WTF is wrong with people????

kmv68 · January 2011

Ok, yesterday we found out we were having a perfectly healthy girl! We could NOT possibly be any happier. At my 18 wk u/s with my first DD we found out she had some major urinary issues. The first 18 months of her life were spent in and out of doc's offices and the hospital with sicknesses and procedures. Finally, after 2 surgeries, one being 6 hrs long and 4 nts in the hospital, she is doing AWESOME! We were scared to have another and took us 5 yrs to decide to go for it. SOOOOO, we were thrilled yesterday.

Last night and today when we are telling people many respond "are you upset it is another girl?" or "oh, your parents still don't have a grandson, that stinks" (there are now 6 granddaughters) or "gee MH name must be disappointed it's not a boy" or even "when are you gonna try for the boy?"

ARE YOU KIDDING ME!? I am thrilled to be having a healthy girl and can't wait to meet her!!! Why are people so freakin stupid?

soontobe05 · January 2011

I have never understood people saying stuff like that. When they apologize for what you're having. Seriously? Stupid. I'm sorry. I think it's fantastic that you're having another girl and your DD will have a little sister to play with. So boo to all the haters. Wink

DreamChaser246 · January 2011

People can be *really* stupid. My MIL did this too, but the "it better be a girl". We just want a healthy baby, and wtih our current situation I'm so terrified that it won't happen. Two beautiful girls is a blessing, two beautiful heathy children is a blessing no matter what sex! I'm sorry people are so stupid.

Congrats on your healthy girl!

Nickiechan · January 2011

People are freak stupid!! It is like girls are not as valuable as boys...I remember my aunt (who is Korean, but my uncle is American) call her mother to tell her that she was having a girl and she hung up on her!! I know there it is a different culture then here, but come on... There was extreme pressure on DH side to have a boy since he is the only one to carry on his name... a lot of pressure! We didn't care as long as we had a healthy baby! Well they got what they wanted, but I often wonder if I did have a girl if they would love her any less.

dad2bein2011 · January 2011

I completely agree that people are stupid. I am the only male in my family that can 'carry on the family name.' Which means that if we don't have a boy that pressure is going to get even more cumbersome to me. But the way I approach it is - as long as my child is healthy then I am happy. Sure I'd love to have a boy but I am not going to love a daughter less. I will have less money with a girl but that comes with the territory right? LOL

AshleyPT · January 2011

Nickiechan:
People are freak stupid!! It is like girls are not as valuable as boys...I remember my aunt (who is Korean, but my uncle is American) call her mother to tell her that she was having a girl and she hung up on her!! I know there it is a different culture then here, but come on... There was extreme pressure on DH side to have a boy since he is the only one to carry on his name... a lot of pressure! We didn't care as long as we had a healthy baby! Well they got what they wanted, but I often wonder if I did have a girl if they would love her any less.

I was thinking about the value of a girl last night. Women in my family have come so far in the past 4 generations and each generation has done something extremely impressive compared to the last. Only with the females, the males have been pretty stagnant in upward mobility, education, and profession. It struck me, that we have an amazing opportunity to be having a girl at this time. That we have the tools to raise a fantastic human, but especially a wonderful woman.

That was kind of off track.

Here's what my MIL said when she called after we found out the sex. "Originally I was thinking girl, but then I started having dreams it was a boy. So when you said girl I thought....oh no...not a boy?"

First of all - I don't care about what stupid dreams you are having - are you growing a human? Second, really?

schjlh07 · January 2011

People are just rude. It really is none of there business to comment on what you are having. People should just say congrats and keep their weird opinions to themselves. I'm actually worried about what people in our families are going to say. (we'll find out next friday) Especially since there are no girls on DH's side and I know a lot of his relatives are hoping for a girl. We could care less, we just are hoping that our baby will be healthy.

theamandapanda · January 2011

I'm so sorry you had to deal with that crap! Congrats to you on baby girl #2. The bond between sisters is like no other. They are lucky girls!

LeeLee930 · January 2011

I think some people lack the filter which keeps them from saying out loud the stupid and possibly hurtful thoughts that pop into their heads. And others don't know when to mind their own business. Throat punch the next person that says something like that! Or at least imagine it hahahaha.

Congrats on your healthy baby!!!!

alm0309 · January 2011

I remember when my friend was pregnant she would tell me stories about all of the rude comments that people would say to her. At the time I thought she was exaggerating, no way could people be so dumb! Now that I am pregnant I am shocked every day at the rude, insensitive comments and opinions I get. I am starting to strongly dislike people

I feel so much better when I read this board and realize that I am not the only one! Anyway, congratulations on your healthy baby girl! Every girl deserves a sister, I plan to keep trying until I get two girls. Who knows, I may wind up with my own show on TLC along the way!

prettyfish13 · January 2011

Ugh, I'm so sorry you have to deal with that crap. I could have written that word for word except exchange "girl" for "boy" (and the urinary issues - so glad that got resolved for you!). We found out yesterday about our 2nd little boy and are thrilled, but I'm so dissapointed that others think we SHOULD be dissapointed that it's not a girl. Or they act like suddenly this baby isn't as special as he could have been had he been a girl. It depresses me, really. We have a perfectly healthy baby and are so blessed. People are ridiculous. Just continue to have the same attitude you currently have and when people finally realize you are over the moon to have a healthy baby regardless of the gender, maybe they'll finally STFU.

Turtle143 · January 2011

I guess people just assume you'd want one of each. My friend polled people on her Facebook before she had her anatomy scan. She was expecting her second child, first born a boy. Almost 95% guessed it was going to be a girl based on who knows what? Wishful thinking for my friend, encouragement? Or maybe they think once you have one sex (boy or girl), then the next one is bound to be the opposite sex? **roll eyes**

Anyway, it turned out she's expecting another boy and people replied with all kinds of ridiculous things, like "what are you going to do?" are you going to try again next time for a girl? or sorry (sad face). She's just as happy but some people are just ridiculously clueless. Then again I've seen posts here about women who find out the sex of their second child and are clearly sad that e.g it's another girl or another boy so there seems to be a basis for some people expecting that a woman would rather have a boy and girl vs 2 boys or 2 girls.

bookkitten · January 2011

dad2bein2011:

I completely agree that people are stupid. I am the only male in my family that can 'carry on the family name.' Which means that if we don't have a boy that pressure is going to get even more cumbersome to me. But the way I approach it is - as long as my child is healthy then I am happy. Sure I'd love to have a boy but I am not going to love a daughter less. I will have less money with a girl but that comes with the territory right? LOL

This is exactly the position we are in with my FIL. He is a pretty good guy in general and I am sure he will love a girl, but he *really* wants a boy to carry on the name. (In fact, he went so far once to say that his daughter's kids "don't count" because they don't have the family last name; he treats them fantastically and I have never heard him say that around them.) It's gotten to the point where - even though I want a boy first - I almost would rather have a girl. We plan to find out the gender, but will likely not be sharing with anyone until the Baby is here.

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