aspx
Wow, I'm glad I forgot to DVR this, because I usually have no self-control when it comes to watching birth shows that I know will rile me up. I wish I could believe that it will spark positive discussion, but I kind of doubt it.
Maybe if anyone in my family sees it, it might help them understand why I am having a home birth. I keep hearing from my sister and MIL how I could totally just find a good OB and use a local hospital, and that the hospital policies that I know are practiced in local hospitals (non per os, continuous EFM, high epidural rates, routine IV, etc.) are not current. Even if some women can forgo the EFM, for example, I could not due to VBAC status (assuming I could even find a VBAC-supportive OB...). Of course, then there's my mom and SIL (doctor) who both think that doctors save every laboring woman's life, so they probably wouldn't bat an eye at routine Pit and bedbound mothers.
I was wondering what everyone over here had to say. The other boards talk like it is a fantastic show with awesome nurses and doctors. NOT how I felt!
I really hated how they made a mockery out of the couple who wanted a natural birth. Was it just me or did they even go so far as to pick music that insinuated they were rediculous? I thought it was awful how they really seemed to have to fight to be left alone. The nurse was annoyed every time they wanted to shower, or didn't want to use her position... Even was annoyed that she wanted to see the midwife! I was totally disgusted with the way they kept showing the whole staff looking at each other and the door like they were a bunch of freaks. I can't imagine how they will feel when they have to watch this show.
My heart broke for the woman who ended up with a C-section. She obviously had a traumatic birth experience with her first and no one, including her mother, seemed interested in making her feel any kind of confidence. The nurse kept saying things like "your ob was suuuure you could do this?", "well, we'll see how it goes...", "you'll probably end up with a c-section". It made me want to cry, watching the doubt and fear grow on her face with almost every comment.
I'm not surprised... but I was hopeful this one would be different.
The show irked me quite a bit.
1) the comments and eye rolling of the staff was irritating, but I also know that (as a medical professional) these things happen all the time. Highlighting it and making light of it seems a bit irresponsible, though. I will say that the behavior is less about making fun of people and more about self preservation when you have to deal with life and death and stressful situations...more of a gallows humor thing. I'm not really explaining this well!
2) It may have been the way it was edited rather than how the hospital actually runs, but they seemed to really look down on NB.
The US version is up on Mylifetime.com, I just watched it this morning. After watching 3-4 episodes of the UK version and one of this one I definitely have a preference for the UK version even though, they seem far more patient.
I usually just lurk here and enjoy reading the lovely birth stories and other posts related to my situation, but after reading this one, and all the others linked through it, I'm steamed enough to post! I haven't seen the show, I tend to avoid all of them for the same reasons as most of us: they make birth look like a punishment, like the most horrendous pain imaginable, unless you accept the super drugs and drift off to la-la land.
I feel so offended on behalf of the med free couple right now, based on what I have read of how they were treated, and the comments I've seen on other boards. My month board had one woman exclaiming how she just wanted to "slap the hippie couple." Ugh. Why are we considered hippies? Do we ALL reek of patchouli (not that it's necessarily a bad thing if any of us do
) Do we all run off to phish concerts or to smoke pot in the back of someone's van? These are the stereotypes, sorry, I think of when I hear the term hippie. So it thoroughly confounds me how being informed and prepared for a birth without any unnecessary drugs or interventions gets us grouped in with a stereotype usually involving drug use and free spirited politics. pfft.
On a side note, i did try to chime in with a bit of wisdom on my board straight from Ina May's Guide to Childbirth: when everyone was laughing about the moaning/chanting I paraphrased the snippit about how such noises can help relax the cervix and ease it's opening. I mean, I'd rather sound like a horse or a... very pleased lady
and ride a contraction out that way over having to be silent because I may "freak out the nurses or other ladies in L&D"