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F/U to yesterday's in law vents...

amh_navyblueamh_navyblue
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I dropped the girls off today at my BIL's (where MIL is staying and will be taking care of them until the weekend) and I find out that apparently MIL was really offended and hurt the other night because she thought that DH was mad that she wasn't willing to pick up the girls and hung up on her.  I think DH was a bit peeved and probably not as understanding as he should have been, but he did NOT hang up on her, the connection got dropped and he apparently thought the conversation was over--I was standing right there and saw the situation for myself.  When MIL called back, I answered the phone because we were both wrangling the girls to bed and I worked out the details with MIL for today, but as I was talking to her today , she told me that I needed to let DH know that he needed to call her more in general (this has been a subject of conversation for awhile--DH is HORRIBLE about keeping up with his family on the phone and it drives them all crazy...I understand their frustration and at the same time find it pretty interesting that he has always been like this, but they always seem surprised by it) and that she wasn't able to sleep the other night because she was so hurt that he hung up on her.

Oh boy.  I feel for MIL--my venting about her is not because I don't like her, it's mostly just because we do things differently and approach things differently and that can get tiring.  I know she just wants DH to be a better communicator, but some days I really wish I wasn't the family diplomat who has to help smooth out these kinds of misunderstandings.  Wish me luck tonight when I try to get DH to call his mom.

 

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  • ArtslvrArtslvr

    Aw, I feel badly for her that she thought he hung up on her.  That must have felt like a slap in the face.

    My DH calls his family fairly often but the conversation is always short and shallow.  He literally tells them nothing. - just "yep, everything's fine here, nothing new."  Then I'll talk to, say, his mom and I'll say "well DS has been to a GI specialist and a cardiologist..." and she's like "WHAT?!"  He doesn't ever tell his family anything that I/they consider important. 

    But I mean, this is not exactly a news flash.  With some exceptions I'm sure, most guys are not exactly WONDERFUL communicators... or maybe it's just the guys I know...

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    My DH calls his parents fairly frequently but relays almost none of the conversation back to me. Even when I ask! Then weeks later, he will say something like, remember when my mom went to the specialist... No-- you never elaborated on your conversation. Then I feel like a jerk for not mentioning it, emailing a note or anything! Guys are really poor communicators in my opinion. GL!
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