Are the first 3 months supposed to suck?

Princesseliss528 · January 2011

I know we're only 5 weeks into this whole parenting thing, but it sure does suck! DS sleeps all day and is up all night. When he IS awake, he screams his head off even though he's clean, dry, and fed. He's on meds for reflux and thrush, but we never skip a dose. We're baffled as to why he would be screaming, and have come to the conclusion that we just have to suck it up and deal with it, because that's how it's going to be Crying

grace_smith03 · January 2011

Aw....your baby is soooo beautiful! I'm sorry that you're going thru this rough period...i'm assuming colic? Have you tried wearing your LO? Do you BF or FF? I know that I had to supplement with formula and most of the time I'd have to give LO some mylicon....

GL!

sherbetlemon · January 2011

I felt the exact same way, and right around 6 weeks things got much better. I don't know if he was just more mature or we had just learned how to help him stay content, but hopefully things improve for you soon as well!

WestCoastMommy · January 2011

Yep but every week they change sometimes for the worse, sometimes for the better. I think that the first 3 months are the hardest tho.

hmp1 · January 2011

I would work on getting his days and nights fixed. Being on a good sleep cycle will probably make him a happier baby. During the day have lights and noise (talk in a normal volume). At night do a bedtime routine, the same every night, have it be dark and quiet (speak softly). Do you do the 5 s's?

LO's sleep schedule seems to change every week but it gets better every week. Longer stretches at night makes all of us more enjoyable Big Smile

FirstBabyMomma · January 2011

I'm sorry things are hard for you. Is it helpful at all to read that you have THE MOST BEAUTIFUL BABY I'VE SEEN, like, EVER!??

I just showed your siggy pics to everyone in the room. Seriously, why is your kid so gorgeous?

Water_Wedding · January 2011

I've read that the fussiness peaks at 6 wks. When i told my pedi how LO rarely cries at the 2 wk appt, she actually warned me that around that time LO would be crying 2-3 hrs/day for no reason. She was right! I wanted to jump out the window weeks 5 and 6.

It's been getting better though because every day he is more aware of what's going on and content. I can leave him in the swing longer, he tolerates tummy time more, he finally likes his bouncer, he gies thru a bath without crying, etc. The crying for no reason is nonexistent these last few days. If he cries, he's overtired.

Squirrel29 · January 2011

I'm lurking from 12-24 but I just wanted to say hang in there!! DS was a difficult baby and I remember thinking I would never make it through some of those days but you will and it will get better. LO will eventually get a routine down, and then a fairly predictable schedule and these crazy days of absolute exhaustion will be a blurry and oddly fond memory.

BchBrde · January 2011

We had the same problem with the crying all day! We put him on a hypoallergenic formula (Alimentum) and had a completely new baby in less than 2 days!

shaw · January 2011

We had a terribly fussy baby. I was crying almost as much as he was. For the past 3 days has has been an angel. There could be 4 reasons...he turned 6 weeks, we used an avent bottle, we switched to powdered formula (instead of premixed) and we hung a giant picture of bob marely in his room!? I am not changing a thing now!!! GL luck to you...it will pass!!!

Lovedan1 · January 2011

I seriously promise you IT GETS SOOOO MUCH BETTER.

Pretty soon you will enjoy it!

Dreamsicle23 · January 2011

hmp&mrj:
I would work on getting his days and nights fixed. Being on a good sleep cycle will probably make him a happier baby. During the day have lights and noise (talk in a normal volume). At night do a bedtime routine, the same every night, have it be dark and quiet (speak softly). Do you do the 5 s's?
LO's sleep schedule seems to change every week but it gets better every week. Longer stretches at night makes all of us more enjoyable

This! DH thinks I'm mean but I do not talk, play, make eye contact - NOTHING between 8 p.m. and 6 a.m. I became a pro at feeding and changing diapers in the dark. Now he sleeps 11-12 hours without a peep! Hang in there...it will be a distant memory soon.

JoannaJes · January 2011

Are you sure the reflux meds are working properly? Not every LO responds to certain reflux meds.

Are you sure you have the proper dosing, and are dosing it in a correct manner? Not all pedis give out proper dosing information.

A baby screaming all the time is not something you should just have to deal with. I would get a second medical opinion about why your baby is uncomfortable.

BobitaBobarina · January 2011

My baby was like that, until i talked to his pediatrician and told me about some organic medicane that helped him sleep at night he now sleeps all night 10 hous

, but before he would wake up and cry like crazy after he ate he would not burp at all and have tons of hiccups

cloclo85 · January 2011

I feel exactly the same.Everyday Im trying to listen to everybody who tell me" it will get better". But I think that yes,it is supposed to suck, just nobody told us...lol. I found the" Babywise technique" book pretty helpfull, at least to have some kind of schedule to keep your sanity... Many moms talk about it on other message boards, thats how I found it. I think you should give it a try, my baby is going on 4 weeks old and its going a little better already.

NorcalLinds · January 2011

Yes the first 3 months suck. I'm in the weeds right now and really looking forward to the 3 month mark! I agree about getting his days/nights fixed, as well as different reflux meds. You should also try probiotics for your lo. It works wonders.

babya2010 · January 2011

::Lurking:: I'm sorry you're having a rough time. Quite honestly, the first 5-6 months sucked for me...but that's probably because I have 2. (Think on the bright side, right?) Wink

Anyway, DD was the exact same way for pretty much...4 months straight. Anytime her eyes were open she was screaming. Trying to feed her? Screaming. Put her in a bouncy? Screaming. Seriously, nonstop. She is now the mellowest baby I've ever seen...DS fusses more than she does! Hang in there mama...it gets better, trust me!

mjequinelaw · January 2011

I could have written this myself. DS also has reflux, but he also has colic. We've been back and forth to the pedi with the reflux and finally have that under control, so the screaming fits after feedings have stopped. However, we still have some screaming and crying for no apparent reason at other times, which appears to be colic. I found an all natural colic supplemental called ColicEase Gripe Water (it's not just any gripe water...it's awesome!) and it seems to really help. You can find it online and they have it at some stores...I drove an hour to get it! The pedi also has us give him mylanta when we think he might still be uncomfortable with the reflux (1/4 tsp. up to 4 times a day - it also has Simethicone (sp?) same stuff as in Mylicon) in it, so kills two birds with one stone..gas and reflux. I had quite a few rough days/weeks when I was on maternity leave and I feel so cheated that now that we finally got things figured out, I had to go back to work. He still cries, eats every 3 hours, but at least he's not screaming every waking moment. I just wanted to empathize...I know how you feel!

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