Cry It Out?

kimberly_ann81 · January 2011

Would you let your LO cry it out if you were not able to sooth them?

mchupie · January 2011

If I tried everything (nursing, changing diaper, changing clothes, rocking, singing, swing, diaper, paci, ride in car, dancing, reading a book, toys, putting down for a nap etc.) and nothing worked I would let her cry in my arms.

allobosc · January 2011

I would if I needed a break to gain my own composure. not necessarily CIO but I'd go to another part of the house after putting Lo in crib safely and give myself a time out. I agree with the pp about CIO not being good this early on. if you can drive that does wonders sometimes for you and baby. I hope you aren't going through too many crying fits.

Fergie+1 · January 2011

mchupie:

If I tried everything (nursing, changing diaper, changing clothes, rocking, singing, swing, diaper, paci, ride in car, dancing, reading a book, toys, putting down for a nap etc.) and nothing worked I would let her cry in my arms.

Ditto this. At a little over a week, I've learned that my LO does not cry for no reason... he's either hungry, his diaper's dirty, or he just wants to be held and talked to. I would NOT just let him cry it out for no reason or because I'm too tired to attend to him.

pixieprincss · January 2011

Would I let him cry in my arms if nothing else worked? Yes. I can't stop him from crying if nothing else works. But would I let him cry it out not cuddled? No way (unless I was at a point of frustration so great that letting him be alone safely in a crib or seat was the wiser choice).

broccolitree · January 2011

Right now? no. Ever? yeah.

I haven't discussed with the pedi yet where the 'line' should be developmentally, but at this point a baby can't really be taught to self-soothe.

starsmaycollide · January 2011

No, not with a newborn.

And it shouldn't be done to get them to sleep at this age, either. Your response to the nap post on 0-3 is just sad. There is NO reason not to go in and check on your newborn just because you tried to put them down to sleep, or to let them CIO they way you described. So you're not going to get more positive responses here than you did there, I'm afraid.

broccolitree · January 2011

Shot in the dark: OP, are you triathletegirl, or related to her idiocy in some capacity?

kimberly_ann81 · January 2011

I'm just trying to get a good idea of what everyone else does. I've been told to let LO cry it out and I've been told not to. I'm just not sure what is appropriate due to conflicting info I've been told. Why can't there just be one answer.

PS. on the 0-3 board I must not have been clear, so I added a new comment to better explain. I didn't mean to make it sound like I let LO cry it out all the time/every time, and he didn't cry nonstop either.

MaddysMama07 · January 2011

If I had tried every.single.thing I could and she was still crying I'd let her cry for a few minutes while I stepped away to regain my composure. I'm talking maybe 2 minutes. Long enough for a pee break. lol If she was still crying she'd be crying in my arms. I would NEVER leave her to just CIO by herself. She is way too young for that.

starsmaycollide · January 2011

kimberly_ann81:
I'm just trying to get a good idea of what everyone else does. I've been told to let LO cry it out and I've been told not to. I'm just not sure what is appropriate due to conflicting info I've been told. Why can't there just be one answer.

PS. on the 0-3 board I must not have been clear, so I added a new comment to better explain. I didn't mean to make it sound like I let LO cry it out all the time/every time, and he didn't cry nonstop either.

The general wisdom now is that it isn't healthy at a very young age. Who is telling you that you should do it?

SBear12 · January 2011

kimberly_ann81:
I'm just trying to get a good idea of what everyone else does. I've been told to let LO cry it out and I've been told not to. I'm just not sure what is appropriate due to conflicting info I've been told. Why can't there just be one answer.

There IS one answer. Most major developmental theorists conclude that "cry it out" is NOT appropriate before 6 months. Some believe it's not appropriate ever.

You'll hear many words of "wisdom" now that you're a parent, from many different people. You need to learn to discriminate between what's legitimate and what's not.

IncogNeato · January 2011

pixieprincss:
Would I let him cry in my arms if nothing else worked? Yes. I can't stop him from crying if nothing else works. But would I let him cry it out not cuddled? No way (unless I was at a point of frustration so great that letting him be alone safely in a crib or seat was the wiser choice).

This. Now, if you just need to pee or walk away for a minute to calm yourself, that's one thing. Leaving baby alone to cry because you can't sooth them? No, not at this age.

KendraJoette · January 2011

I just realized Im on the wrong board, but none the less, have a little experience and advise...

at this young I wouldnt do the cry it out method, Does your baby spit up a lot or have issues eating? could it be acid reflux or that the baby is eating and spitting up a lot and needs to eat less at once or something? Some babies cry a lot because of that... Does the baby cry and cant be soothed a lot (like hours a day?) if so it might be collic and it is worth talking to your pedi about it.

If it is constant, I wouldn't just leave the baby, but do get help. You dont have to do it by yourself to be a good mama. And taking care of yourself is important. Good luck.

kimberly_ann81 · January 2011

Thanks every one. I'll definitely have to read "The Happiest Baby on the Block". I've had other books recommended as well, so I'll be busy reading it looks like.

kcisthebombdotcom · January 2011

No, especially not at this age. I wouldnt even let my 13 month old cry it out. Even if my older LO is fussy and inconsolable, I will rock him in the rocking chair, walk around the house and hold him in my arms, etc. until he calms down and falls asleep. I dont think any reputable doctor would tell you to let LO CIO at this age because they lack the ability to self-soothe.

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