I hate PP weight loss brags

pinkpear · February 2011

I hate it when women brag about how much of the baby weight they have lost right after giving birth. I get that it's exciting to lose the baby weight but a FB friend who had her baby a week ago just announced that she is back to her pre-baby weight. She even posted pictures. It is completly normal and healthy for it to take weeks to lose that weight and all these bragging women do is make other women feel bad.

When I have my baby I'm not going to worry about weight. I'll give myself time to enjoy my baby, breast feed, and focus on being healthy. A healthy mom is the best gift you can give to your child. They don't care what your pre-pregnancy weight was.

End of vent.

elisbu · February 2011

I agree 100%!

Plus, who knows, she might had a TON of morning sickness and lsot 20 lbs in the first tri. So getting back to her pre pregnancy weight would be much easier!

I am going to weigh myself right after I get home because I've heard it's cool to see the scale drop SO much in just a few days, but then I am giving myself 6 weeks to focus on baby and my health, but not losing weight!

VaulterMom · February 2011

I agree with you Smile

I have goals for after she's born (like being on a horse vaulting again starting in July) - but my weight isn't my concern. I just want to let my be introduced into my life and have all the positives I had - experience life, travel, learn Smile

sparkymcgeee · February 2011

While I agree with you it really depends on how much weight they gained during the pregnancy. I haven't gained anything yet and its really concerned me. I'm actually going to be surprised if I gain more than what I was pre-pregnancy. Now granted I was heavier to begin with but maybe she just didn't gain very much and she lost the weight because it was all water weight. That's not unhealthy imo. Bragging about it is tactless but that doesn't mean it was an unhealthy weight loss.

Pythia1022 · February 2011

I don't look at the scale at my appointments, I don't own one, and I don't let them tell me what I weigh. I agree, all the bragging just makes others feel worse about themselves. You're totally right, too, babies don't need a skinny mom, they need a healthy one!

kck329 · February 2011

I totally agree.

Of course I also kind of hate the "I haven't gained much weight" posts too. They make me feel like a fatty even though I know I've gained a normal amount of weight. I've just struggled with weight gain for years and watching the numbers climb freaks me out. I should stop looking at the scale too.

BetchySprout · February 2011

They don't bother me too much. Maybe that is her way of feeling better about herself? That doesn't mean her body doesn't look like a truck hit her and that she doesn't still look a few months pregnant. My whole front looked and felt like pudding for the first month postpartum, but I was under my pre-pregnancy weight (by far actually). If it is all you got, its all you got. I bet you dollars to donuts she doesn't fit in her pre-pregnancy clothes.

tokenhoser · February 2011

If it's been a week, she hasn't done anything to brag about.

That said, good for her. Beats the hell out of the complaining I get at work about still carrying the baby weight 4 or 5 years later...

mcwhittaker · February 2011

As someone that lost a LOT of weight before getting pregnant (110lbs after gastric bypass in 2004, gained 75 back in 2005, lost 70 in 2010 after finally having my thyroid disease correctly diagnosed) I will never begrudge anyone weight loss excitement.

I've gained WAY more than i care to think about with this pregnancy, but It will all come off eventually. Other people's weight loss accomplishments or failures will have no bearing on my own success.

I will not tolerate people making fun of or being cruel to those that are having problems losing their weight, baby weight or otherwise.

Maybe that's just me

farrellashleigh · February 2011

I agree somewhat but I'll tell you that from the other side of the argument she is just being a normal human being. Most women have varying degrees of body image issues and getting pregnant amplifies all of this. I dont think there's a pregnant woman on the planet that isn't worried about losing the baby weight afterwards, so the fact that she has so quickly is lucky for her and why bash her about it? She's just looking at it as an accomplishment regardless of the effort or non-effort it's taken and if she needs that for her own body image issues then so be it.

And I'll say that if you too are lucky enough to lose the weight immediately I'd be willing to bet that you'd be proud of yourself too and inclined to "brag", I don't know anyone who wouldnt.

Bakes4u · February 2011

Great post! Thank you!! It's about time someone said something like this instead of everyone being obsessed with being skinny so soon after birth.

mellydawn84 · February 2011

kck329:
I totally agree.
Of course I also kind of hate the "I haven't gained much weight" posts too. They make me feel like a fatty even though I know I've gained a normal amount of weight. I've just struggled with weight gain for years and watching the numbers climb freaks me out. I should stop looking at the scale too.

Me too! I hate that I've gained 20lbs, and other people go on about only gaining 3 or whatever. I know everyone is different but I hate that we put ourselves through this comparison with others, before and after birth. I think I will just start telling myself every day that I love my body, and that no matter what, I will be a great mom. Shift that negative focus! (I'm not a crunchy-granola person, just trying to be positive haha)

janjag · February 2011

9mos on, 9mos off is fine with me. Though I was still 7lbs up when I got pg when girls were 15mos. I give myself a break b/c of twin weight gain, but it does get harder to lose as you get older... I'm 37 so I think it'll be a challenge to get to my weight pre-twins.

Um, it's amazing how women get so into this stuff... sorry for my little essay. Yes, I agree w/you

heysupnatalie · February 2011

elisbu:
I agree 100%!

Plus, who knows, she might had a TON of morning sickness and lsot 20 lbs in the first tri. So getting back to her pre pregnancy weight would be much easier!

I am going to weigh myself right after I get home because I've heard it's cool to see the scale drop SO much in just a few days, but then I am giving myself 6 weeks to focus on baby and my health, but not losing weight!

this. i lost 10lbs the first trimester because i was SO SO SO sick all the time. i would of rather gained 10lbs in the beginning rather than having to deal with that.

mrs pH · February 2011

pinkpear:
I hate it when women brag about how much of the baby weight they have lost right after giving birth. I get that it's exciting to lose the baby weight but a FB friend who had her baby a week ago just announced that she is back to her pre-baby weight. She even posted pictures. It is completly normal and healthy for it to take weeks to lose that weight and all these bragging women do is make other women feel bad.

