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IF sensitivity question (IF lurkers welcome!)

kittylovekittylove member
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My great uncle died this week, and because I am astranged from my father I am not going to the funeral. I am however sending a homemade sympathy card. My great-aunt and her 4 girls have never met, and most likely never seen, a photo of my son. I wanted to put in a family photo of us BUT I am afraid it will make her sad as she doesn't have any grandchildren. Two of her girls tried for years to have children and neither succeded. The other 2 decided not to have children for various reasons. I just don't want to rub salt in the wound. Would you send a photo in the card?

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Re: IF sensitivity question (IF lurkers welcome!)

  • lovemymonkeylovemymonkey
    I'm sorry for your loss. :-( Personally, I wouldn't put a photo of my child in a sympathy card. I'd save it for a different occasion like a holiday or birthday card.
    After 5 years of TTC, 3 IUIs, 5 IVFs, 2 FETs, multiple losses and an adoption that wasn
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  • krissyh21krissyh21 member
    I agree with a pp, I do not think a photo of your family in a sympathy card is appropriate in any situation. If you want to send her one at a later time, then that is fine.
    A lot of years and a million tears finally led me to you.
    After 7 years trying to concieve, 3 failed IUIs and 2 failed IVFs, my third IVF was a success!
    My Christmas baby turned into a turkey bird! Dillon Richard was born at 34 weeks, 5 days on November 28, 2009 after 10 weeks on bedrest for preeclampsia.
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  • njdcgirlnjdcgirl member
    I agree with others - I wouldn't do it.  But, maybe this sad occassion can open up more communication in the future.  Follow up in a few weeks to see how they are doing, and maybe include a picture then.
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  • marcuejmarcuej member

    I agree with everyone else.  I definitely think you should give them a pic of your cutie, but wait until a different time.

     At my dad's funeral, my dumba$$ cousin gave me a picture of her daughter and said she thought it would bring me comfort during this hard time.  Um...guess what?  I never even put the picture up.  It just pi$$ed me off!  Your situation isn't the same, but you just never know hey they will react and it's better to be safe than sorry.  

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  • browneyedgrl4282browneyedgrl4282 member

    I wouldn't put in a sympathy card.

     

    If you want to send her picture, I would wait until Valentine's Day or another type of holiday and dress him up. Make it look like holiday thing!

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  • Waiting4baby08Waiting4baby08
    I would not put a photo in the card.  Maybe wait a few weeks and send a separate envelope with photos.
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  • kittylovekittylove member
    Thanks ladies! I knew I would get great advice from you girls. I won't do a photo but might send a V-day card latter on or something.
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