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Any first time moms out there a little scared?

rachellaura86rachellaura86 member
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My husband and I are really excited about our soon to be LO joining our family. My pregnancy was a little bit of a surprise- we were planning on starting to try this summer, so she just came a little earlier than expected. So I wouldn't say that we aren't ready- she was definitely in the plans for the immediate future! :)

I have been overwhelmingly happy, but sometimes have these thoughts of extreme nervousness. Just questioning if I am really ready!! I value my alone time a lot, and I know that will be a big adjustment. I also love to sleep :) I guess what makes me the most nervous is that my career isn't quite where I wanted it to be... I have been working on starting a small business on the side. I was hoping to be able to have it up and running in time for baby- because I could work from home. My husband's company is also not doing very well and we are nervous he may lose his job. So everything is just up in the air.

I'm just trying to roll with the punches, I guess your life will never be perfectly planned out the way you want it to. I'm just kinda scared sometimes about all of the change!!! Sometimes I dont even feel old enough to be a mom- yet I'm 29. Just lots of adjusting. It's a really really exciting time but scary too! Thanks for letting my vent! 

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    stylechild622stylechild622 member
    terrified. always lol to the point where its comical.but its normal. we are pregnant and already mommys and we wont stop worrying about our kids till we are dead. lol
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    angiek1angiek1 member
    Popping in from the 1st tri-board (but I'm so so close to joining this board) so I thought I'd let you know I have fears as well. I'm thrilled to be a mom, but scared as all get out. My career is in a very busy/growing/intense spot and I love it! I just hope I'll learn to balance my career and being a great mom. So many women have me scared that I won't be able to be a good mom and the career woman I want to be. I've started to put myself around women who can do both, but it is an intense feeling. I'm sure it'll all shake out. I mean we are still young so we'll bounce back and learn to balance:)
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    kacellekacelle member

    I'm a little scared, sure.  DH and I got married 8 months ago and got pregnant 2 months later, so we haven't had very much time as the fun, young married couple.  I guess I'm mostly scared that we won't be able to grow as much as a couple in the early stages of marriage because we'll be so preoccupied with a baby!  But we're both so excited.

    Ditto to the feeling young part.  Then again, I'm 20, so I guess I really am young for a first-time mom! 

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    IrishEyes0530IrishEyes0530 member
    I am also super excited! I'm excited about having LO here and excited about being pregnant.. The part that makes me nervous isn't necessarily whether I'm ready or not, but the actual labor and delivery. I've seen a couple birthing videos and frankly, it scares the sh*t out of me. I'm a little scared to get to the 3rd trimester just because it means I'm closer to having to go through the birth. I try not to think about it, but it's hard not to! I do stress about money some but, it is what it is, no sense in stressing!
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    Zach&KellyZach&Kelly member
    We're definitely excited but scared to death at the same time too!  I really don't know any first time mom's that haven't had at least a little bit of fear of the unknown.  I'm just trying to stay totally involved and make sure I get as much knowledge beforehand.  I've been asking everyone for parenting advice as well as financial saving tips!  Good luck and I'm sure you'll be just fine.
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    HallilHallil member
    I have my moments of complete fear of the future, and at those times I feel so very unprepared and like I can't possibly do a good enough job. I just have to remind myself that everything will be okay and I CAN do what I need to do. It's tough in those panic moments though, and the rest of the time it's very exciting.
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    bigheyesbigheyes member
    A little scared is an understatement!!!! But, my doctor says it's normal, and good to be scared.
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    definitely scared!  about labor, about taking care of someone 24/7, about money, etc.  the list could go on and on.  but like all moms say-it's totally worth it.  it's hard to wrap my head around the idea of having a little one become a part of our lives so soon.  it'll be amazing! 

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    iamrobyniamrobyn
    I totally know what you mean. We were planning to get pregnant and yet I'm still a little shocked by it all.  I really enjoy spending time with just my husband, and I also value my down/lazy time.  I have a hard time imagining what life will be like.  Imagine my shock when we learned 2.5 weeks ago that we're having twins... So, yes, scared. That about covers it. But just like you, i"m trying to roll with it.  And most days, I'm more excited than scared :)
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    PretzelMom22PretzelMom22
    I'm scared of the labor process. I've had my mother tell me that it's worth it, But I don't see how it is when you have to carry it for 9 months and then your water breaks, your in a tremendous amount of pain for however long it takes. I just don't see it! Am I missing something?
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    ksproulksproul member
    Very scared! About lots of different things..but mostly about labor (b/c I'm a big baby with pain) and money (how one earth will we ever have enough?!). I also enjoy my alone time and sleep. I'm just trying to tell myself that it will all be worth it and we will find a way to make it through. And I'm trying to get extra sleep and alone time before the baby comes!!
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    lynn97lynn97 member
    Oh yes I'm scared! And we tried for a while and are absolutely thrilled to be parents.  I'm scared of many things - giving birth, the post-birth, acclimating to life with baby, whether I'll be a good Mom, how this will affect DH & I, money, etc.  But I think the fact that we're all concerned about these things are signs that we are as ready as we're ever going to be.  Sure we're all happy but we're also all mature enough to realize that life will truly never be the same. I'm sure we'll all be just fine in the end.
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