Anyone still waiting to tell?

Ryan&Kristin062009 · January 2011

We had a loss with our first pregnancy, so I am probably more guarded than those who haven't had a los, but is anyone still waiting to tell?

For quite some time I have wanted to wait til the 2nd trimester, after our NT Scan, to "announce". I am getting so anxious though! We had a beautiful U/S on Monday and I am feeling much more optimistic lately. I am going to do my best to wait 2 more weeks though, I don't want to jinx myself.

Anyone else conflicted on when to tell?

Themetastic · January 2011

We just got over a chemical in November. This is our first, so we told a lot of people and it was really tough having to un-tell them. This time around, we are waiting until the 2nd tri. Right now only my parents, our bffs and one of our coworkers (each) know. We go for our next appt on the 11th, where we will be able to hear the HB so we will be making the announcements after that.

catahoulatte · January 2011

I had my NT scan yesterday, and I still haven't told anyone at work except for 2 friends and my boss. I work very closely with my boss's boss and our secretary, and I don't even know if I plan on telling them...or anyone else in the building either.

Ryan&Kristin062009 · January 2011

Themetastic:
We just got over a chemical in November. This is our first, so we told a lot of people and it was really tough having to un-tell them. This time around, we are waiting until the 2nd tri. Right now only my parents, our bffs and one of our coworkers (each) know. We go for our next appt on the 11th, where we will be able to hear the HB so we will be making the announcements after that.

I am sorry for your loss I can sympathize with having to un-tell it is awful.

My next appt is the 11th as well! Fingers cross for healthy appts for the both of us!

Shaky23 · January 2011

I have had 4 losses, so waiting until my NT scan next week at 12 weeks to spread the news. Family and a couple close friends know.

Augustmama1113 · January 2011

Yep the only people we've told is our immediate family, a few close friends and our bosses. We had a great U/S yesterday so we are going to announce to our friends in the next few weeks or so. I've been guarded too and I finally feel really great about it.

TanyaKM · January 2011

We've only told our immediate families and one of my friends who is also pregnant and due around the same time. I'm going to wait to tell anyone else until 13 weeks or our NT scan.

[Deleted User] · January 2011

We also havent made it widespread info yet. I'm getting more comfortable with the idea but I'm conflicted because of all the bleeding and being on bed rest now. It is not and hasnt been happy news. I dont really know how to tell anyone- "I'm pregnant but at risk of miscarrying at anytime" So its strange to say. We have told my parents and a couple of my close friends but not hubbys parents or my grandparents. We do plan to tell his parents soon by phone. I'll let him do most of the talking so I dont cry. grrrrrrr!

Themetastic · January 2011

Ryan&Kristin062009:
Themetastic:
We just got over a chemical in November. This is our first, so we told a lot of people and it was really tough having to un-tell them. This time around, we are waiting until the 2nd tri. Right now only my parents, our bffs and one of our coworkers (each) know. We go for our next appt on the 11th, where we will be able to hear the HB so we will be making the announcements after that.

I am sorry for your loss I can sympathize with having to un-tell it is awful.

My next appt is the 11th as well! Fingers cross for healthy appts for the both of us!

Thank you. I am sorry for your loss too.

Oh yeah! Happy thoughts Smile

Ryan&Kristin062009 · January 2011

cbruckner32:

Yep the only people we've told is our immediate family, a few close friends and our bosses. We had a great U/S yesterday so we are going to announce to our friends in the next few weeks or so. I've been guarded too and I finally feel really great about it.

Same here, parents/siblings, close friends, and bosses (because I had a lot of dr's appts and a few sick days). Congrats on the great U/S and feeling great about it, again I feel exactly the same way!

SarahRuthG · January 2011

Cara1979:
We also havent made it widespread info yet. I'm getting more comfortable with the idea but I'm conflicted because of all the bleeding and being on bed rest now. It is not and hasnt been happy news. I dont really know how to tell anyone- "I'm pregnant but at risk of miscarrying at anytime" So its strange to say. We have told my parents and a couple of my close friends but not hubbys parents or my grandparents. We do plan to tell his parents soon by phone. I'll let him do most of the talking so I dont cry. grrrrrrr!

I'm pulling for you!!!

We haven't told anyone but a few friends - I think 5 people total know. If all goes well at the NT scan feb 8th we will tell the parents and then announce to everyone else after my next u/s the end of Feb.

Lotzodotz · January 2011

We haven't told yet either. Well, I told my best friend, but that's really it. We have our first ultrasound tomorrow, so we will tell after that as long as everything looks good. I have kind of enjoyed having a little secret. With dd we told right away, so this is different.

Katielyn0427 · January 2011

I went through a m/c this past year before this pg. We waited to announce it officially until this week- 12weeks. Although I am still trepedacious about the upcoming risks in the next few weeks I am treating this pregnancy as a normal "un knowing" pregnant woman would. I try to remind myself- everything has been perfect so far and I have to believe it will continue that way. It's not easy- but telling helps me to stay positive and be joyous with friends and family. They keep me upbeat about everything- and if something did happen they would be my support in that at well.

sunnydaisy · January 2011

I've told one friend who was ttc at the same time, and dh has told his boss (in case he has to take time off). We haven't told any family or other friends yet though. We had a loss a year ago, so we're cautious for the same reason. As long as I'm not showing and my body announces it for me, we're planning to wait until 2nd tri--end of February.

September2007 · January 2011

Yes -- although we had our NT scan on Monday, and got positive results, we haven't received the blood work back yet. Some people know (parents, coworkers, close friends), but the remainder of our friends and extended families don't know as far as I'm aware.

