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any one else not having a shower?

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I didn't have a shower for DS.   Our families tend not to have showers.    I did have a small registry and the Christmas before DS was born, a lot of people gave us baby stuff as gifts.    

My co-workers had a small luncheon for me at school and did a group gift.   DH's co-workers had cake for him and gave us a gift card.

We obviously won't have a shower for this one either.   Most likely, both of us will have a little something at work(just cake...nothing big)

 

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  • IdigDirtIdigDirt member
    I don't think I'm having one. A friend mentioned throwing me one months ago and never brought it up again. My mom is moving in a few months so its the last thing on her mind. I will be pleasantly surprised if I get one.
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  • mesrmesr
    me!  i asked not to have a shower for my first baby either.  i don't like being the center of attention, and i was intent on getting everything second-hand.  my colleagues had a little surprise thing for me (which i would have asked them not to do had i known about it in advance) -- the shock was so great that i was unable to even enjoy myself.  but i didn't have a friends/family shower at all.
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  • sunshine336sunshine336 member
    I really don't know. Our family and friends are very far away. We'll be visiting for 3 weeks in March but no one has said anything yet. I only have my immediate family living in this country (mom, sister, brother), and I know they won't be throwing me a shower (that sort of thing is quite foreign to my mom, and my sister has a 1 month old baby of her own). DH's family might, but I just don't know since they don't have a lot of money. I know my friends are planning to get me gifts b/c a couple have mentioned so but whether or not they're planning any type of shower is beyond me. I just can't wait to see everyone so while a shower would be nice, I really just want to see my loved ones and spend time together.  I wish it was March already!
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  • mrs.happymrs.happy member

    I'm not sure.  My mom has mentioned it, but I don't know if I want to.  I don't know where to have it or who to invite.  My mom is estranged from most of her family, and my dad's side of the family is not close either.  DH's family is scattered all over the country, as are most of my best friends.  

    I ran into the same issue with my bridal shower.  That time, my mom flew to where I was living and hosted the shower at my apartment.  My bridesmaids and MIL flew in, and we had some in town friends too.  It was great, but that isn't going to happen again for the baby shower.  I live a lot closer to my mom now, so she wouldn't have to fly, but I don't really like the idea of her hosting it at our apartment - seems too much like me throwing a shower for myself.  Also, I just don't feel like I have that many friends in the immediate area to invite.  Inviting friends who I am not super close to feels like just asking for gifts, which I feel uncomfortable about.

    DH has a lot more close friends in the area, and I am definitely friends with them and their wives too.  I would like to do a Jack and Jill type shower, and I feel like then there would be enough people, but DH isn't so into the idea. 

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  • kate05kate05 member
    I don't know.  My mom is sick and cannot handle planning one.  She hasn't told anyone she is sick so I think the rest of my family is assuming she is going to handle it.  I can't really ask someone else to throw one so unless someone does I probably won't be having one. It irritates me a little bit because my dad comes from a large family and I have always traveled for their bridal and wedding showers. 
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  • thegoods22thegoods22
    I wont be.  It's our first and last baby, but there is no one to host it.  My mother is literally my only family, the inlaws are in Canada (we're in the US), I don't have any female friends in the area.  I'm sad about it.
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  • SierrasMommySierrasMommy
    I will most likely not be having one. Since this is my second child, a lot of people frown upon having a second shower. I did have one with my first daughter, but it was more of an informal picnic than a baby shower, although we did register. At first I was sad I wasnt going to be able to have another shower, but now I really dont want one. I dont need one since we have a lot of stuff left over from our first daughter. And a lot of friends/family are either giving us items to use, or buying them for us. The rest we are just getting on our own and we will be all set.
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