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I need inspiration!

aelliott04aelliott04 member
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Hi! I never have written on this board but am really needing some inspiration if there is any out there! 

The only way I will ever SAH is if DH gets a REALLY good raise somehow or is offered another job(he isn't looking and probably won't ever. It would have to be something that falls into his lap). I make almost half of our income and carry insurance so no amount of cutting back will make it work.

 So I just need some hope/inspiration of any stories that kind of looked like this and then all of a sudden-bam-it happened!

I'm trying to trust that if it's meant to be, it will happen for us. Otherwise, I'm just thankful for what I do have. 

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  • Stacyc625Stacyc625 member

    I think you are better off with being thankful- :)

    Because "BAM-it-happened". Doesn't happen. Hate to be a debby downer but that is just being realistic.

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  • aelliott04aelliott04 member

    I guess "bam-it happened" isn't a good way to put it. I kind of have a hard time believing that EVERY SINGLE SAHM planned for it before kids or just made cut backs to make it work. Surely there are situations out there where the husband did get a new job or something to that nature. I don't find that too unrealistic or just maybe I have too much faith! No mature what the situation is, I understand things still have to change and it's not just "bam." But yes, I am thankful and that's where I'm at at the moment! Guess it's not bad to have hope!

    I'm not trying to be one of those people who are asking "what can I do to stay at home," yada, yada.... 

    You just never know what stories are out there!

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  • Stacyc625Stacyc625 member

    sure plenty DH's got new jobs- however I am SURE they were looking for one. People just don't go around handing out jobs.

    Of course it's not bad to have hope. but hope only goes so far.

    I am just VERY much of the belief that if you want something- you go and get it- because things just don't fall into laps. If its worth having its worth working towards. Proactively. And that goes for everything in life- just my point of view.

    It's like saying, I wish i would hit the lottery and never play. Someone is not going to walk up to you and hand you the winning lottery ticket, kwim?

     

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  • megan_lynn1984megan_lynn1984 member
    That kinda happened to me...I had always wanted to SAH, but like you, I made half the income and carried the insurance. After going back to work from maternity leave with my second child, I was completely unhappy...I seriously prayed that something would happen to let me be able to SAH with my kids, and about a week after returning from maternity leave, the company I worked for offered a voluntary layoff, with a severance package that abled us to pay off remaning debts and have enough savings for emergencies, and we picked up insurance from my DH's employer. So since my DD has been 5 months old, I have been a SAHM. So yes I guess it can happen suddendly (it did for me). Good luck to you!
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  • eaglesfan700eaglesfan700 member

    How does your H feel about this?  If it is that important to you, I would work on him if he is receptive to it. Why not talk to him and see if he would put in some effort to help make it happen?

    IMO for SAH to truly work for your family, your H needs to be on board 100%.  Anything less can quickly lead to resentment and unrealistic expectations

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