Not sure what we're waiting for... Huh? Just haven't felt the need, I guess.

Solidsteph · January 2011

Yep, me. I also had a loss in July and untelling people was really hard. I really want to wait til 13 wks but our NT scan is at the tail end of 11wks...I know I will feel better after that and with having my doppler at home...I know this time is different, and I am praying this is my take home baby...We've told close family and friends but I don't wanna tell work yet(only 3 ppl at work now know)...I guess people will realize at work soon as I'm sure I'll start to show soon...I really don't want my boss to start worrying about my job and maternity leave yet when I don't even know what I am going to do yet...

MorgansMommy1 · January 2011

We had a missed m/c in October and everybody and there mother knew we were pregnant... It couldn't have been helped, we were just TO excited and after having a flawless pregnancy with DD, m/c was the last thing on my mind especially with no bleeding.

With this pregnancy, only my immediate family knows mom, dad, brother/sister. Oh and my MIL and SIL. 1 friend that is due in July and my bestie cousin.

We had our NT scan today, I plan on telling my grandparents this afternoon, and sending out a email with the link from the video I took today during the u/s to all the aunts and uncles and everybody else that should find out NOT on facebook.

olivia_eve · January 2011

I haven't told too many people. My parents, two friends and some of DH's coworkers know. I wouldn't have told the coworkers, but since I've been told to take it easy and can't do household chores or grocery shopping, he's had to pick up some of my slack and doesn't want the people that work for him to wonder what's going on. At this point, even my DD doesn't know!

We will be waiting to tell anyone else until after our NT scan results, and I don't even know how comfortable I will be then. But I have no idea if there even is a point at which I would feel comfortable telling people, so I might just have to bite the bullet and do it.

melissa721 · January 2011

Very few people know. My family is one of the last that will find out because my mom can't keep a secret. MH's family will know on Sunday. Only my MIL, sister and a couple friends know.

Our 2nd appt is tonight so if everything looks good we will move forward with our plan to tell everyone.

alubins · January 2011

We had a m/c back in September and had to deal with untelling family & some friends. This time around, we're being cautious as well and waiting until after the NT scan & appt. with the Dr. next Friday. After that, we're not holding back.

atack · January 2011

I still haven't told everyone at my work. I work in a high school with like 120 others, so really the one's I cared to know, including my administration, know and the others, will find out when it spreads once I tell the girls on my lacrosse team.

February 16th will be when I fill in my team because we have our 13 week appointment on the 15th in the afternoon. )

[Deleted User] · January 2011

SarahRuthG:

Cara1979:
We also havent made it widespread info yet. I'm getting more comfortable with the idea but I'm conflicted because of all the bleeding and being on bed rest now. It is not and hasnt been happy news. I dont really know how to tell anyone- "I'm pregnant but at risk of miscarrying at anytime" So its strange to say. We have told my parents and a couple of my close friends but not hubbys parents or my grandparents. We do plan to tell his parents soon by phone. I'll let him do most of the talking so I dont cry. grrrrrrr!

I'm pulling for you!!!

We haven't told anyone but a few friends - I think 5 people total know. If all goes well at the NT scan feb 8th we will tell the parents and then announce to everyone else after my next u/s the end of Feb.

Thank you!!! Smile

Jamers822 · January 2011

Us to! We have only told our immediate families and a couple of close friends. After our loss in September I just haven't been ready to make the big announcement. Plus since we aren't having an NT scan our last u/s was at 10 weeks. And even though I have a home doppler and we have heard the heartbeat at home, I am still not ready to make the big announcement.

We have our next doctor's appointment at 15 weeks, and after that we will let the world know. Being pregnant after a loss is so hard, because I want everyone to know but I am just not ready yet. I just can't wait until 2nd Tri next week.

LJR 84 · January 2011

We're waiting to tell everyone...but for no particular reason. Work will know as soon as I suck it up and tell them. I only plan on telling my boss- she can tell whoever she wants. I don't plan on announcing it as I haven't been here very long and don't know many people very well. Extended family will know around 20 weeks! They would know sooner, but my mom's going on vacation with most of them in early March and I think she just wants to make a big announcement. Wink

I'd rather her do it than me...I hate that kind of stuff!

krissywags · January 2011

I am bursting at the seams to tell. our immediate family and a few friends know our news. I haven't experienced m/c myself but have been through it with two of my good friends. one of them knows but the other doesn't, I'm nervous to tell her as they are still having trouble... any thoughts?

babybchbum · January 2011

People are slowly finding out as my parents and IL's tell I haven't made an official announcement by any means to anyone but family.

Well my boss knows but not the whole office.

jess!ca · January 2011

We told our parents and siblings on Christmas, since we found out on Xmas Eve and it was just a perfect time to tell them. But we swore them to secrecy and were serious about no facebook posts etc. They have done great. The only other people that know so far are the nesties (like these boards and also the girls from my local that we know IRL) and my office manager, who has ESP and you can never keep a secret from. I plan on telling my boss when he is back in town the week after next (around Feb 8th) and then we will tell our friends etc. and "come out" entirely. I'm pretty darn excited to do that!

AmberZ2be · January 2011

I can relate. We are also waiting to tell until after the NT scan. However, we did tell my parents and my bff, but they are the only ones who know about our IF treatments and losses.

missjilly1025 · January 2011

I as well had a miscarriage before this pregnancy - next week I'm meeting with my midwife and provided everything is okay with the doppler than I'll let the cat out of the bag.

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