A little background info. I met my husband as a single mother to a 3 year old boy. He was a single father to a 3 year old girl. The love was instantaneous and the 4 of us quickly became inseparable. She is 5 years old now. My step-daughters mother had been out of the picture for a year when we met and she really had no memory of her. But she does have major behavioral problems due to being neglected and emotionally abused for the first two years of her life by her bio mom while DH was overseas in the military.
I'm at my wits end with her. I'm doing everything to be a good mom to her but she is manipulative, destructive, and out of control. She never listens to a word I say. Today I had to pick her up from her preschool early because she couldn't be controlled by her teachers and she was screaming, kicking and hitting them, and disrupting the other classes. This was because she was not picked to be the line leader. She has no remorse for her actions. I've taken away her TV, her ability to play the computer/Wii and her favorite toy. It's obviously not effective because her response was "Ok, fine. I don't care."
We've attempted counseling in the past but it doesn't seem to do anything. At this age they only do play therapy and we were paying $50 a session for her to be observed painting a picture.
Any advise or suggestions? I feel like I need to call her pediatrician but I don't know if that what Im supposed to do. Help?!