VENT: Due Date =/= Deadline!
I get that I'm having the first grandchild on both sides of the family, and that people are excited.
That said... I am 6 days from my "due date", which by my own OB's admission is just a guess (due to my really irregular menstrual cycles). Also by my own OB's admission, something like 5% of all babies are actually *born* on their due date, and many first time moms go late. My own mom has delivered 5 kids, and 4 of us, me included, were 1-2 weeks late.
In my own uterus, the baby's not dropped, and I'm showing no signs of impending labor, save the diahrrhea I've had this entire trimester due to DH and his perverse obsession with feeding me bran and veggies.
In other words, I'm not going to make any big plans for anytime this week, but I'm also not counting on delivering Sunday.
So what I am wondering, is why the H*LL do I log onto the Internet this AM and find, that our entire family still has this stupid-azz countdown clock going counting down to noon on Sunday for "my nephew/grandson/etc" to be here. UMM no. My FB page, texts, vmail, and email box are full of references of "6 more days!" and stupid crap like that. DH and I (due to blended families) have over a dozen siblings between us. This ignorance is inexcusable.
I am also hearing from third parties how other relatives are planning to fly in from out of town (presumably to stay with us) for the birth as a "surprise".
I do not have an induction scheduled (a HUGE point of contention with my side of the family, but this is another post). The baby will arrive when he's ready. And all this pressure to birth according to someone else's selfish schedule is incredibly stressful for me. I get that I'm hormonal, but I really feel like my family is setting me up for labor not to progress with this nonsense. This isn't the first instance of incredibly selfish/reckless behavior my family's displayed during this pregnancy, and it's getting to the point where I'm wondering if it's possible or wise to continue a relationship with any of them.
I am strongly considering shutting down the email portion of my phone and blocking the numbers of all our relatives at this point.
Just a vent; talking to these people is like banging my head against a wall.
Edited for crappy run on sentence.
Re: VENT: Due Date =/= Deadline!
Matthew Kevin
7/31/83-7/20/11
Met 1/8/00
Engaged 4/21/06
Married 9/29/07
Two beautiful legacies: Noah Matthew (2 yrs) and Chloe Marcella (8 mos)
Day Three
Lily was born at 43 week. Needless to say, I had to go underground for the last week and a half of my pregnancy.
I will say that I enjoyed the first week of being "overdue." My favorite part was when folks would ask when I was due and I got to say, "Last week!"
After the first week, people did start to get a bit nasty and that is when I stopped telling people my EDD.
Oh, I forgot to mention my voicemail greeting.
"Nope, I haven't had the baby yet!" ::beep::
Matthew Kevin
7/31/83-7/20/11
Met 1/8/00
Engaged 4/21/06
Married 9/29/07
Two beautiful legacies: Noah Matthew (2 yrs) and Chloe Marcella (8 mos)
Day Three
OMG, hilarious! I may steal that one too.
Then, I might cut my hair like yours...
This is what I don't get either. I know that many OB practices don't let you go past week 40 or week 41 without an induction. My OB's practice usually won't schedule an induction till week 42, which is fine by me.
First time babies are usually late if I'm to take the word of my highly regarded, board certified OB. Which I am inclined to take that over the word of my stepmom's church secretary's hairdresser or some random person like that.
Thank you! I am getting to that point, like I'm not telling them that no one but my husband will be there for the delivery and I'm refusing to answer stupid questions about my planned homebirth. Good luck to you too!
Red - I am honestly wondering if the hope is that being *there* means that they can bully/pressure me and the doc into an induction.
While nobody will provide a reason as to why they feel I should be induced (besides the fact that I was "playing God" and "being arrogant" when I refused to schedule one at 30 weeks) my parents'/stepparents' generation of the family are all SO angry with me for not getting one.
This is some of the most backwards logic I have ever heard. NOT planning an induction is "playing God"?? Alrighty then.
Sorry your family is being such a PITA.
I worked up to 41 weeks (I was induced at 42wks). I also loved when people would ask when I was due and I would say "last week"
Hehehe... yeah, the receptionist at my OB's office got a kick out of that.
Matthew Kevin
7/31/83-7/20/11
Met 1/8/00
Engaged 4/21/06
Married 9/29/07
Two beautiful legacies: Noah Matthew (2 yrs) and Chloe Marcella (8 mos)
Day Three
No kidding... totally backwards!
As Bill Clinton said, "I feel your pain" (biting lip and giving thumbs up).
A dear elderly friend of mine had told me months ago to tell people I was due "around Valentine's Day" (versus my ODD of January 27th). Me being a first-time mom, I was so excited about being pregnant that I totally ignored this. I kept thinking I'd be early or right on time. Now, I kind of regret that I did not listen to her
It's so hard, because part of me strives to be diplomatic and grateful that people care so much to call/make Facebook posts. Then the other part of me feels frustrated because a) I feel like they are just up in my business, and b) I just don't know how many more times I can say, "Thanks for thinking of us: you'll get the good news when the time comes!" with a smile on my face.
Not to mention that all of us are REALLY pregnant at this point! I have to stand on my tip-toes to wash the dishes, because my belly gets squished by the edge of the sink otherwise!
Good luck and best wishes, Fellow Mamas