Thinking about #3...

Brina Bean · January 2011

Any insight, advice, tips etc. Just toying with the idea...thanks!

HarrietNJMommy · January 2011

This gets asked a lot. If you scroll down, you'll see responses.

There's no right answer. If your DH and you want a 3rd and are on the same page, go for it!

I CAN tell you that you go from "man to man" defense to "zone" defense. You are outnumbered and the logistics are harder......

GL!

Brina Bean · January 2011

I appreciate your response. I know it gets asked a lot, so I scrolled down but didn't exactly see the insight I was looking for. Of course, I'm not exactly sure what I'm expecting to hear/read, LOL. It's a very new idea for me. I'll keep scrolling back. Smile

HarrietNJMommy · January 2011

Brina Bean:
I appreciate your response. I know it gets asked a lot, so I scrolled down but didn't exactly see the insight I was looking for. Of course, I'm not exactly sure what I'm expecting to hear/read, LOL. It's a very new idea for me. I'll keep scrolling back.

What insight are you looking for? Do you have specific questions?

Brina Bean · January 2011

Hrmm...good question. Smile

I guess, to start(after having read back on a post like this a few pages back), what were your fears about having three(if any)? What was it that made you want a third? At what point did you feel like you had somewhat of a routine going? What is your favorite and least favorite part of having three? Obviously, there are numerous aspects to consider when answering these questions(your personality, DH's personality, your childrens' personalities, access to help, etc.). I guess I'm just looking to relate and hear anything pertaining to having three(sorry to be so vague). Thanks in advance!

MammaBear81 · February 2011

what were your fears about having three(if any)? We didn't have any fears about having three

What was it that made you want a third? We always wanted a large family, it was never really a question in our minds

At what point did you feel like you had somewhat of a routine going? I am a very organized person so I had a "routine" when I had one, and I just incorporated the second, third, and fourth as the family grew... I do admit that I'm over organized, but it helps me sleep at night!

What is your favorite and least favorite part of having three? favorite: family dinner time! least favorite: Those rare days when the kids fight over everything, they are rare, but man they are horrible!

Overall we have very easygoing kids. DH and I are both on the same page when parenting, and I think that helps a lot. I used to work in daycares, so I was very used to caring for 3-4 kids of the same age at the same time, so caring for multiple kids at different stages is easier for me. I did have to go from working part time to full time, but that had more to do with the job I had then the # of kids we have. Our bills are set (childcare, we cloth diaper, health insurance, housing) so having more kids isn't as much of a"financial burden" as it might be on other people. This is why each situation is different. does that help at all?

HarrietNJMommy · February 2011

I guess, to start(after having read back on a post like this a few pages back), what were your fears about having three(if any)? My only fear was that DH works long hours and at the time was travelling a lot and I have no help around at all.

What was it that made you want a third? We wanted a big family.

At what point did you feel like you had somewhat of a routine going? "Somewhat of a routine"? Probably around 6 months. But a GOOD routine? After my LO turned 1. I am a very organized person as well, but I do NOT do well with sleep deprivation. All 3 of my kids took almost a year to STTN (DS was 1 when he finally STTN). I EBF all 3, and so it took a toll on me........DS is my most laid back kid and he wasn't trouble at all - just wouldn't STTN.

What is your favorite and least favorite part of having three? My favorite is just the dynamic - 3 kids with 3 different personalities. Least favorite - when you have 3, chances are, someone's always cranky, someone always needs something, etc. You get LESS "me" time. And since I'm home with them all day long, it's hard when you don't get as many breaks.

GL!

Brina Bean · February 2011

Yes, very helpful! Sometimes its nice to read someone else's thoughts on the subject, especially when they coincide with my own. Since you've already "been there, done that", I can get some perspective (even if the scenarios aren't exactly the same). DH is open to the idea so we are going to keep talking about it over the next few weeks...thanks again!

LDQAM516 · February 2011

We are in the same boat!

jkelly41 · February 2011

I already am thinking about #3, which is crazy since I was adamant DD was my last when I was pregnant. DH always wanted four and now says he's done. I think when DD is two or so we'll make a final decision.

I'd love a big family but I'm not sure our resources could support another one (not just financial either)

Brina Bean · February 2011

I hear ya. DH always said he wanted 2 or 3, and I thought 2 would be enough. Now I'm leaning toward 3 after having convinced him that 2 was the "right" number. Our boys are totally easy-going, great sleepers, I had "easy" labors and deliveries and enjoyed my pregnancies. They have really learned to play nicely together in the last month or so. Since everything has fallen into place so well, I feel inclined to add another. Even if our third child "breaks the mold", I think, so what? We will love him/her all the same and the boys may very well be positively influenced by the difference in personalities. Eh, I'm just thinking out loud...

Fasa · February 2011

Brina Bean:
Any insight, advice, tips etc. Just toying with the idea...thanks!

We are also. DD#1 will be 3 in April and DD#2 just turned 1... I'm excited but nervous all at the same time!

vanessaNOV2 · February 2011

You gotta be 100% ready mentally to try for a 3rd. At moment dh and I are not taking a 3rd off table but we are gonna wait years before dicussing a 3rd baby. #2 was a surprise so we want to plan for a 3rd.

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