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Annoyed with BFF - am I petty?

Kristin&FrankKristin&Frank
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Ok, so we've been best friends since high school.  Since adulthood we make a point of seeing each other about twice a year.  I consider her my best friend because... I have no friends!!! Other than y'all here, I've got no real girlfriends.  I mean, I have a wonderful supportive family etc, but if I need to vent to someone on the phone - I really have nobody to call.  AND, I promised myself I would never vent online because once something is on the internet - it's there forever, and nobody should have negative stuff about them out there...  That's just my personal rule.

ANYWAY...  This girl left for her first family Disney trip the day before my surgery.  She's been back for 5 days.  She never called, emailed, facebook'ed or ANYTHING to ask about my surgery.  I mean, come on.  They pulled a tumor the size of a small lemon out of my neck.  She should hear that!

So, am I petty?  I'm working on establishing myself here in FL so I'll find some girlfriends.  Workin' it ladies.

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  • oct11bride03oct11bride03
    I'd be upset if my best friend knew I was having major surgery for something that could be cancerous and didn't so much as send you a text message about it. I'm sorry!
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  • desabeandesabean member

    I would definitely be annoyed by that.

    So are you going to live in FL year round now?  I thought at one point you were going to move your "summer" residence to Philly-- did I miss something??

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  • browneyedgrl4282browneyedgrl4282 member
    It takes 5 minutes to pick up the phone and check in on you, I totally get why you are upset. SHe could have at least text messaged you while in disney saying she was thinking about you!
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  • Kristin&FrankKristin&Frank

    desabean - we go 'round & 'round about summers.  School months we'll definitely be in FL.  My family has a summer cottage in NE-ish PA.  I'd love to be an easy drive to them but not LIVE WITH THEM.  Phili would be a great solution.

    Right now we need to figure out where we want to live HERE (FL).  Summers will be decided later I'm sure.

    Wow, you've got a good memory!

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  • armywife76armywife76 member

    imagebrowneyedgrl4282:
    It takes 5 minutes to pick up the phone and check in on you, I totally get why you are upset. SHe could have at least text messaged you while in disney saying she was thinking about you!

    This. Even if she forgot about it and had to do a belated call, at least she would have acknowledged it. Sorry, hon. If you lived closer, we could have some fun playdates with the kiddos :)

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  • TheSkimmyTheSkimmy member
    Boo on her- we <3 you!!!
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  • shipoopiisformeshipoopiisforme
    you are not being petty at all. i would be really hurt if my friend didn't ask the results of my surgery.
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  • MewMewMewMew
    I would be a bit upset too.
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  • DavezWifeDavezWife member

    I get that, and understand.  My two closest friends in the whole world (we've been friends since we were 13, but I admit, we're slowly drifting apart...) didn't know I was pregnant with the twins until xmas, and still don't I am no longer. I just can't bring myself to call them, and I'm pissed I've gotten no check-up calls since then.

    ;-(

     

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  • Waiting4baby08Waiting4baby08
    I would be upset.  I think that is a big deal. 
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  • FaithRocksFaithRocks member

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    Boo on her- we <3 you!!!

    ditto this!!!!!

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  • kristinamh6kristinamh6
    To answer your question, no you are not petty. Your surgery was a big deal, and she should have reached out to you in some fashion as soon as she possibly could. I would be hurt and dissapointed too. If you want to meet some friends, or other moms try meetup.com. I found a playgroup out here that I love. I have met some fantastic ladies and they are so helpful to the rest of the group (babysitting, rides to the airport, bringing meals etc). I got lucky with the first group I found, but if you have to try a few before you find a good fit that's ok too. Good luck, and I'm sorry about your friend.
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  • roaringrockroaringrock

    I went through something similar this summer. I had two tumors (and A LOT of breast tissue) removed from my right boob. I never heard from one of my good friends. yes, I was pissed.

    BUT, over time, I stepped back for a moment and realized that she had a lot going on in her life too (granted it wasn't surgical.) everyone I know is struggling with something these days and no doubt I have let someone down without realizing.

    if you're still really angry, say something to her. if she's a good friend she'll "get it" and then you guys can move on.

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