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Ouch

I'm chatting with my best friend on gchat right now and I made a comment about being a mother now and she said "But you're not a mother."  She's never been pregnant or miscarried so I know she doesn't know any better, but I just felt like my soul cringed.  I brushed it off and changed the subject, but I feel like crying.
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  • omg. I am sorry. Yes you sure are a mother. Some things you just have to let go, because people just don't know any better. smh.....

    5/9/2013 = Our rainbow was born!!

    08/18/2012 - BFP (Hoping this is our rainbow!)
    06/24/2012 - Loss confirmed at 12 weeks
    12/14/2010 - Loss baby girl at 20 weeks due to Turner Syndrome
    01/2009 - Chemical Pregnancy

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  • Ouch! I am so sorry for your loss and for that comment!!  I have said before that some people just don't get it.  I made a comment to my mother about losing my baby and she said "It wasn't even a baby".  Some people are just insensitive, and some just don't know any better.  Either way, I am sorry that was said to you.  You were a mother the moment that egg and sperm hooked up!!
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  • I am so sorry!!  ~big hugs~  You are totally a mommy!
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  • I'm sorry for your friends comment and that you got hurt by it...I have a friend who does that to me every once in a while.  They do not know the loss, the feelings or what we go through.

    (hugs)

     

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