Birthday (mine) vent
DH is terrible with birthdays, even though we've been together over 10 years and I've made it clear what I want (it's simple- I don't cook or clean on my birthday, and I want some kind of special "thing" that we don't normally do. Dressing nice and going out to dinner makes me happy.). Knowing this, I started telling him I wanted something "big" for my 30th right after my 25th.
I turn 30 next week, and started reminding him to do something in September. Doesn't have to be huge, just SOMETHING that involves our friends and family. If it were summer it would be easy- we could have a backyard BBQ but that's not as fun in February, lol. What has he done? Jack sh*t. Well, he did start planning something but it fell apart and now there's absolutely NOTHING. Surprise parties aren't his thing, so I know he isn't planning anything on the sly.
I have like 5 close friends, so it shouldn't be that hard. I would even help plan it, as would Taytee if he asked. Hell, even planning a really nice fancy dinner where I have an excuse to get all dolled up would make me happy.
I know this is going to be a huge fight next week and I am so not looking forward to it.
How hard can it be to do something, ANYTHING for your wife's 30th birthday? I made it very clear that I wanted something so it's not like he's clueless.
Re: Birthday (mine) vent
Men suck sometimes, especially when you make it SO EASY for them to come through.
I hope he surprises you and pulls off something great.
My H is the same way. I have to tell him exactly what I want and when I want it. Then - and only then - he'll make it happen.
I'm a little worried about this myself. I feel stupid whining about it, but the truth is that I could really use a pick-me-up and soon. When DH turned 30 I started planning his surprise b-day trip to Vegas over a year in advance. And it was awesome. So he knows what the standard is, haha. Truthfully, I'd be happy with a party or dinner with friends. I might be traveling for work on my actual b-day (a Monday) and we talked about having DH be there in NY with me on that day but I think that'll just feel too much like work. I'm hoping he'll have something awesome planned (b-day in April).
Like I said, I feel stupid whining about this, but you guys have no idea how badly I need a vacation.
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I'm sorry you are frustrated!
Maybe just plan your own party. I know it's not as fun, but you'll still have a great night.