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DH Vent!!!!
Arrrrrgggggghhhhh! My DH is driving me crazy.
Since I've gone back to work, I have no time to get my work done. I'm a prof so I only have to go in 3 days a week to teach my classes and hold office hours, but I have a ton of preparation, planning and correcting to do outside the classroom. My commute each day is 3+ hours round trip, so I don't have much time to get work done at school, and when I'm home with both the boys I can't get anything done. (I'm home with them alone TR).
So DH and I agreed that on Sundays I would do work and he would watch the kids. Well, today I decided to stay at home and work in the bedroom rather than going to Panera to work because I need Internet access (and Panera cuts you off after 1/2 hour during the hours of 11-2).
Well, DH keeps coming in the room. Then, I heard Ben screaming for quite some time. I go out and DH has stuck him in the crib to CIO while he unloads the dishwasher and James runs around. He tells me he's decided to start sleep training him. Now, we do plan to do sleep training, but starting at night and DH has no idea how it works-- he thinks he just sticks Ben in the crib and lets him cry it out till he falls asleep (whereas what I want to do is use the Ferber method and go in every few mins to reassure him, and do it slowly).
So, I get Ben out and try to calmly explain how it's not a good time to start sleep training. So, then DH puts Ben in the swing where he falls asleep. Then he decides it's a good time to vaccuum. Well, James is terrified of the vaccuum and starts screaming while DH runs it. So I go out again to comfort James, get mad at DH . . . .
How am I supposed to get any work done???? I guess I need to leave the house but then I'm afraid DH will leave Ben crying the whole time.
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Re: DH Vent!!!!
It would be time for a face-to-face discussion at my house.
You want me to come kick him for ya? I will if you want me to
Definitely not good job by DH right there! But I think you should really leave the house. Even if things are going well, you're going to be tempted to go and be part of the action. Can you go to Starbucks? the Library? Your office? I know it sucks to have to pack everything up and leave, but it might make more sense for the sake of efficiency.
And give DH a big smack on the back of the head!
Can you talk to Dh about what he's doing? Maybe he can't handle housework and kids at the same time. My dh will either watch the kids or do the housework but not both. He gets flustered and puts the kids second.
I do a lot of my work when the girls are in bed.
Yeah, I don't expect him to do the housework, just watch the kids. I guess he can't resist. I know I should be happy he cares about the housework.
And normally I'd do work after the kids go to bed, but Ben will not sleep in his crib at all, only with me, at the moment. Hopefully that's all about to change in a couple weeks!
Thanks for the advice, gals!