Ok for shower to be at your own home??

kgail11 · January 2011

So, I just received word from my sis that two of my gf's plan to do a shower for me - which is totally unexpected - but I'm so so excited! Anyway, it's not certain if it's supposed to be a surprise (which I hate, and my sis knows this, hence her telling me about it!) - but I had a ? about logistics of it.

They asked her her thoughts on location.(she wanted to get my opinion, then relay to them) I live in the boonies and not convenient for anyone really. My dad lives an hour from me (but semi closer for anyone invited). That's really ALL the family I have that could offer their home. The two hostesses both live about an hour or more from me. My son has his 3rd bday party at The Little Gym in middle of March. I know my gfs are coming, and really anyone I'm close enough to to even get invited to a shower. I had the idea of doing DS's bday party (at 4-5:30) at The Little Gym, then doing my shower at MY house immediately afterward - because 1. it's a mile from the birthday party location and 2. all my close friends will already be here, which is convenient for them since I live so far off. PLUS it's middle of March - which is a great time, considering I'm sure I'll get induced late April.

Is having my own shower in my own home taaacky? Or the best idea based on logistics/etc?

muddin_lil_sis · January 2011

I'm interested in some input on this issue as well. My best friend is driving 6 hrs to give me a shower where I live, and we have the option of doing it at a local park, or our tiny little house. Does it give off the sense of "giving yourself a shower" even you aren't hosting it?

kdbug0913 · January 2011

Yes, mine will be at my house because my hostess lives in an apartment. I don't think it's a big deal - and you don't have to carry all the presents!

tlxh7 · January 2011

I think it's fine as long as it's clear that you're not hosting. Be sure the hostess(es) is listed on the invite, no RSVPs to you, and make sure the hostess(es) is the one running the shower day of - setting the agenda, in charge of the games, etc.

kgail11 · January 2011

ok good!! It'd be a really simple small thing anyways - just a small handful of close friends, hanging out really. And since it's the day of DS's bday party, I am sure he'll get to open all my gifts for me!! I don't want to steal his spotlight, not that he'd have any shortage of attention, but it just works out better for everyone this way I think..

IndianaSara · January 2011

I agree that it's totally fine for it to be in your home. My "family" shower is being hosted by my SIL and Mom at my house for a couple of reasons: 1) space- I have a very open floor plan and everyone can fit in one area 2) convenience- mom didn't want me and hubs to have to carry/haul everything 3) new house- we built our home about 1.5 years ago, but some family members haven't seen it yet (they all live about an hour away). So, this gives them the opportunity to do so! So, again, I think it's totally fine. For me, I will make sure there is a "hosted by" line on the invite to clarify just in case anyone questions it!

Have fun!

kjbarber86 · January 2011

I think as long as the invitations make it clear that you are not the one hostessing it then it's ok. You wouldn't want anyone to think that you're throwing yourself a baby shower in own home!

mrs pH · January 2011

I think having it in your home sounds fine. Ditto pp that on the invites that it's clear that you're NOT the host. Honestly, I feel like anything goes with showers except if you, the guest of honor, are the host. Have fun!

kdbug0913 · January 2011

My friends who are hosting even offered to come over before the party clean up so I don't have to do it!

kammmmay · January 2011

IndianaSara:
I agree that it's totally fine for it to be in your home. My "family" shower is being hosted by my SIL and Mom at my house for a couple of reasons: 1) space- I have a very open floor plan and everyone can fit in one area 2) convenience- mom didn't want me and hubs to have to carry/haul everything 3) new house- we built our home about 1.5 years ago, but some family members haven't seen it yet (they all live about an hour away). So, this gives them the opportunity to do so! So, again, I think it's totally fine. For me, I will make sure there is a "hosted by" line on the invite to clarify just in case anyone questions it! Have fun!

I have a really similar situation. My mom said she wanted to have a shower for me, and so far ive assumed it would be at my house for similar reasons.

sbl630 · January 2011

My sister had my baby shower at my house and it was great! We didn't have to pack and unpack the car with everything. Everyone helped clean-up (and didn't let me!) and it was SOOO nice to not have to go anywhere! And, I think people liked seeing the nursery too! I LOVED having it at my own house!

JessJ222 · January 2011

I had one of my bridal showers at my house and it worked perfectly. Plus no presents you have to move

jc51723 · January 2011

I asked this same question a few weeks ago and I am hoping to have my shower at my own house as well, so no I don't think it is tacky at all as long as your are not hosting or doing the work.

I am wondering the logistics of having it immediately after the birthday party, though? Will people be missing the party in order to set up at your house for the shower? Also, is it the same group of people attending both the party and shower? Just my opinion, but it seems like a lot for one day. I wouldn't want to do one right after the other (as a guest) unless I was REALLY good friends with the girl!

kgail11 · January 2011

yeah, one right after the other IS a bit much - but I just thought it'd be easier in hindsight, as far as travel time for everyone - it's only a very small handful of close friends anyhoo... just chillaxing eating pizza really!

jc51723 · January 2011

kgail11:
yeah, one right after the other IS a bit much - but I just thought it'd be easier in hindsight, as far as travel time for everyone - it's only a very small handful of close friends anyhoo... just chillaxing eating pizza really!

Oh well that makes a big difference

Tinky101981 · January 2011

I think as long as you have nothing to do with any of the planning then having it in your house is fine.

cmr4828 · January 2011

I think this is a great idea, and something we played around with as well. We are only shying away from it because of the number of people I expect to come and the fact that the outdoor space would be the only real good option for gift opening, etc.

I think to make it clear that you aren't throwing your own shower you should do two things on the invites:

1. Just list the address of your home (e.g. 123 anywhere street) instead of naming the location as your home (e.g. Caitlin's House 123 Anywhere street).

2. Make sure the hostesses names are listed and that everyone RSVPs to them.

Temp38995750004016 · January 2011

I think it's ok....but I do not want to deal with the deep cleaning that I like to do while entertaining in my own home!!!

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