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wish me luck just in case (gonna see pg SIL today)

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I am requesting positive thoughts for extra measure tonight.  Since I am in town, I am going to dinner with MIL, FIL, BIL and pregnant SIL who is due in about 5 weeks.  This will be the first time I have seen any of them in person since they found out that DH and I miscarried. 

Though this surprised me greatly, I have not shed a tear over seeing other pregnant women around me and so there is no reason to get upset today when I see them.  I really am happy for SIL and BIL, it's their first just like this pregnancy was our first, and I am gonna be that little girl's only aunt for now.  It's just that I am starting to feel a little queezy in my stomach over seeing them and feel like I might break down since I have only had comorting through phone calls.  I don't want my sorrow to overshadow their joy, especially so close to their due date.

I am going straight from work to see MIL so we will be by ourselves for a little bit before we all go to dinner, and now I am beginning to think that I am not going to be able to hold it together when I see her, but I really really want to.  I do not want to cry in front of her now, I mean, it's ridiculous.  I have had a few conversations with her on the phone and didn't cry after the first few times, and have texted her all month.  It would be so crazy for me to break down now just because I am seeing her in person.  I do not want to cry in front of any of them, especially SIL because I don't want to make her feel awkward.  I feel like a wound is about to open up that has been healing quite well and rather quickly...ugh, now I've got tears running down my cheeks at work, great.  I haven't cried in at least a week!  Why today!?

Sorry for the rant, I just had to get it out.

ETA:  After I posted this I saw just how long it was, and I am really really sorry.  Congrats to you if you survived reading my drama!

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Re: wish me luck just in case (gonna see pg SIL today)

  • tmhdmhtmhdmh
    GL! Wink
    Married 5/15/10. Me (29). DH (33). BFP#1 7/25/10 - Missed m/c 8wks - D&E 8/25/10 BFP#2 12/25/10 - Missed m/c 7wks - D&E 1/20/11 (second loss due to abnormal chromosome 7) Genetics testings- Normal. RPL panel results- Normal. Elevated FSH (14). DH b/w normal. SA- Normal. HSG- Left tube possibly blocked. Minor septum removed. My Ovulation Chart ~~ Hope is the companion of power, and mother of success. For who so strongly hopes has within him the gift of miracles ~~ image
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  • MandaS08MandaS08 member
    I'm sorry-its hard! I know I was fine, until I had to talk about the loss-then I just lost it.  If you're sad its ok-they will understand.

    TTC since 5/2010
    DX with Diminished Ovarian Reserve - AMH of 1.1 - 7/2011; AMH of .42 8/2012    BFP 9/1/10-M/C confirmed 9/8/10-Methotrexate 10/6/10
    IUI #1 (w/clomid)-9/5/11-BFN ; IUI #2 (w/clomid)-10/5/11 - BFP - 11/1/12-No sac seen; 11/2/11 and 11/9/11-Methotrexate 
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    IVF 2.0- ER 10/17; ET 10/20-One 12 cell, one 10 cell and one 8 cell embryo transfered
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  • brennbrenn

    Sending hugs and good luck your way!  Hopefully because there are other people there it will be easier.

    I had dinner with a few friends last night to start talking about planning a baby shower for a good friend (my husband can't believe I offered to take this on but she has been one of the most supportive friends throughout both of my losses.  I just don't want to miss out on this exciting time for her because of the bad place I've been put in).  She's almost 5 months and showing and I was really worried that the few hours would be so hard but becuase there were 3 of us it didn't seem as hard.  I think it would have been different if I had dinner with my pregnant friend only and talked about her baby shower!

    Hoping it's an okay experience for you too!

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    November 2010 - Clomid + IUI - BFP #2
    12.17.10 - d&c at 8W
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  • MuffinhbMuffinhb member
    sending positive vibes for you! and a (((HUGE HUG)))

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  • Fallon621Fallon621
    GL to you!!  You will do just fine! (((HUGS)))
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  • JulsWJulsW
    (((HUGS))) and good luck to you.
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  • jertiejertie member
    ((HUGS))  I think that when you're stressed about your reaction to something, it does not help you emotionally.  It just heightens your emotions, then makes your focus on them so much more intense.  I often think ahead and try to figure out what the worst case scenario might be.  Then I think about my reaction it.  Often times, the reaction is crying (which is awful for me - I hate crying!).  You actually may find that it's cathartic (sp?).  And, as I've discovered - even if it does happen - you will be surrounded by people who love you and want to comfort you.  I hope that tonight goes really well!  GL!

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  • myaddiwaddi06myaddiwaddi06 member
    Good luck tonight. And seriously don't feel bad if you cry. It will be okay and she should understand. Big Hugs I know it isn't easy even if you are super happy for them. Let us know how it goes!
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  • OatoaOatoa member
    Good luck.  Let us know how it goes.

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  • petergene14petergene14
    I'm sorry that this is so hard on you, but I've been there myself. My brother called me a couple weeks ago and told me that they are expecting their first and while I was really excited for them, I broke down in tears after I got off the phone with him. I think seeing and hearing others close to us who are pregnant can sting sometimes and just reminds us of what we have been working so hard on. I hope this evening goes well and you will be in my thoughts. Good Luck 
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  • TapatioTapatio
    Good luck tonight!
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    5/22/12...2nd Betas- 207, P4 6.1 (MC confirmed)
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  • KristipieKristipie member
    I hope it went well tonight and that the anticipation was worse than the actual meeting with them.  Whether you cried or not, I hope that they were supportive to you.
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