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SethandMelissa
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Should I stay Team Green with twins?
SethandMelissa
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DH and I are totally different personalities and I have been strictly team green while he's wanted to find out gender... but since we found out we're having twins, the thought of finding out is a heck of a lot more tempting. We would argue about it before, but DH seems to have recognized defeat, so I can quietly decide to change my mind if I'd like.
Would you find out if you were having twins?
We compromised that we would find out if they were the same gender or not because although they suspect identical, there's still a chance they could be fraternal.
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Re: Should I stay Team Green with twins?
If you think you can prepare for both babies without knowing, then I would stay team green if that is what you really want.
Although, with me I think it would be really hard. I'm such a planner that I would want to know either way!
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Hm, it's funny because the other day (we are Team Green), I said to DH, "If we found out we were having twins, we'd find out the sexes right?" and he was like "No...what difference would that make?" LoL - I guess my mindset was that having twins would be so mind boggling that knowing the genders would allow me to be even more prepared for their arrival, so I think I would end up finding out! It would just make me feel a little more "done and ready" and maybe less overwhelmed. Let us know what you decide in the end!
I personally could NEVER be team green with one baby, let alone 2! If I were you I'd definitely find out.
For me, finding out the sex really helps me "connect" with the baby, if that makes any sense.
Same here!
I'm team green, and nearly all of my close friends who've had babies recently have been team green. With the exception of my BFF who had twins in November. So I have said (b/c I've had the specific circumstances all around me) that if I were having twins, I would hands down, without a doubt, find out the sex of each baby. Another friend who was adamently team green for each of her two baby girls said the same thing - twins = find out.
The difference for me is the possibility of a 3rd "option"...for one baby it's either a boy or a girl. Only 2 options. The not knowing is hard, but I am comforted by knowing it's one or the other...with twins though, the fact it could be girl-girl, boy-boy, or boy-girl just adds that one extra "could it be" and puts me over the edge and into the "must find out" camp.
If you stay team green with twins though, you'll be somewhat of a personal hero to me, for whatever that's worth, haha
Because we are having 1 I am trying to convince DH to be team green. We had already agreed that if there were 2 we would be finding out. But because I am such a planner, I want to find out what we are having now, even though it is only 1. DH said it is up to me if we find out... he would be content either way.
I say do what your heart desires... if you want to find out now, use this as a surprise to your hubby to find out the gender. If you have already decided to find out if they are the same gender then you will know already if the answer is "no"
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A personal hero.... wow! That's something to live up to
Obviously we'd know the genders if they say they're different, but it'd be worth it to me to know that because fraternal twins are typically a safer and healthier pregnancy than identicals.
Part of my reason is selfish for not finding out. We need so much "stuff" for the twins that I don't want to get a whole bunch of cute frilly dresses or handsome onesies with baseballs at our shower. I'm hoping for the practical and maybe not knowing gender will force them into some practical items?
The other reason is that I was considered a high risk pregnancy before we knew about the twins, so with all the negative things to think about, gender is one thing that you can't go wrong with... although two girls would be delightful
if it were me, no way i could. we can't even decide on 1 boy name, let alone 2. i'm such a planner there is no way i could handle not knowing.
that being said i think it would be really exciting to find out after giving birth. so if you guys can handle it, go for it!!
I'd first want to know if they were identical or fraternal. That might sway my choice.
I am hugely on the team green bandwagon, but I understand the "ease" of finding out and being about to prepare.
I am an identical twin and my parents didn't know that they were having a girl, let alone two girls. My mom has always said that the surprise was unreal, surreal, and flat out amazing. She was unprepared...hence, my name was just something they thought of last minute to "match" my sister's, since I was unexpected, but it's a good story that my parents love to tell.
Completely your choice, but a surprise could be fun
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I am new here, infact this is my first post. But I too, am pregnant with twins (due 9/2-but they will be here August, so if its okay I want to join this board)
I would LOVE to stay team green. I really really didnt want to find out when we thought we were only having one bambino, but now that we are expecting 2 I am a little on the fence. It would be nice to know, so we can plan things accordingly, pink car seats, etc. I have a super huge gut feeling that they are boy/girl but who knows!
So here we are, still on team green, i figure if i do change my mind, we have a million u/s to do it, but once we find out we cant change our mind
I'd find out, but I'm nosey and in the camp that it is still a suprise at 20 weeks
Also if you do end up finding out, you could keep it a secret and announce it at your shower so people dont end up buying you a bunch of gender spec. clothes.
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Same here! With mine I'm having a CVS this week so I'll find out the genders in 2 weeks, earlier even then an ultrasound but I can't wait to find out so I can really plan. The nursery is green and the bedding is colorful and the same, but I want to be able to do things gender specific with the bouncy seat and high chairs etc, so they can be their "own person" and not have exactly the same stuff if it's a boy/girl mix.
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