When I have my baby I'm not going to worry about weight. I'll give myself time to enjoy my baby, breast feed, and focus on being healthy. A healthy mom is the best gift you can give to your child. They don't care what your pre-pregnancy weight was.

End of vent.

I agree with you to a point that it is a little bit of a brag to post that on FB. But you know what also... Good for her! I'm sure she shed that weight off by doing nothing and that's just the way her body works. If she worked out regularly and was in great shape pre-pregnancy, I'm pretty sure that's why she's "back to normal". I also agree w/ pp that her body shape is probably not the same as it was pre-pregnancy.

And re: the bolded; Who's to say that she's not focused on her baby? Unless she's been posting on FB that's she's hitting the gym multiple times a day, you can't say that she's not "enjoying her baby". I don't think it's fair to judge her parenting style based on FB status about her weight loss. I don't know this girl (obviously) but I also don't think she's posting that to make anyone feel bad... She's probably just excited and proud of herself. I really don't blame her. I would be happy if that were my situation.

pinkpear · February 2011

mrs pH:
pinkpear:

I hate it when women brag about how much of the baby weight they have lost right after giving birth. I get that it's exciting to lose the baby weight but a FB friend who had her baby a week ago just announced that she is back to her pre-baby weight. She even posted pictures. It is completly normal and healthy for it to take weeks to lose that weight and all these bragging women do is make other women feel bad.

When I have my baby I'm not going to worry about weight. I'll give myself time to enjoy my baby, breast feed, and focus on being healthy. A healthy mom is the best gift you can give to your child. They don't care what your pre-pregnancy weight was.

End of vent.

I agree with you to a point that it is a little bit of a brag to post that on FB. But you know what also... Good for her! I'm sure she shed that weight off by doing nothing and that's just the way her body works. If she worked out regularly and was in great shape pre-pregnancy, I'm pretty sure that's why she's "back to normal". I also agree w/ pp that her body shape is probably not the same as it was pre-pregnancy.

And re: the bolded; Who's to say that she's not focused on her baby? Unless she's been posting on FB that's she's hitting the gym multiple times a day, you can't say that she's not "enjoying her baby". I don't think it's fair to judge her parenting style based on FB status about her weight loss. I don't know this girl (obviously) but I also don't think she's posting that to make anyone feel bad... She's probably just excited and proud of herself. I really don't blame her. I would be happy if that were my situation.

I never said she wasn't focused on her baby. Never judged her parenting style. I was simply stating that when my baby is born I'm putting the scale away for a few months and just enjoying my baby. Weight won't even be on my radar at that point. I will just focus on being healthy.

babyhunbun7 · February 2011

mellydawn84:
kck329:

I totally agree.

Of course I also kind of hate the "I haven't gained much weight" posts too. They make me feel like a fatty even though I know I've gained a normal amount of weight. I've just struggled with weight gain for years and watching the numbers climb freaks me out. I should stop looking at the scale too.

Me too! I hate that I've gained 20lbs, and other people go on about only gaining 3 or whatever. I know everyone is different but I hate that we put ourselves through this comparison with others, before and after birth. I think I will just start telling myself every day that I love my body, and that no matter what, I will be a great mom. Shift that negative focus! (I'm not a crunchy-granola person, just trying to be positive haha)

This is how I feel too. I hate hearing that people are not gaining, that is not good either. I hate seeing oh I only gained a pound, ugh. I have a healthy amount according to my doctor but it feels like a lot to me. I have always struggled with weight and it is so hard for me to keep weight off. The only thing that does it for me is running and bikram yoga, both of which I cannot do right now. It is really hard to watch the weight go up and up. I am not going to worry about the number on the scale after the baby. I just want to feel better about myself and start moving again. It is so hard with all the snow this year, I cannot even get out and walk with all this ice. I am so thankful for having a spring baby so I can get out with the baby and move a little with some sunshine.

andigurl · February 2011

I hate the weight loss "brags" or the "I have only gained 3 pounds" posts too! But I'll be completely honest and just say it's because I'm jealous!

Not that I don't want to gain any weight, because clearly I know it's healthy and a necessary "evil" of baking a child inside of my body. lol. But, if I could grow a healthy baby, birth it, and be back to my pre-pregnancy weight and figure a week after birth I would probably want to scream it out to the world (however I wouldn't because I have a little more tact than that I know woman everywhere would hate me for it).

EJensify · February 2011

Nine months to put it on.

Nine months to take it off.

...now if I'm still Fatty McFat in February 2012, we've got a problem.

theaustins05 · February 2011

pinkpear:
I hate it when women brag about how much of the baby weight they have lost right after giving birth. I get that it's exciting to lose the baby weight but a FB friend who had her baby a week ago just announced that she is back to her pre-baby weight. She even posted pictures. It is completly normal and healthy for it to take weeks to lose that weight and all these bragging women do is make other women feel bad.

When I have my baby I'm not going to worry about weight. I'll give myself time to enjoy my baby, breast feed, and focus on being healthy. A healthy mom is the best gift you can give to your child. They don't care what your pre-pregnancy weight was.

End of vent.

I totally agree, it does make other women who have more difficulty losing weight feel bad about themselves. However I know that if I got off all my baby weight a week after delivery...I would be shouting it from the roof tops! She's proud of herself and I can't blame her. Is it tactful to brag? No...but we are all guilty of it at some times. Just tell her "You go girl! And you better help me get my weight off too, skinny b!tch." LOL Yes

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