How can you not know?

JustaKidAtHeart · January 2011

I just talked to an old neighbor. Her daughter is pg again this is #3. She just found out she is pg and she is due in march. She had no clue she was pregnant.

How?

PS: She didnt find out she was pg with #2 til she was 5 months along.

epphd · January 2011

Ugh - there is no excuse for that. I mean, missing it once is one thing - but if you know that you don't get a period and you have sex regularly, and you've "missed" being pregnant before, you need to POAS like once a month or something. Sounds like she's just out to lunch. GREAT that she is becoming a parent again - I wonder what else she'll miss Confused

JustaKidAtHeart · January 2011

I just really hope the baby is ok. I know she is a drinker and a smoker.

epphd · January 2011

Of course she is. Guh.

kittylove · January 2011

I really don't understand how people who have been pg once can "miss it" till that late in a 2nd pregnancy. I would understand if it was someones first pregancy, or if they were like 12-18 yrs old because at that point i think denial would take over. But come on! That said I can 100% understand not knowing for the first 2-3 months.

Side note: A friend of mine didn't ever get a + pee stick with her 3rd child. She knew she was pg at like 5/6 weeks but she kept POAS and getting -. She even went to the Dr at 8 weeks POAS and it was -. Her Dr wouldn't run a beta and it wasn't until she refused to leave the office that he did an u/s. Sure enough she was 8+ weeks along!

ShannonSky · January 2011

Honestly, I don't think it's that nuts. I don't get a period ever and didn't have any symptoms with DD. I also had an anterior placenta, so I didn't feel her kick often and the kicks didn't feel much harder than the phantom kicks I get. I did have a big baby bump, but I've seen plenty of women who haven't. Under the right set of circumstances, I could see it. That being said, when we aren't actively TTC, I POAS once a month, just in case. It's worth the cash for the peace of mind for me.

browneyedgrl4282 · January 2011

I would bet she did know but was keeping it a secret for some reason or another!

When I was pregnant with the twins I ran into a friend how I hadn't seen in while. She clearly looked pregnant, like full term almost. She mentioned nothing the entire conversation and DH said When are you due. She looked at us and said I am not pregnant and why does every keep saying that. Well three days later I get random picture on my phone from her with baby girl. I asked who she was and said my daughter. She denied knowing she was pregnant to everyone. She said she thought she was gallbladder attack or something. Finally a few months ago she admitted to me she knew all a lot but was scared to tell anyone because she wasn't married. The really bad part is she never had prenatal care because she still was on her parents insurance and didn't want them to see the EOB. Well the hospital's policy is if someone has no prenatal care they have to child services. Some how she managed to get them to believe her story she didn't know and they didn't charge her or take the baby!

dana316 · January 2011

You can't NOT know. I don't buy it.

I am probably more in tune with my body, having been through IF, but I figured out pretty quickly this time that something was up, and I don't think I'm even 6 wks pregnant.

Smells are different (I could smell mustard on C's breath way after lunch, and I could smell that ground tooth smell on my dentist, etc), and the water from the shower head felt different...it is a thousand LITTLE things that said "hello, are you pregnant??".

That's not even counting the HUGE signs of pregnancy that come later.

You can't NOT know...

vandelay · January 2011

A friend of my sister's didn't find out until 20 weeks that she was pregnant with #3. But she was BF, on BCP, hadn't lost the baby weight, and never got a PP period. She was mortified that she didn't know. She said she felt like one of those women who drops out a surprise baby at Wal Mart.

perry7285 · January 2011

how? i think by being batsh!t crazy. how depressing that she's raising three kids. =(

epphd · January 2011

ShannonSky:
Honestly, I don't think it's that nuts. I don't get a period ever and didn't have any symptoms with DD. I also had an anterior placenta, so I didn't feel her kick often and the kicks didn't feel much harder than the phantom kicks I get. I did have a big baby bump, but I've seen plenty of women who haven't. Under the right set of circumstances, I could see it. That being said, when we aren't actively TTC, I POAS once a month, just in case. It's worth the cash for the peace of mind for me.

That's my point exactly - especially if you've (a) been pregnant ever and know you don't have symptoms and (b) have gotten pregnant without knowing once AFTER that and (c) you don't get a period regularly, then (d) take a GD pee test every month. It's common sense. This person had a "surprise" pregnancy once before - denial is the only explanation for it happening again.

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