I'm chatting with my best friend on gchat right now and I made a comment about being a mother now and she said "But you're not a mother." She's never been pregnant or miscarried so I know she doesn't know any better, but I just felt like my soul cringed. I brushed it off and changed the subject, but I feel like crying.
4 losses: Natural m/c 8w 1/11, CP 12/11, CP 3/12, and our perfectly healthy baby girl Charlotte Grace, missed M/C 5/31/12 at 8w5d
omg. I am sorry. Yes you sure are a mother. Some things you just have to let go, because people just don't know any better. smh.....
5/9/2013 = Our rainbow was born!!
08/18/2012 - BFP (Hoping this is our rainbow!) 06/24/2012 - Loss confirmed at 12 weeks 12/14/2010 - Loss baby girl at 20 weeks due to Turner Syndrome 01/2009 - Chemical Pregnancy
Ouch! I am so sorry for your loss and for that comment!! I have said before that some people just don't get it. I made a comment to my mother about losing my baby and she said "It wasn't even a baby". Some people are just insensitive, and some just don't know any better. Either way, I am sorry that was said to you. You were a mother the moment that egg and sperm hooked up!!
I'm sorry for your friends comment and that you got hurt by it...I have a friend who does that to me every once in a while. They do not know the loss, the feelings or what we go through.
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5/9/2013 = Our rainbow was born!!
08/18/2012 - BFP (Hoping this is our rainbow!)
06/24/2012 - Loss confirmed at 12 weeks
12/14/2010 - Loss baby girl at 20 weeks due to Turner Syndrome
01/2009 - Chemical Pregnancy
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I'm sorry for your friends comment and that you got hurt by it...I have a friend who does that to me every once in a while. They do not know the loss, the feelings or what we go through.
(hugs)