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MrsMoody2006
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9 month appt: possibly searching for new pedi
MrsMoody2006
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Graham had his 9 month appt today, he is 29 1/2 inches and 19 lbs 10.5 oz! I was reading the handout and something really struck me the wrong way! A direct quote "Most infants now cry when parents leave there presence. This behavior could mean your baby is "spoiled"" I was completely shocked that a pediatrician's office would tell a parent that their child is spoiled because they cry when their parent leaves their sight.
The handout eventually gets to a section on sleep. It says that most babies are sleeping through the night at 9 months, but if not you should call the pedi's office or "refer to Solve Your Child's Sleep Problems by Dr. Richard Ferber"
I think it's time to find a pediatrician who is more akin to the AP style
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Re: 9 month appt: possibly searching for new pedi
WOW! That's all I can think to say.
I was offended by our office's vaccine policy...basically if you wanted to split any of them or do a modified schedule they wouldn't treat you or vaccinate your child. It was a long one page explanation...and although we follow the general vaccine schedule, I still think EDUCATED mama's (i.e. those that have done their homework and not referring to dated research or what they say on Oprah), should have the choice.
***sorry for typos, I have nasty eye infection and can only half see
Did you point these out to your pedi?
If you are happy with your pedi otherwise and he isn't pushing you about these things throughout the appointment, I'd stick around.
GL, pedi searching sucks!
Wow. Just wow!
Our pedi's office (at a university hospital!) also has some questionable/outdated info in their packets. For last appt, one that I specifically remember was that we should FF our kid after 1yr and 20lbs. I know that each packet there are a few things "wrong," and not just because I lean AP- developmental, sleep, food as well as parenting things that just aren't right. I just stopped letting DH read them, since he doesn't have other sources of info besides me :-p I hold out hope that the residents and pedis know better/are more up to date, and since besides a little sleep conversation with one, I haven't heard bad things from them, it seems reasonable.
The "spoiling" thing just seems way out there, though. Besides being questionable, it's just more parenting than I want from my pedi. If I liked them otherwise and you don't hear this out of the packets, I'd still probably just ignore, though. I get that it'd be nice to be able to discuss parenting comfortably with pedi, you just have to decide how important that is to you.
Yeah, I agree. Your ped might not even know those things are in the handouts and/or might not agree. If I was cool with the ped otherwise I wouldn't care about the handout. If I felt really strongly about what was in there, I'd ask if the ped had read what was being handed out. And then do what I want anyway
the pedis at my practice not only disagree with their handouts, they also disagree with each other. i think it's ridiculous to consider switching pediatricians based on a random handout. if you want to switch, base it on the care your actual child is getting. i worked in an office for years and we'd laugh you out of there if you decided to fire one of our docs because one utterly reasonable one-line suggestion in a generic handout that might not even apply to your baby offended your parenting philosophy's sensibilities.
imagine your ACTUAL conversation:
dr: any sleep problems?
you: (who doesn't expect baby to sttn) No.
dr: good!
alternately:
you: baby doesn't sttn yet. it's been hard on us.
dr: hmmm, well you might try ferber.
you: oh, i don't know if i want to do that.
dr: well there are other methods. here's an alternative.
you're getting worked up over nothing, imo.
additionally, to the pp -- a doctor has the right to refuse service to patients whose health decisions are against their medical advice in a serious way. its a legal necessity. my office refused to take on patients who insisted on bradley births, because they can't provide what they deem proper medical care to people placing those restrictions on them. you can't force a doctor to do what they deem poor medicine, no matter if you got your opinions from oprah or dr. sears.