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February 2011 Moms
Really bad day
I just want some sympathy....H isn't giving me any.
DD was a demon child today. She is usually very happy and fun, but today was tough. She had her two worst tantrums ever. Then we took a nap together and she woke up and started kicking me. Dealing with her was very draining - physically and emotionally.
After DD went to bed, I tried to do kick counts. Baby is always very active in the evening but tonight it wasn't moving. My MW suggested I come to the hospital for a NST. It turn out Baby is fine (thank God), but they did an u/s and found that baby has flipped and is now breech. There goes my VBAC.
Now I am really emotional about not getting to try a VBAC. I am bummed that I won't get the excitement of going into labor, that I will be in the hospital and away from DD for 5 days, and I am anxious about having major surgery again.
H is giving me no sympathy. I really want a foot rub or at least a good cuddle and some acknowledgement that I have had a really hard day. Nothing. I may go eat an entire chocolate cake now.
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Re: Really bad day
Oh man, I can't believe LO flipped this late in the game! However, that means that it may be possible to flip back. I know you are running out of time and I wouldn't want to give you false hope, but you never know!
I'm so sorry though and understand your disappointment and sadness about not being able to do a VBAC. You definitely deserve some cuddling and pampering.
I sympathize with you about both your difficult DD and having to have another c-section. I wanted to VBAC with DD#2 and luckily went into labor on my own at 37w1d but after 14hours of consistent contractions between 2-4 min apart I had not dialated AT ALL! My doctor came in and told me I'd be having another c-section that night at 6pm because I wasn't changing at all on my own and they don't like to give pitocin for a VBAC (pregnancies were only 16 months apart so scar tissue was very new). I immediately started crying! DH did not get it at all. He was happy that the whole thing wouldn't be drawn out like it was for DD#1. Well yeah, that's convienent for you but not me!! I'm the one who has to have surgery again and then go home and chase my toddler around!
The good news is that the surgery went very well and by the time I saw my daughter I had pretty much forgotten about being upset about not having a VBAC (I'm sure you felt the same way with your first c-section). Try to remember that feeling because now that I'm facing my third c-section in less than three years I'm relying on the memories I have of seeing my LOs for the first time so that I don't think about the surgery itself!
I also know what you mean about DD being difficult lately. I think my girls can sense the fact that things are about to change now that we are nearing the end of the pregnancy and it is has made them more rambunctious. Just remind yourself that you will feel so much better once the baby is out of you (and your incision has healed). I remember feeling like I would never be able to chase DD#1 again when I was pregnant with DD#2, but once I was about 6weeks pp I started feeling so much more energetic and happier in general (hormones finally evening out). I hope you have a better day today, give yourself a break and ignore your H, they seriously don't get it.