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Pregnant after a Loss
So sad.
I found out yesterday afternoon that my cousin and his wife lost their baby at 38 weeks. My heart breaks for them. She fought so hard to get pregnant, struggled with diabeties complications the entire time, and now this. I just wish I could ease their pain somehow. It's all so unfair.
Plus, today's my anatomy scan. Everybody in my family kept telling me that they need me to hear good news and that our family can't have anymore tragedy right now. Of course I want to hear good news, but now I feel like there's added pressure. This is all just too sad....
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Re: So sad.
O how heartbreaking. I'm so sorry for your cousin and his wife. I really cannot imagine that kind of pain.
Try not to add any more pressure today than I'm sure you already feel. Sending you lots of good vibes for a great scan!
That's awful for your cousin and his wife. My heart goes out to them.
Try to put your family's comments out of your mind and enjoy seeing your LO. Let us know how the scan goes.
That is so devastating. I'm so sorry for your family's loss and I can't even imagine what they are feeling right now.
I know you probably feel a pressure to have good news from today but please don't worry yourself based on that. When I was having my first ultrasound with this pregnancy to see if there was a heartbeat, my aunt had just committed suicide two days before and my mom made the same comment of "We need good news right now" and it was a horrible stressful feeling to have. Big hugs for you.
BFP # 1 - 12/19/09 EDD 08/27/10 - D&C 1/26/10 @ 9w5d
BFP # 2 - 06/05/10 EDD 02/17/11, DS1 born on 2/14/11
BFP # 3 - 04/10/13 EDD 12/21/13 - D&C 05/15/13 @ 8w4d
BFP # 4 - 07/27/13 EDD 04/08/14 - CP 07/29/13
BFP # 5 - 09/14/13 EDD 05/28/14, DS2 born on 5/22/14
How tragic
I am so sorry. I will be praying for your family and your scan today!
Good Luck!
I am so sorry to hear that ((((hugs))))
Lots of thoughts and prayers for your family.
And good vibes for your scan today!
Oh man that sucks! I am so sorry to hear that!!!
T&P with you today!
The aim of life is to live, and to live means to be aware; joyously, drunkenly, serenely, divinely aware. -Henry Miller
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The last I heard they're not quite sure yet, but considering the size of the baby they are thinking it died of complications of macrosomnia. My cousin's wife is feeling so guilty right now because she skipped her last appointment because it was during our last snow storm. She is definitely not to blame. I hate this for them right now.
ETA: Thank you so much everybody for all the thoughts and prayers. It really means a lot right now.
BFP #1 - m/c on 12.22.09 @ 8w3d
BFP #2 - d&c on 07.22.10 @11w1d
BFP #3 - DS born on 06.22.11 @41w3d!
BFP #4 - Due 04.24.13
that is terribly sad... lots of T&P to your cousin and family...
It's not really fair to put that type of pressure on you... just know things will be ok... and take it one min at a time!
That is awful. There is no way it's her fault. And I edited my original post b/c I felt like I sounded insensitive - I wasn't asking to sound rude and I felt like it sounded that way so I'm very sorry about that. I just hurt for them and I hate it that she is carrying around guilt right now...there is never a way to know if these types of things are going to happen.
BFP # 1 - 12/19/09 EDD 08/27/10 - D&C 1/26/10 @ 9w5d
BFP # 2 - 06/05/10 EDD 02/17/11, DS1 born on 2/14/11
BFP # 3 - 04/10/13 EDD 12/21/13 - D&C 05/15/13 @ 8w4d
BFP # 4 - 07/27/13 EDD 04/08/14 - CP 07/29/13
BFP # 5 - 09/14/13 EDD 05/28/14, DS2 born on 5/22/14
BFP #1 - 04/09/10 -- m/c - 07/02/10 @ 20weeks and 3 days. D&C 07/02/2010 - EDD 11/16/10
BFP #2 12/17/10 please stick turtle. EDD 8/29/11 - Emergency C-Section 7-2-11. Andrew's journey
Congratulations to my TTCAL buddy Carolee on her BFP! Stick, baby!
Congratulations to elbandas09, cherylanddoug, tctibbe(MsPegees) and alliejoe for their take home babies!
That is so sad. My heart breaks for them. We'll be thinking of you today. ((hugs))
BFP#1 1.28.10; HB 6w5d 2.18.10; No HB 3.8.10; Natural m/c 3.9.10 at 9w3d
BFP#2 - 7.22.10 DD born 3.16.11
BFP#3 - 8.11.11 DS born 3.27.12
No, no. I know you would not mean anything like that. No apologies necessary.
BFP #1 - m/c on 12.22.09 @ 8w3d
BFP #2 - d&c on 07.22.10 @11w1d
BFP #3 - DS born on 06.22.11 @41w3d!
BFP #4 - Due 04.24.13
What a horrible situation.
Sending T&Ps your way for the scan.
That's so tragic. I'm so sorry for your family.
I hope all goes well at your anatomy scan today and you get good news to pass along. You'll be in my thoughts.
BFP 1: 3/19/10 Loss: 7/9/10
BFP 2: 12/28/10
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I'm so sorry about your cousin. My cousin lost her baby at 41 weeks last summer and I felt much the same as you.
I know your anatomy scan is going to go great. Just focus on your LO right now.
BFP #3 via cancelled IUI ~ C (2lb 3oz; HELLP) 5/16/11
BFP #4 via the natural (free!) way ~ E (8lb 11oz) 9/13/12
That is so heartbreaking.
That is such sad awful news...your cousin and wife are in my prayers - just horrible.
Sending you lots of hugs and prayers that all goes perfectly w/your anatomy scan! (And my suggestion is not to take on the "pressure" from the family - you can only do what you can do and you don't need that pressure. It's not a fair thing to put that on you IMHO). Take a deep breath and think positive thoughts!
BFP 12/18/2009. HB 1/4/2010. NO HB 1/18/2010. D&C 1/19/2010
April 2011 IUI #1 BFN. High FSH and other issues.
May 2011 Chose to build our family through adoption
September 2011 Actively waiting for a match
11/26/11 Surprise BFP * DD born 7/23/12
That is so heart breaking. I am so sorry for your cousin and his wife. I am sending them comforting prayers to get them thru this hard time.
I am so sorry.
How absolutely heartbreaking, I am so, so sorry. I do hope that your anatomy scan goes well though.
bfp 01/23/10 m/c 12w1d 03/14/10 EDD 09/24/10
bfp 07/20/10 m/c 5w1d 07/25/10
bfp 11/19/10 Born 07/24/11 via C/S
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-m/c at 11w2d due to partial molar 2008 -m/c #2 2009
Beautiful daughter born February 2011
**Ultimate TTCALer 2009**
I am so sorry to hear this. Maybe you could tell your cousin about TB if you haven't already? I know she would find lots of love and support here.
T&P to your family & to you during your anatomy scan today. Wishing you the best news you've ever gotten. (((HUGS)))
I'm so sorry to hear about your cousin. That is so heartbreaking. I will keep them in my T&P's.
I hope your anatamy scan went well.