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Vieve831 · January 2011

Hello Everyone -

I've been reading these message boards for about a month now - started TTC in Nov 2010. Wondering what people's opinions are on sharing with friends/family the that you are TTC? For some reason I feel like I'm supposed to keep it a secret and just announce if I get pregnant, but its hard because its all that's on my mind. Not sure if I want to add that additional layer of pressure/stress though..... Thanks for any advice!

Milliways · January 2011

I told EVERYONE the first time, which made it hard when I didn't get PG right away, this time we aren't saying anything to anyone except my Mom (who knows that she can't aske anything about it)

osuwku · January 2011

Welcome and good luck! MH and I personally aren't telling any of our family because we feel that it adds more pressure. We have each told a few friends so we do have some support and people to talk to about our excitement!

FroeschleN · January 2011

Hubby and I orignially wanted to keep it a secret until I would get pregnant... then we told his mom, then he spilled the beans to some friends, so on and so forth... we're not hiding it anymore. When people ask me if I want a baby, I just fess up now and say we've been having troubles TTC... a lot of times they are really encouraging and sometimes have stories of their own that they share.

Tea712 · January 2011

Hi and welcome!

It's really what you're comfortable with and you know how your family will act with that information. I told my mom and told her she could tell my dad only. I am very close with my mom and she is very sensitive with info I tell her (I know she won't tell others or ask me every week if I'm pregnant yet). Other than that one of my co-workers knows b/c she's also trying. Either way it's nice to have this board as a place where you CAN talk about all this stuff on your mind.

Good luck to you!

salt78 · January 2011

Hi and welcome!

Some of our family members know and a couple of my girl friends, but that's just because keeping stuff like that a secret has never been my strong suit.

Good luck to you.

doozer1345 · January 2011

I would just do what feels comfortable for you. For me, it's easier to come here and talk about it. Although, most everyone knows for me just b/c we've been at it for a while. But, just do what is comfortable for you and your DH

Milliways · January 2011

kdodge423:

It's your choice. Some prefer to keep it private, others are more open. We told everyone when we started, which actually made it much easier to explain when we started with an RE- they knew we had been trying for a while and were getting nowhere.

I love seeing you over here...not too much longer now! Stop being such a stranger. Smile

mrsharris15 · January 2011

Welcome and Good Luck! It's really a personal choice. We've told a few people, mostly close friends and immediate family.

rachbenn2007 · January 2011

with my first pregnancy we didn't tell anyone cause it happen right away, but with my 2nd pregnancy we did and it was a pain cause every month somebody would ask if i was pregnant yet. this time i only told a few family members but basically my whole family knows except my DH's parents and grandmother.

Moose2000 · January 2011

Hello, and welcome! We have not told anyone at this point. We wanted to keep it a big surprise for our family. We have been married 5 years and they kind of gave up asking us when we're having kids in year 3. I think they assume now we just dont want any - but really we just wanted to have some fun together for a while before kids! So it will be fun when we can tell them. The downside to it, is I dont have anyone but DH to talk to about it (and the women her on the bump of course!), but I do feel lonely at times because of it.

But it is an individual decision, I think there are pros and cons to both sides.

siple1am · January 2011

It's really up to you. I told my mom, but we are really close and she is a great resource since she had endo and of course, so do I. We are not telling DH's family because they are so negative, drives us nuts! But we are talking about it friends who are thinking about it, or even not, just to get some support, its always nice (although finding this website was an amazing thing!)

KayD2010 · January 2011

I have shared with a few close co-workers (one of whom is pregnant). They are not the type to blabber and it feels 'safe' because they don't know any of my friends or family outside of work. I also plan on telling them as soon as I get pregnant, even though DH and I are planning on waiting till 12 weeks to tell everyone else. I find that it's nice to have someone to share with.

abnormal06 · January 2011

I am in the same boat! Well...I was. My husband and I have been TTC since October and decided we were not going to tell anyone. However, I haven't had a period in 44 days (and had yet to read all these posts, I'm a newbie Big Smile

) and was/am testing negative. I decided to then talk with my Mom, who (being a Mom) suggested I go to the doctor. Tomorrow is my appt. I think I still want to keep it a secret though even though it is all that is on my mind too!!! Best of luck to you!

elandric · January 2011

I think you do what feels right to you, If you are someone who likes to have someone to confide in about this process, then tell someone. Be prepared for them to ask you about it consistently. If you would rather not share with those IRL, then I think this board is a good place to get it all out.

Welcome and good luck to you!

tryingtogetknockedup · January 2011

we have decided not to tell anyone because we think it'd be added pressure on us & we're stressed enough as it is!

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