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Is it mean that I'm annoyed with DH? (kinda long)
We both work 9 hour days so we can be off every other Friday. Well today was the Friday we are off & DH had to go into work for a mandatory meeting. He was stressing all last night & stayed up late preparing for his portion of the meeting (a presentation). So I got up last night with DD - normally it's just once a night, but last night it was 2x (he did get up to make the bottles for me, but went right back to sleep). Then today I had DD all day of course since he was at work & she has been CRANKY b/c she hasn't been taking good naps today. Then he doesn't call me at all the whole day, comes home much later than I expected him & then says he has a bad headache & feels nauseous (b/c he didn't eat all day - he had a chance, he just didn't). So trying to be nice, I told him that I'd do the baby's bedtime by myself & that I hope he feels better. Well she fell asleep, but as soon as I put her down she woke up & started screaming, which is unusual for her. And once she's in her room for bedtime I do not take her out of the room, so I walked down the stairs & told DH (who fell asleep on the couch) to make a bottle & bring me her Mylicon dropper. So then I fed her & put her back down, which was again, unusually a struggle...when all was said & done I had been upstairs with her for an hour. Then I come downstairs & he hadn't fed the dog or anything, so I huffed & puffed then fed him. I think he took that as a sign that I was annoyed that he hadn't done anything since he got home, so he goes & tries to start taking DD's clean bottles out of the dishwasher & I told him that if he's sick like he says, then I don't want him touching her bottles JIC it really is a virus or something - I don't want her getting sick. He said something smart under his breath about me not caring about him being sick & got all sad looking, took some Advil & the monitor (which I told him to leave with me) & went upstairs w/o saying anything to me.
So is it bad that I am annoyed? I mean I believe he has a headache, the nausea is probably as a result of not eating for 12+ hours (also probably the reason for the headache IMO) - duh DH. I have had plenty of days when I feel like that & I suck it up & take care of DD's needs. Am I wrong to just want a small break despite the fact that he has a headache?
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Re: Is it mean that I'm annoyed with DH? (kinda long)
I would say you're not wrong to be annoyed at all. I would also bet that everyone one of us have been in similar situations (hee hee...I giggle whenever I say that word.)
Talk to him about it tomorrow when he's feeling better and see if that helps the next time around.
To be honest, it sounds like you had a rough day and the timing for your DH to have to work and then come home not feeling well (whether he really is sick or it is the man sickness) is really bad.
I have had days like that where the kids are being difficult and then DH is super busy at work, comes home late, and then doesn't get it. Comparing who had a worse day is never a good conversation in our house:)
I would be upset too, but that doesn't mean that it's right:) It just means we are normal and tired! I hope she sleeps good for you the rest of the night and you all feel better tomorrow.
Score that he makes bottles in the middle of the night though!! Seriously.
LOL...yeah my sister says I'm lucky for that too.
I'll apologize in the morning...
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It is a universal truth that all men are babies when it comes to being sick.
When DH gets sick, even slightly sick, it's like it's the end of the world. When I get sick, he doesn't even notice.