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I was doing fine today until I saw my ticker...

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1 year today I started to m/c.  This blows.  My DH and I are the only two that remember out of my family.  It's so sad to me that the life I was growing inside me for almost 3 months is not even recognized by my family today.  It's almost like it never existed.  It just breaks my heart into a million pieces.

Please don't get me wrong, I'm so grateful to feel the little kicks of LO today and know that this is our 2nd chance to start our family.   But there is such a "final" feeling to seeing "one year since we said goodbye".  Like I should be letting go or something, even though there is no "rule" that says I have to.  I guess I feel like that's the expectation in my family - that I should be over the loss by now, especially since we are pg again.

Glad I took the day off.  DH is home too because of the snow.  Nice quiet day to reflect...  Crying

Sending hugs to a fellow bumpie also on their 1 year loss anniversary today.

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  • jenn0021jenn0021 member

    I am so sorry that you are having a hard day. I keep worrying that no one will remember the EDD or the day that I miscarried. I dont' even know if DH will remember without me telling him. I don't know how I will handle those days.

    I am sending you big hugs and I'm glad that you get to stay home today. You will be in my thoughts today.

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  • cherylanddougcherylanddoug member

    ((HUGS))

    I hope you have a nice quiet day to remember. 

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  • camdenfaithfulcamdenfaithful

    (((HUGS)))

    Thinking of you and your angel baby today.

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    (((hugs))) I'll be thinking of you and your family today
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    Big hugs & thinking of you today.
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  • Ryan&Kristin062009Ryan&Kristin062009 member
    I am sorry :/ EDD's of past LO's are really tough, I just had mine on the 21st. Glad you are taking the day for yourself!
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  • Ernie52408Ernie52408 member

    Big Hugs. My EDD was on Tuesday, and no one not even my DH remembered.

    Take the day for yourself and give yourself time to mourn. Every one on this board knows exactly how you feel!

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  • Karen1998Karen1998 member
    (((hugs))) Thinking of you and your family today.
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    ((hugs))  Take good care of yourself today. 
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  • TeacherVickyTeacherVicky member
    ((hugs)) I hope you are able to have a nice day. I don't think you are being ungrateful at all. These days are so difficult, no matter the current situation.
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  • JeileneJeilene member
    I send you lots of hugs!  I too am dreading the anniversary of my twins, but am grateful their little brother or sister is hopefully here to stay.
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    *big hugs*
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    1 year today I started to m/c.  This blows.  My DH and I are the only two that remember out of my family.  It's so sad to me that the life I was growing inside me for almost 3 months is not even recognized by my family today.  It's almost like it never existed.  It just breaks my heart into a million pieces.

    Please don't get me wrong, I'm so grateful to feel the little kicks of LO today and know that this is our 2nd chance to start our family.   But there is such a "final" feeling to seeing "one year since we said goodbye".  Like I should be letting go or something, even though there is no "rule" that says I have to.  I guess I feel like that's the expectation in my family - that I should be over the loss by now, especially since we are pg again.

    Glad I took the day off.  DH is home too because of the snow.  Nice quiet day to reflect...  Crying

    Sending hugs to a fellow bumpie also on their 1 year loss anniversary today.

    Thanks hunny!  And you never have to "be over" our loss.  It was a family member, who passed  away, no one expects you to "get over" that.

    (((HUGS))) <3

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